RlyConfused Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Was dumped 4 months ago by ex gf. I found new friends since then and i was socialy active. 2 months ago (after month of nc) i get fb message from her at midnight saying that she is very happy for me that i found new friends and stuff like that. I didn't respond. Few weeks ago she disliked all my liked photos by her on fb and a week ago she removed all the photos of us on fb (actualy dunno why she didn't remove them earlier) And now she blocked my notifications and my online status (so she can't see me when im online, but she didn't block me from fb) I don't get it why she is doing all these things now? i thought she was over me but now she looks mad, and she always have mad face when she sees me at college (i kinda became popular in college after she left me, maybe she jelly?). I didn't do anything bad to her by that time. Does she still have feelings? cuz i do (since im a dumpee)...
d0nnivain Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 What she's feeling or why she's doing these things now doesn't matter. You two are over. You have new friends. She may be annoyed that you got over her (or at least appeared to). Don't give her the satisfaction of even noticing that she changed anything. Living well is the best revenge. 2
Amy74 Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 I have to agree with the above. As a female dumper--you as the male are suppose to be devastated beyond repair. The "I'm happy for you contact," was an opportunity for you to tell her that you were only truly happy when you were with her. You failed to do that so now she's pissed. It's okay--go be happy. 1
Author RlyConfused Posted June 4, 2014 Author Posted June 4, 2014 I have to agree with the above. As a female dumper--you as the male are suppose to be devastated beyond repair. The "I'm happy for you contact," was an opportunity for you to tell her that you were only truly happy when you were with her. You failed to do that so now she's pissed. It's okay--go be happy. She was always mad at me after break up, i dont think she was realy happy for me i think it was a breadcrumb to see if im still hooked, thats why i didn't respond
Elle1975 Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Well, since it's over, why not take her off your social media?
Author RlyConfused Posted June 4, 2014 Author Posted June 4, 2014 Well, since it's over, why not take her off your social media? i blocked notifications from her and i never visit her fb profile, what i see is only her small profile pic in the corner when shes online, we still have same friends and im not so butthurt anymore so i see no point of removing her from social media
Elle1975 Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 mmh dono.. you can keep the friends, but I'd remove her. Up to you. Keeping her on is creating some kind of drama though. 1
Ordinaryday Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 because you haven't given her the reaction and ego-boost she wanted ("My life is worthless without you, PLEASE take me back!") and she is pissed off so she is doing this to try and get a reaction from you. don't give her one.
Author RlyConfused Posted June 5, 2014 Author Posted June 5, 2014 Doing all this just to get a reaction from me...i can understand when a dumpee acts like that but why dumper is doing this. I mean that was her choice to leave me, she knows she broke my heart and she gets pissed of when she sees me happy, she should be happy that im out of her life.Ahh people are the worst.
Chi townD Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 A lot of times, dumpers can't handle dumpee's moving on so quickly. Kind of a blow to their ego. They're under the impression that they dumped you, therefore. you need to be a big pile of blubbering goo over the loss of them. Problem for her is you're not and that bothers her. She feels like if your not pining over her, then she really didn't mean anything to you. So, she gets mad. Ignore it, it's her problem; not yours. Continue NC and continue to live your life.
Amy74 Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Again, female dumper speaking... Even though we don't want you anymore you are still suppose to want us! You should never be happy again...your life should be meaningless without us. You should stay in your bed all day and cry because you can't have us. Yes, it's crappy--move on and go be happy. Happiness is it's own revenge.
d0nnivain Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 She was always mad at me after break up, i dont think she was realy happy for me i think it was a breadcrumb to see if im still hooked, thats why i didn't respond Exactly! Good for you that you didn't respond. You are going to be just fine.
Elle1975 Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Again, female dumper speaking... Even though we don't want you anymore you are still suppose to want us! You should never be happy again...your life should be meaningless without us. You should stay in your bed all day and cry because you can't have us. Yes, it's crappy--move on and go be happy. Happiness is it's own revenge. Let's step away from the stereotypes.. It really isn't gender based.
Amy74 Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Sorry...I wasn't trying to imply that all women are like this...certainly that's far from the truth. Nor is any one person like this all the time. I was speaking from an experience I had as a woman who dumped a man and then was mad when he moved on. Just trying to provide OP insight on why this woman might be upset at this point. Sorry again if I offended anyone. : )
FredJones80 Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Sorry...I wasn't trying to imply that all women are like this...certainly that's far from the truth. Nor is any one person like this all the time. I was speaking from an experience I had as a woman who dumped a man and then was mad when he moved on. Just trying to provide OP insight on why this woman might be upset at this point. Sorry again if I offended anyone. : ) Are you like 12 or something.
deathandtaxes Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 It doesn't really matter, OP. You're doing fine ignoring her. Just do yourself a favor and BLOCK her. That's the appropriate message to send. I don't know why you wouldn't have after she broke your heart.
Author RlyConfused Posted June 5, 2014 Author Posted June 5, 2014 It doesn't really matter, OP. You're doing fine ignoring her. Just do yourself a favor and BLOCK her. That's the appropriate message to send. I don't know why you wouldn't have after she broke your heart. Because i feel guilty, i take responsibility for break up, and i wanted her back for a long time.
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