Lovebite Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 Hey all! Thought I would post about this. It might not mean anything, but I just found it pretty odd he would ask me this. My guy friend and are are pretty tight. We never had a sexual relationship, but we are tight, good friends. He joked around in the past and he put on his Facebook that he was marrying me, back in December. Everyone knew it was a joke. Just the other day, he said to me in a serious tone "Hey Dana...do you see yourself having a kid or kids in 2 years?" I said "Hell no! Haha! I would be 23 years old!" He didn't say anything. He was silent. I just found it odd that he would say that when we weren't talking about kids or anything remotely near that subject. He does have a child though, She's almost 2 years old. But why would he ask me that? Why would he say that? Or is it nothing? What do you think? I want to hear some opinions...haha! Thanks.
d0nnivain Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 He might be testing the waters to determine if you would be open to a romantic relationship with you. Young men don't usually casually throw around the concepts of marriage or kids. If you like him back, make it obvious to him that you would like to change the status of your relationship. 2
slizl Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 AKA, "Do you think you can see yourself with me and my kid in a year or two?" Then you crushed his dreams 5
mariee Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 Like other people said, he was testing the water. If he hadn't made any move yet, he probably was afraid that you two are in the different stages.. He has a kid, he probably looking for someone who is ready to settle down and have kids with. and you told him pretty clear that you are not in that stage yet... He likes you. 3
Mrin Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Like other people said, he was testing the water. If he hadn't made any move yet, he probably was afraid that you two are in the different stages.. He has a kid, he probably looking for someone who is ready to settle down and have kids with. and you told him pretty clear that you are not in that stage yet... He likes you. This. He has a 2 year old so if he's going to have more kids with someone it will be probably soon so his child can have a family and not feel like an outlier with siblings she can't relate to 1
Author Lovebite Posted June 4, 2014 Author Posted June 4, 2014 He might be testing the waters to determine if you would be open to a romantic relationship with you. Young men don't usually casually throw around the concepts of marriage or kids. If you like him back, make it obvious to him that you would like to change the status of your relationship. You really think so? I was thinkin the same. Thanks!
Author Lovebite Posted June 4, 2014 Author Posted June 4, 2014 AKA, "Do you think you can see yourself with me and my kid in a year or two?" Then you crushed his dreams Awe...I hope not! I didn't mean it like that, it's just I am 21 years old. I really don't see myself with children in 2 years cause I have college and a career to go for. I can't be that young and have babies...I feel bad tho, cause I hope he doesn't think I am just being a bitch. Like other people said, he was testing the water. If he hadn't made any move yet, he probably was afraid that you two are in the different stages.. He has a kid, he probably looking for someone who is ready to settle down and have kids with. and you told him pretty clear that you are not in that stage yet... He likes you. Yeah I understand. I just feel bad tho. Thanks! This. He has a 2 year old so if he's going to have more kids with someone it will be probably soon so his child can have a family and not feel like an outlier with siblings she can't relate to Yeah I am thinking that too! I unfortunately am the wrong person to go to for that, lol. Cause I am 21 years old. I have alot to go through before I have children. I am open to a relationship deeper than what we have, but I am not open to having kids with him. Thanks tho.
d0nnivain Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Awe...I hope not! I didn't mean it like that, it's just I am 21 years old. I really don't see myself with children in 2 years cause I have college and a career to go for. I can't be that young and have babies...I feel bad tho, cause I hope he doesn't think I am just being a bitch. If you get involved with him, because he already has a child, the day you become his GF you will have adult responsibilities for a child. When he has custody, the child will be there. There may be times when you will be alone with the child. If you can't handle that from the very 1st minute do not date a single father.
Author Lovebite Posted June 4, 2014 Author Posted June 4, 2014 If you get involved with him, because he already has a child, the day you become his GF you will have adult responsibilities for a child. When he has custody, the child will be there. There may be times when you will be alone with the child. If you can't handle that from the very 1st minute do not date a single father. Yeah, completely understandable. I can do that though, I just don't want kids myself, but I don't mind kids at all. More than likely if I ever were to have children it would be step children, it wouldn't be me personally having a child, haha. Cause I am just not ready for that, and I need to get my career in order first before I even think about having a child myself. But you made some good valid points. Thanks!
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