guest572 Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Here are my opinions: No need to break off face to face. You are just in the early stage of dating. Definitely don't want her driving to you and having the journey home ahead of her. I think its ok to text since you both haven't been talking on the phone anyway. From what i read, your primary mode of communication has been texting with the weekly visit? Act quickly but I disagree with others about wording. Wording is VERY important. Words are so powerful so be careful.
guest572 Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Something like "hi , I have enjoyed getting to know you these past few weeks but I feel as though we are not suited to each other and I think its best to end things now as I dont wish to pursue a relationship with you."
veggirl Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Some of you would legit make a THREE HOUR round trip drive to "dump" someone you went on FOUR dates with? Really??? Lol come on. 4
mammasita Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Some of you would legit make a THREE HOUR round trip drive to "dump" someone you went on FOUR dates with? Really??? Lol come on. I agree, I don't even think a phone call is necessary in this case. They're not exclusive, 4 dates, overstepping her boundaries. A text is all she needs, probably all she deserves IMO.
Author Keenly Posted June 4, 2014 Author Posted June 4, 2014 Some of you would legit make a THREE HOUR round trip drive to "dump" someone you went on FOUR dates with? Really??? Lol come on. No, they wouldn't. 2
writergal Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 So, Keenly did you make the call and break it off yet? 2
Grumpybutfun Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 No need to do this face to face if you were just casually dating four times. Call or text and kindly let her know that you feel you just aren't compatible. Also, the distance for a relationship might be a bit much if you can't get together more than once a week, Idk, just putting it out there. My view is that if things aren't easy, it isn't meant to be as I'm pretty laid back about most things, intense about others. If you aren't looking forward to every moment with her and jumping through massive feels just at the thought of her, don't force the issue. Best to break it off ASAP, as you are correct, it is kinder than leading her on for the two weeks you are trying to make the trip to see her. Face to face would be expected if she had invested more time and energy into you and you had an intimate relationship. However, a text is fine for this situation. Just be kind and non confrontational, as she is who she is and compatibility is a crapshoot most of the time. Good luck, let us know the outcome, Grumps
Author Keenly Posted June 5, 2014 Author Posted June 5, 2014 So, Keenly did you make the call and break it off yet? Yes. A very brief call that was. 1
jbelle6 Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 Well, I personally feel Keenly was being quite nice with just the text. I'll tell you, if some man came to my home, kept saying cruel things to me, continually tried to reach inside my pants, and told me he wasn't sure if he wanted to be exclusive and wouldn't know for weeks...um, I'd blow the a-hole off altogether. People who keep demanding that he owes this woman a face to face, call, or even a text need to reverse the genders and rethink this. 1
SunnySide0418 Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 If she lived in the same city that I did, this would be the ideal. She lives far away, and I have previous commitments until about the 18th. If I drove.to see her, I'd have to lead her on for another 2 weeks by default. Should I really do that? Is that favor to her? Just send a text. Maybe it would be different if you guys slept together but you said you didn't. 1
bubbaganoosh Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 Looks like its my turn on the LS Merry-go-round. I've been seeing this girl about once a week for a month. Texting very frequently as well. We have meet up about 4 times. She came over last night and basically got three strikes all in one visit. She likes to joke around, but 90% of the time she takes it too far for jokes that aren't even funny. I'm ALL for humor, its what keeps my life going, but if the joke isn't funny and its just cruel, its stupid. I'm sitting there trying to have a person to person conversation about getting nailed in the face with a dodgeball several times over the weekend. She just insults my manhood a few tines.... okay.... She keeps pulling me on top of her when I clearly don't want to make out. Shep kept trying to tickle me when I'm trying to have a conversation with her . At first I was like " haha, okay stop " she didn't stop. " seriously, come on. " so she goes after my feet. I looked her dead in the eye and said " alright, look. I do NOT like having my feet touched, period. This isn't funny. Knock it off " . She kept blanking doing it. Blatant disrespect of my physical boundaries. I told her we weren't having sex or doing anything sexual until we are exclusive. She told me a few days ago that it would be " several more weeks " before she made the decision if she wanted to be in a relationship with me or not. We've already been talking for about 5 or 6, how much time exactly does this decision require? Anyway, she keeps putting her hands in my pants, and its making me kind of uncomfortable. She is also putting in my opinion way too much emphasis on meeting her friends and what her friends think of me. This part has been building on my mind for a while . Am I dating you or am I dating your friends? Anyway, I've decided not to see her anymore because I wasn't having fun around her anymore. She lives 1.5 hours away, so I can't make her drive here just to break it off, and I'm not going to drive there just to break it off. We don't talk on the phone. How should I phrase this message ? Make it a lot easier to text but if your going to break up with someone and their too far away for a eyeball to eyeball talk then at least use the phone for what is was attended for. Call her and tell her. It's the right way to do it and even though she struck out, she's still owed a phone call rather than a text. Yeah she sounds like a real pip but she's still owed the phone call.
Leigh 87 Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 It's pretty podd how she insists on "Several weeks" before she can "decide" whether or not she wants to be exclusive. Yet she tries to put her hands down your pants? When a guy tells that he wants something, as in your case, you wanted to be exclusive before doing anything sexual; I respect a man's decision. She certainly did not respect your decision to want to refrain from the sexual stuff until exclusive. .... she sounds llike a pain in the backside. Good thing you decided to end it! Just call? Who cares if you don't normally? Or text. "Hey, it was great getting to know you, but I don't want to take things further. I'm just not feeling it. You seem like a great girl though and I wish you luck in the future" Say in the textthat you just weren't feeling it... that any she will be less inclined to ask you questions as to WHY you are ending things.
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