DaveGrohl Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Well, I'll start off by saying English is not my native language but hopefully this will still be smooth enough. Sorry if this thread is in the wrong section, mods are welcome to move it if it is. We are both in our early twenties. Three years ago I started an education that ended last week. The first day of this education I noticed a girl. I immediately felt that I was going to fall for her and it didn't take long until I did. For the past three years I've been a dick to her and she's been a bitch to me, but in a civilized way. Why didn't I try to make a move earlier? I actually don't know. Probably wanted to avoid the awkwardness of being rejected and still see each other every day of school. This last week things started to happen. This Wednesday most of the class got together to get drunk. I got way too wasted and started screaming at the girl that i like. I told her we had to sort things out and from what I remember she was just as hostile towards me as I was to her. We walked away from the group and started talking about our problems, I felt as she had treated me like a wall the past three years and she felt that I was always mocking her. I don't remember too many details about this particular argument more than her feeling a bit threatened and asking me to take a step back. She also said that she believed that I thought she was cute and that this was the root to my behavior. To this I started laughing and asked her how she could be so self-righteous. However I also gave her multiple compliments. That's about all i remember from this, moving on. A couple of days goes by and we only exchange a couple of words in school during this time. The Saturday comes along which was the day of the graduation party. During the party I approach her and tell her that "I believe I owe you an apology". She asks why and I tell her my memory of what happened Wednesday evening. She tells me that there is nothing to apologize for and that she was glad we talked. (At this point I thought she knew how I felt about her) I then asked her for how long she's been suspecting that I'm interested in her, to which she replies "So you are actually interested in me?". She continues to say that she usually needs the person to say flat out that he's interested for her to get the point. Then she ask me how long I've felt this way, and I replied that "When I saw you the first time I knew I was going to fall for you, it was just a matter of time". I then borrow her phone without saying what I'm going to do with it, of course I used it to call my phone so that we would have each others numbers. I also asked her if she regretted lending me her phone knowing what I used it for. She said no and that it's probably good that we have each others numbers. She then told me she's been dating somebody for 2 months and she felt it was heading in a serious direction. After I left the club where we had our graduation party I sent her a text disclosing some secrets about me and saying that I feel life is ****. She replied and told me that it will get better and that she's glad we talked so that we could go our separate ways as friends. I haven't talked to her since the night between Saturday and Sunday. She told me she has cancelled her apartment and I guess she's going to move back home, which is about 4 hours away by car. Right now I'm in panic mode, my eyes start to water by just thinking about it and I don't want us to go our separate ways, I feel like me and her are a better match than her and him, if I didn't feel that way I would have let this go. What should I do? I have to see her again, I don't want this to be the end of something, I want it to be the beginning! With that said I also don't want her to feel like I'm bothering her...
d0nnivain Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 She is dating somebody & has been for 2 months. If you chase her you are messing with that relationship. If she breaks up with him, ask her out. Until then, back off.
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