me2me2 Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Dating divorced dad who tried to visit his daughter daily. That's great in my book. But he goes to the Ex's house while she's there... Daily. They also go out to dinner together at least once every 2 weeks or so. I mentioned something to my BF and he said he hates his ex. Just does it for his daughter. Okay.... So tonight (after knowing that I was feeling a little weird about constant ex contact) he went to dinner w ex.. Daughter and daugter's nanny. Apparently they were celebrating the nanny's bday. Am I the witch here.. Or is that a bit bizarre?
DArtagnan2 Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Does his ex know about you? How long you two been dating? With the minimal information, I wouldn't find it odd. I mean, since its his daughters nanny, he may have had / still has a good relationship with her. Not to mention, he is probably paying for the dinner.
MikeyBe Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Its definitely unusual, but only because most people cannot get along with their ex's. Even for the sake their children. I don't hear a problem here though unless they're having these dinners together alone. Sounds like your BF is trying to be a good father and trying to make the best of that situation. You wouldn't be trying to get in the way of that now would you? My parents can't even behave for 10 seconds without arguing; still. After they've been divorced for over a decade. Its comical at this point. But then again, I have an Aunt who still holds a close relationship with her first husband. He and his new family are pretty much considered part of ours. It wouldn't be strange at all for them to hang out or their new families. They do it all the time.
mariee Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 This is what you gotta accept when you decided to date a divorced guy with a kid. I understand your feelings but I get what your guy trying to do for his daughter too though. If they really have no feelings left, they simply just do dinner for their little girl. Most kids can easily be lost when their parents get divorced..so I think your man trying to give her the best childhood memory.. her both parents in the pics. If it's just dinner and they don't communicate a lot or when they do it's strictly about their kid, then I don't see a problem. I know how you feel but he's daughter is his priority and he just trying to be a good father, be there for her. Have you met his daughter? Or she's too young to accept her parents' split? Think about those.. If you not comfortable just tell him how you feel and have him understand you.. And try to understand him too. If you think he's communicating with his ex for unnecessary chitchat n flirt, that's a problem. But if they only in business for the daughter, then you should just accept it.
Gaeta Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 I read your history and your issues are very similar in details, and in time, as the poster mommame2. Here is a thread for you to read: https://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/478101-would-deal-breaker
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