candy 87 Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Theres this guy I've worked with for the last year or so, he's in his very early twenties. At the beginning, actually for like six months straight i'd say we hardly spoke because we didnt work in the same department, but he would always stare at me for lengthy periods of time lol whilst walking past and everytime I would go somewhere to talk to my friend or something he would be watching and sometimes it seemed like he'd eavesdrop. There were also incidents where he'd talk really loudly around me and show off with the things he would say to other people and then id notice him looking back at me and this colleague of mine who i used to work with in the past noticed it and she said he was probably trying to impress me or something, but i just shrugged it off lol. Anyway after months and months when we actually started to proper work in the same area/department he started to talk to me.but mostly in an immature way, i.e making funny jokes and sarcastic comments, and then he would like tease me all the time and playfully block my path when im trying to get somewhere and throw things at me lol. When he won't be doing that I still always notice him staring at me randomly, sometimes i'll be doing something and I can literally feel his eyes on me watching me and when i look up he's smiling..like he finds me amusing. About a month ago...he was being his usual self i.e teasing me in a jokey way and I must have said to someone "hes such a weirdo" lol..and then this other colleague of mine she said I think he's got a soft spot for you ..and she goes to him "why don't you just quit wasting time and just ask her out".and literally there were about six or seven other people around. I assumed he would just ignore the comment but instead he came up to me and he was like ok so will you go out with me..and i just walked away, I had no idea what to say or how to react lol..but at the same time I didn't know if he was just going along with what she said about him having a soft spot and just going along with the joke. Following that he kept calling my name and saying where are you I want to speak to you..why did you disappear..and then he came up to me when no one was around and he said I asked you out why did you reject me for? ..i was literally silent lol. After that every time he saw me he would keep asking me I asked u out why you ignoring me for etc etc... But then everything he says I assume is just him being him and being a joker, so i just dont take him seriously and never know what to say.. After a while it just changed from that to actually naming a restaurant..and saying will u go with me here..it will be my treat, and i usually either just walk away or change the subject or sont say anything . And hes started saying all the things that a guy would say to a girl he's interested in or likes but I dont know again if he's just still playing along or not since my colleague said he's got a "soft spot" for me. He keeps continuing to watch me while i interact with other people and then he'll come up to me and say so why did u really reject me is it because you've got other options or you think youre too good for me ... and then he'll just always always flirt and say outrageous things like what we going to name our kid and i'm going to have to pull in more hours to provide for you... About a day ago or so he came up to me But with a friend and said exactly the same i.e when you going to go to this restaurant with me then..and his friend was making jokes...and he said to me come on why dont you ever answer me straight...and lets go and then he's like wear a nice dress and we'll go today after work..but obviously it wasnt possible to just go like that..but again i didnt kno if he's serious A good friend of mine who actually really has fancied him from day one ..lol..is just saying that the guy is not being serious because she thinks im an easy target and that apparently im slow at getting jokes lol.. Shes never spoken to him...but she's always had this big crush..just like she thinks hes really hot and talks about him a lot..But I dont tell her everything that the guy says to me just incase she gets upset. I actually mentioned her to him ..when he asked me for the millionth time why dont you put on a dress and come out with me..I said why dont you take ___ out (my friend) and he saidd who? so i explained who she was and he then said ok but im asking you..and then i mentioned her a second time u can go out with her..and hes just like only if you pay for it then i'll go out with her..whereas with me he actually said he would pay for me. Anyway I have no idea to this day..lol..whether he is just bored and simply occupying himself by flirting with me and teasing me all the time or whether he genuinely is interested and would go out with me.
irresolute Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 He's just joking around. He must know you're easy.
Author candy 87 Posted June 4, 2014 Author Posted June 4, 2014 He's just joking around. He must know you're easy. no actually im the very opposite of easy :mad: im almost impossible to get..yet people do try. so dont assume
Author candy 87 Posted June 4, 2014 Author Posted June 4, 2014 He's just joking around. He must know you're easy. he knows im a reserved person..and i barely ever start a conversation with him...hes the one doing all the talking and the teasing and the kidding
irresolute Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 What do you want to hear? If you already know your answer, why are you asking here for help? I don't think the guy is serious. If he were, he would have asked you out. Did he? No? There's your answer. If he's really into you, he won't be disrespectful or put you in uncomfortable situations. You have another answer here. Think what you want.
starrynightz45 Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 I don't get it. Why don't you just ASK him if he's serious? How can you just continue to ignore him every time he asks? Such an awkward, weird situation. All you have to do is ask and it's done.
