HopefulandTrue Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Alright, there's this guy I've been talking to. We've been on 1 date so far; it went great. He's the first guy I've ever dated. Here's the thing; he doesn't know that. I'm older than him by a few years (we’re both 20 something). We just finished talking over the phone for an hour and he brought up relationship topics. He asked me if I've been in a lot of relationships; I said no (which is true). He told me he assumed I've been in more relationships than him because I'm older. He tried going into detail by asking me what’s the longest relationship I’ve been in is. I basically answered his question with a question and asked him the same things without me answering. He answered and we eventually got off the topic. Here's my question though. Should I have told him the truth about me never being in any relationship? I didn't tell him I've been in a relationship before, but I didn't tell him the complete truth either. I feel kind of bad for not telling him. I kind of went over this situation in a post I posted a few weeks ago and now I'm just unsure of what to do now. He caught me by surprise with these questions and I didn’t know how to respond.
Priv Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Don't sweat it. You do not own him any answers about personal stuff you feel uncomfortable talking about after a first date. Also, he probably picked up on it as he didn't really insist on an answer and let the conversation go off topic. You did not lie. 1
J21 Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 I got asked this on the second date and felt surprised too. Not surprised at the topic, but rather the timing. It was during the middle of dinner and she just asked "what was your longest relationship". I told her the truth and I asked her the same and she answered. It was lightly touched upon and we moved on to another topic. 1
d0nnivain Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 You need to answer however you feel comfortable. People a right to know something about the people they are dating, especially whether you have engaged in high risk behaviors (unprotected sex with people who have diseases) but actual #s gets tricky & often causes more problems If you can be truthful without being too specific I think that's the best bet. 1
aussietigerwolf Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 And to make it amusing, wait for them to start eating and then casually ask if they've ever been a porn star or prostitute lol 1
justhadto Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 Be honest. If he doesn't like you after that,onto the next one. 2
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