cmp67 Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Last summer when I was home from college I decided to try online dating. I met a great guy that I clicked really well with. We went on many dates that would last for hours, had great, comfortable conversations, and eventually slept together too. Eventually the summer was over and we both had to go back to our respective colleges (which were in different states). We skyped once about a month later, but never did again. I didn't want the conversations to become forced or feel like a chore, since we still didn't know each other THAT well. Now we've both graduated. He's moving to my hometown and I'm moving across the country where I got a great job. I'm home for a little while and was hoping to be able to see him again before I moved, but it turns out that we won't be in the same city at the same time. I know I'm young and probably naive, but I have such a strong gut feeling that this guy could be really significant. I never feel this way about anyone, and I've gone out with my fair share of guys. I have very little vacation time from my job and I don't know if I'll be able to spend any of it at home where I could meet up with him again. So, my question is: after I move, would it be crazy to ask him to visit me for a weekend before he starts his new job? We don't talk much and he's not big on texting, but he was enthusiastic at the prospect of meeting up in my hometown again. I don't expect to start a long distance relationship, but I would really like to see him. I also worry that if we don't see each other this year, we'll never be able to meet up again since too much time will have passed and we didn't establish a strong enough foundation.
David87 Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 You can ask him, I don't see a problem doing that . But don't expect much, he might decline.
MalachiX Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 I don't see anything wrong with asking him but I'd try to manage your expectations. You were both practical last time around in knowing that this was a fling and not trying to get too attached. Asking for a few day visit is a great way to have some fun but it's an even shorter duration and, once again, you guys won't be in the same place afterwards. The logical side of me says that if a whole summer wasn't enough for you to decide to commit to a long distance relationship than a few days certainly won't be enough. I think the best you can hope for is another fun little fling which would seem very possible if he was already excited at seeing you when he came back to your home town. HOWEVER, the hopeless romantic in me says don't dismiss your emotions if he does visit you. Maybe there is something real there that's worth the challenge of being in different cities. The older I get, the more I realize that finding someone you click with is hard (but I still don't think LDRs work if they go longer than 1 year or so). So...don't expect much but leave just a tiny little bit of room in your heart for magic to happen. Jesus, that last sentence was sappy...
d0nnivain Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 If he can't or won't come visit, perhaps you can see him again next time you are home for the holidays.
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