lastking Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 I was in a good relationship with my EX girlfriend since she was 18 and the break up happened when she turned 26. I have been on a few online dates and realized that most of the girls am meeting broke up at the same age. Is this the mid life crisis age for females or grass is greener syndrome?
Bumaga vsyo sterpit Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 I'll try to explain, you were with your girlfriend from a pretty young age and for a very long time, from 18 to 25. Your girlfriend wasted seven years of her youth on useless crap like being in a healthy relationship, having only one boyfriend, having trust and predictability, etc. When your girlfriend hit 25, it suddenly dawned on her that she (select all that apply): wasn't "ready for a relationship" needed "space" and "time" needed to "figure things out" needed to "experience life" or "grow as a person" etc. etc. etc. This always only means one thing -- that she realized she needed to spend her youth doing more valuable things like hanging out with whorish girlfriends, going to whorish parties, getting drunk as a fiddler's b*tch and having sex with whoever she wants. When a girl breaks up with you for any of the reasons in the boxes or similar ones, what she really means is "I'm bored." Of course, eventually that will get depressing and draining for her as she comes to realize wasting your life is nothing to be proud of, and she'll want a real relationship with someone again. Repeat. 9
Author lastking Posted June 1, 2014 Author Posted June 1, 2014 (edited) I'll try to explain, you were with your girlfriend from a pretty young age and for a very long time, from 18 to 25. Your girlfriend wasted seven years of her youth on useless crap like being in a healthy relationship, having only one boyfriend, having trust and predictability, etc. When your girlfriend hit 25, it suddenly dawned on her that she (select all that apply): wasn't "ready for a relationship" needed "space" and "time" needed to "figure things out" needed to "experience life" or "grow as a person" etc. etc. etc. This always only means one thing -- that she realized she needed to spend her youth doing more valuable things like hanging out with whorish girlfriends, going to whorish parties, getting drunk as a fiddler's b*tch and having sex with whoever she wants. When a girl breaks up with you for any of the reasons in the boxes or similar ones, what she really means is "I'm bored." Of course, eventually that will get depressing and draining for her as she comes to realize wasting your life is nothing to be proud of, and she'll want a real relationship with someone again. Repeat. I like your points. It really explains it!!! Edited June 1, 2014 by lastking spelling 1
jbelle6 Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 Because the human brain is not fully developed until we're around 25 years old. Who we are at 18, is not exactly what we'll be at 25. It's only 7 years difference, but it's WHEN those seven years are. For instance, you won't change near as much from 40-47. Aside from biology, you haven't even completed your education or know where a career will lead you at 18. 2
Author lastking Posted June 1, 2014 Author Posted June 1, 2014 Because the human brain is not fully developed until we're around 25 years old. Who we are at 18, is not exactly what we'll be at 25. It's only 7 years difference, but it's WHEN those seven years are. For instance, you won't change near as much from 40-47. Aside from biology, you haven't even completed your education or know where a career will lead you at 18. Good Point...you explain it well but I still find it strange
R3d Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Dude, I have to say - I feel really bad for you man. 8-year strong relationship discarded for a casual sex, partying, and getting drunk lifestyle? Wow, in my opinion, that was seriously idiotic of your ex. 1
CarrieT Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 I can explain it scientifically... Until the age of 26 or so, one's brain is still developing. Literally, the frontal cortex is not fully connected and those decision-making synapsis are not fully functional. Read about here. This is why many of us who have been around for while HEARTILY recommend that no one get involved in a serious relationship until they are closer to thirty years of age. It also explains why many people who get married or seriously attached in their early 20s go through that "seven year itch" and why relationships rarely last that are started during those young years. It is often explained by GIGS and it isn't just women who go through it. 3
M30USA Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Women at the age of 25-30 realize they need to get "a bun in the oven" so they start to want a family man with money rather than the bad boy for sex and excitement. Then after 7 years of marriage and a few kids pumped out, unless they're very happy with their family man, they will go back to exciting bad boys. It's all part of the biological script. 1
CarrieT Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Women at the age of 25-30 realize they need to get "a bun in the oven" so they start to want a family man with money rather than the bad boy for sex and excitement. Then after 7 years of marriage and a few kids pumped out, unless they're very happy with their family man, they will go back to exciting bad boys. It's all part of the biological script. I call BS on this one - on so many levels... Lots of women who desire children do not have that desire in their 20s at all, but into their 30s. Many of do not care for the bad boy whatsoever. There is no "biological script." 2
M30USA Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 I call BS on this one - on so many levels... Lots of women who desire children do not have that desire in their 20s at all, but into their 30s. Many of do not care for the bad boy whatsoever. There is no "biological script." Lol, you're right. You have control over your entire life. Everything you do is under your control. Carpe diem.
