hilly534 Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 so this guy I've been seeing for over 2 years off and on kinda fwb situation , birthday is friday.. anyway he's been super distant lately after a period of time where he wanted to see and texting me all the time. its pretty ****ty of him and I'm sick of the games and this disappearing act.. i feel like its rude not to tell him happy birthday at least over text cause id want him to do the same for me, but on the other hand he's been sending me super mixed signals lately and i didnt want to be the first to initiate contact
Lani Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Does he usually remember your birthday? If not, no happy birthday. If yes, I still go with no happy birthday cause he sounds like a bit of an ass.
Author hilly534 Posted June 5, 2014 Author Posted June 5, 2014 his birthday is a week before mine.. ugh lol
Lani Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 his birthday is a week before mine.. ugh lol But you've been on and off for two years.. birthdays don't happen biannually from what I've been told. Did he remember your birthday last year?
starrynightz45 Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 DON'T DO IT! You're validating his behavior. It might not be a huge deal to send a happy birthday text - but it shows him that regardless of how he treats you, you're still thinking of him, remembering him, and expending at least some kind of energy on him. Why? He either is confused about what he wants, and continues to torture you with his confusion OR he isn't interested in you and is stringing you along simply because you continue to tolerate the behavior. I know it's easier said than done, but you need to not text him. He's either not going to care or notice at all, OR - he will notice, and it will bother him. It might send him the hint of "hey, if I don't get my act together, she's eventually going to be gone." That is, assuming he cares about losing you. Either way, you sending the text only shows him that you're willing to tolerate his ****ty behavior, and that you still care. DON"T do it. It's a huge ego boost for him, and NADA for you.
Haydn Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 My ex's bd today. I wish her all the happiness in the world and that she drives safetly today. But i would never wish her. Plus the bankruptcy amount of money i spent.. Don't do it. 1
PegNosePete Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 You said he's an FWB. Do you mean FRIEND with benefits, or friend with BENEFITS? As in which do you place most value on, the friendship or the benefits? If the friendship then no happy birthday, he doesn't seem to value your friendship much. If the benefits are more important to you then send him the happy birthday and ask when he wants his "present".
Emilia Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Most people don't care about birthday texts all that much OP and it sounds like an excuse to talk to him anyway. I'm sure you can find someone better.
gaius Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 I'm sure whatever girl he's ignoring you in order to pay attention to has the happy birthday thing covered already.
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