MrGuy Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 Ok so i find it really difficult going about this. I know giving space is good for a relationship but i have so much trouble not being around her. She's my best friend and i love being with her every day. She never said she needed space, It's just i know she needs it. I just don't know what to do in my spare time, it's sad i know but i don't really have any friends and yes i have a job. Other then that I'm alone most of the time and it sucks . She's been busy a lot more lately, her work schedule has been keeping her busy and has been hanging out with her brothers and cousins at home playing games (i'd go join but she lives just a little far) She's a family girl so thankfully she isnt partying... haha... ugh
mammasita Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 You really should find things to occupy your time outside of your relationship before it does become a problem and she begins to feel smothered. Join a meetup group. Get a pet. 2
Author MrGuy Posted June 2, 2014 Author Posted June 2, 2014 what's a meetup group? unless it's exactly like it sounds
mammasita Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 what's a meetup group? unless it's exactly like it sounds Find your people - Meetup Tons of groups based on interests. NOT a dating site.
todreaminblue Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 take your time apart as personal growth time .....read......do things you enjoy doing , visit other friends spend time with family and when you do come together you will have lots to talk about.....volunteer for a charity, do a first aid certificate...... do a computer course at home ....have some fun.....become connected with who you are and what you want to do in life.......then when you reconnect....share some dreams you are beginning to have with your bestest bud.....it will be worth the wait and the future will be bright as...............deb
Summerrose2013 Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Find your people - Meetup Tons of groups based on interests. NOT a dating site. I highly recommend this! I've joined some UK groups and my social life has never been busier! Let me ask you OP, if your gf dumped you tomorrow, what would you have left in your life? This is the situation I found myself in and I vowed - NEVER AGAIN. I gave up a LOT for my last partners and made myself far too available, so he did not value me or my time, I was just waiting around like a lovesick puppy for him to be available - no wonder he ran a mile - I would have done if the tables were turned. You need to get your own life, don't delay, do it today, I bet she will be impressed and be MORE interested in you. And STICK to your committments, your time is valuable.
mutant Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Ok so i find it really difficult going about this. I know giving space is good for a relationship but i have so much trouble not being around her. She's my best friend and i love being with her every day. She never said she needed space, It's just i know she needs it. I just don't know what to do in my spare time, it's sad i know but i don't really have any friends and yes i have a job. Other then that I'm alone most of the time and it sucks . She's been busy a lot more lately, her work schedule has been keeping her busy and has been hanging out with her brothers and cousins at home playing games (i'd go join but she lives just a little far) She's a family girl so thankfully she isnt partying... haha... ugh So basically your life revolves around your sweet girlfriend and your Job? Now that's a sure recipe for a break-up and you gotta do something about it. How long have you two been dating?
Frank2thepoint Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 I just don't know what to do in my spare time, it's sad i know but i don't really have any friends and yes i have a job. Other then that I'm alone most of the time and it sucks .( Do you have any hobbies or interests? You can easily pick up new hobbies. Learn to cook. Start exercising (ie: jogging). Read books that interest you (ie: fiction, mystery, non-fiction, history, etc.). Bicycling. Martial Arts. Volunteer at pet shelters. Learn a new language. The list goes on, just pick something to do. Or, you can find a second (part-time) job to fill your spare time if you are not interested in developing yourself.
mammasita Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Occupying your time and finding things to do outside of your relationship doesnt always have to involve being social. When I was dumped, I started doing crafts. I did a TON of stuff around my house (for example): -Put up new back splash in my kitchen -Sewed new pillows -Put up a frame around my bathroom mirror having to research projects, get supplies, actually do the projects.....It was SOOOOO theraputic.
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