VanillaLife Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 So been chatting with a lady who like me is into biking... actually she looks a bit more fanatical and serious about it than me, but it's a common point. We are both similar situation - early 40s, recently separated, back on the "dating scene" at a point when we thought we would not be. So anyway my question is do you think suggesting a bike ride is a sucky first date? I'm concerned it puts us right in the "friend zone"? That said seems to be better than coffee or drink as any awkward silences you just keep riding along. Thought?
Mrin Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 It is a great first date as long as you ride somewhere for a meal. 1
mammasita Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 I think going bike riding for a first date doesn't give you much of a chance to interact and get to know each other. It's like going to a movie. Pick something engaging, there's nothing wrong with a drink/coffee. That always gives you a chance to determine if you even want to invest more time in the person. save the biking for a few dates later once you've had a chance to get to talk face to face and know that you like one another. That said, it's a great way to bond and spend time. First date though...... No. 1
ElectricBoogaloo Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 I have often dreamed of a first date with a hike and a picnic. I think it is romantic. Look up healthy energizing meals for a picnic, pack one up for two, and you both go bike a scenic trail! Then at the best point in the route, cop a squat and have a rest. She will remember it for the rest of her life.
Carm Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 As an avid cyclist and a single woman in her 40's I say it's a great idea. However, I'm not sure I would prefer that for a first date. I would prefer to converse on a first date rather than an active one. Good luck.
d0nnivain Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Because you are both into cycling it's great. Just build in a break / mini picnic somewhere to chat.
Joaquin Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Hot. Sweaty. Smelly. Red faced. I wouldn't have thought that was a great idea. Why not just go for a drink and talk?
d0nnivain Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Hot. Sweaty. Smelly. Red faced. I wouldn't have thought that was a great idea. Why not just go for a drink and talk? I'm with you but remember this isn't about what WE would think is a godo date; it's about what two cycling ethusiasts would like. 1
Charmander Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 I'd say go for it, but sometimes simpler is better. Just ask her out to a dinner or something. One common interest does not a good relationship make... IF you think you can hold a decent conversation while riding bikes then go for it, but their is a lot to look out for when you're doing that activity I'd throw my hat on the fact that a good bit of the time you all won't be neck to neck and unable to hear each other. Something to consider. Char!
RedRobin Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 If you are both active, doing something active together is a great idea. Tells you a lot more about that person than having a meal or coffee does IMHO. A guy I met recently was really into yoga so we did that for our first meeting... The only thing I would caution is to make sure it isn't too secluded.... Whatever you do.
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