DArtagnan2 Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 (edited) do you like him? Would you go with him if he was serious? If so, then say, OK and go. or you can say, are you being serious? and get his reaction. and if you like him, go. If not, tell him, "thanks for continuing to ask but Im not interested in going." I get the scenario you are writing about, but he continues to ask, and to me, it sounds like he is asking you out. His intentions, (whether he is just trying to hook up or whatnot), I don't know. Edited June 5, 2014 by DArtagnan2
Author candy 87 Posted June 5, 2014 Author Posted June 5, 2014 I don't get it. Why don't you just ASK him if he's serious? How can you just continue to ignore him every time he asks? Such an awkward, weird situation. All you have to do is ask and it's done. but i dont want him to think im interested by asking if hes serious...and if hes not serious ill look like a fool lol it is a weird awkward situation and it doesn't help when my own friend who coincidentally has the hugest crush on him keeps saying that he's taking the mickey out of me because apparently im an easy target..so she doesnt think he means it..and tht he would not really go anywhere with me and his tone continues to be very lighthearted..yet what he says sounds serious..hard to explain like will u go out with me my treat..but then at the same time someitmes his friend (very immature friend might i add) will be in the background cracking jokes..
Author candy 87 Posted June 5, 2014 Author Posted June 5, 2014 do you like him? Would you go with him if he was serious? If so, then say, OK and go. or you can say, are you being serious? and get his reaction. and if you like him, go. If not, tell him, "thanks for continuing to ask but Im not interested in going." I get the scenario you are writing about, but he continues to ask, and to me, it sounds like he is asking you out. His intentions, (whether he is just trying to hook up or whatnot), I don't know. i said are you for real..and he said ye..but i just cnt seem to take him seriously because of the way he talks to me..like he'll be saying funny things to me all the time..and just kiddin around so when it comes to something like asking me out i also assume hes not being real and tht hes jst flirting.. hes asked me for the last couple of weeks though..i think i mostly thought he was playing along with what our coworker said about him hving a soft spot for me in her opinion and then said to him why doesnt he just ask me out and get it over and done with..and then he was like yes ok will u go out with me..and he cme up to me in front of everyone..and when i walked away he playfully was lik calling my name..in a jokey creepy stalker way lol..so i continued to not think he was serious but then it went from why did u reject me when i asked u out to him actually coming up with a restaurant name..and saying lets go there..and hes been going with tht for the last two weeks or so..
Author candy 87 Posted June 5, 2014 Author Posted June 5, 2014 do you like him? Would you go with him if he was serious? If so, then say, OK and go. or you can say, are you being serious? and get his reaction. and if you like him, go. If not, tell him, "thanks for continuing to ask but Im not interested in going." I get the scenario you are writing about, but he continues to ask, and to me, it sounds like he is asking you out. His intentions, (whether he is just trying to hook up or whatnot), I don't know. he goes to me continuously why i rejected him..n then his friend interjected and said she rejected you because of ____ and i was like yes thtts the reason why..and hes like no thts not your reason thts his reason...whats your reason... but ye since then someitmes he wont even come up to me n joke about other stuff like he nrmally does it will just be so why wont you come out here with me.and then hes like wear a dress..
DArtagnan2 Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 (edited) i said are you for real..and he said ye..but i just cnt seem to take him seriously because of the way he talks to me..like he'll be saying funny things to me all the time..and just kiddin around so when it comes to something like asking me out i also assume hes not being real and tht hes jst flirting.. hes asked me for the last couple of weeks though..i think i mostly thought he was playing along with what our coworker said about him hving a soft spot for me in her opinion and then said to him why doesnt he just ask me out and get it over and done with..and then he was like yes ok will u go out with me..and he cme up to me in front of everyone..and when i walked away he playfully was lik calling my name..in a jokey creepy stalker way lol..so i continued to not think he was serious but then it went from why did u reject me when i asked u out to him actually coming up with a restaurant name..and saying lets go there..and hes been going with tht for the last two weeks or so.. Yes, I read all this in your Original post. It sounds like they are both a bit immature and to be honest, if it was me and two girls were acting like that, I would be annoyed probably by now. Most likely, if I did kinda crush on the girl, I most likely wouldn't be crushing as much as before. I do not know you that well, but I am guessing you are a bit more grounded and mature. Or maybe, I am wrong and this behavior is cute and attractive to you. Also, I think your friends views are a bit skewed based on her feelings and possibly how she wishes it was her he was doing this to. Her comment about you being an easy target, I am not sure if she means "easy" target as in being able to hookup if he got you on a date, or easy target for someone to pick on you. Either way, she seems a bit, being mean about it. Edited June 5, 2014 by DArtagnan2
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