Eggplant Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Curious: did you discuss marriage ever? If you thought this was a permanent arrangement, you should have at some point talked about what you hoped for. 1
hope2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 I was in a good relationship with my EX girlfriend since she was 18 and the break up happened when she turned 26. I have been on a few online dates and realized that most of the girls am meeting broke up at the same age. Is this the mid life crisis age for females or grass is greener syndrome? For me, it's the greener grass syndrome
Absinthe Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Most girls? Have you taken a national survey? I do laugh any time I read something about "most guys" and "most girls". Anecdotal evidence of your social group does not even a sweeping generalisation make. 2
alwayshere Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Women at the age of 25-30 realize they need to get "a bun in the oven" so they start to want a family man with money rather than the bad boy for sex and excitement. Then after 7 years of marriage and a few kids pumped out, unless they're very happy with their family man, they will go back to exciting bad boys. It's all part of the biological script. Wow, I wonder if this is how Jesus sees women. I see a lot of men on this site who I hope are single...considering how they seem to feel about women. 1
littleplanet Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 I'll try to explain, you were with your girlfriend from a pretty young age and for a very long time, from 18 to 25. Your girlfriend wasted seven years of her youth on useless crap like being in a healthy relationship, having only one boyfriend, having trust and predictability, etc. When your girlfriend hit 25, it suddenly dawned on her that she (select all that apply): wasn't "ready for a relationship" needed "space" and "time" needed to "figure things out" needed to "experience life" or "grow as a person" etc. etc. etc. This always only means one thing -- that she realized she needed to spend her youth doing more valuable things like hanging out with whorish girlfriends, going to whorish parties, getting drunk as a fiddler's b*tch and having sex with whoever she wants. When a girl breaks up with you for any of the reasons in the boxes or similar ones, what she really means is "I'm bored." Of course, eventually that will get depressing and draining for her as she comes to realize wasting your life is nothing to be proud of, and she'll want a real relationship with someone again. Repeat. Interesting analysis. Self-growth is um, whorish? Wow. I suppose we are bound by whatever capacity we possess for categorization, stereotypical thinking and objectification. ......while dudes just ride off into a glorious sunset. Especially if their name is Shane. Seven years is long enough to seal the deal, sure. Or know beyond a shadow of a doubt that something different is required. The scientific method of analysis requires a scientist's approach. Very few of us actually fit that bill. (thankfully!)
stillafool Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 I was in a good relationship with my EX girlfriend since she was 18 and the break up happened when she turned 26. I have been on a few online dates and realized that most of the girls am meeting broke up at the same age. Is this the mid life crisis age for females or grass is greener syndrome? Of course not. There is a big difference between 18 and 27. She was a girl at 18 and now she is a woman. She is at the age where women start to realize what they want in life and the type of man they wish to marry. You have started countless threads about this woman and if I remember correctly she has ended things with you and has told you there is no getting back together. I would suggest that you look for ways to get over her and move on with your life rather than beating a dead horse to death. She has moved on and you need to move on too - in the other direction. 1
Radu Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Most girls? Have you taken a national survey? I do laugh any time I read something about "most guys" and "most girls". Anecdotal evidence of your social group does not even a sweeping generalisation make. You might want to read the original post again ... at least not get focused on the title alone.
Radu Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Interesting analysis. Self-growth is um, whorish? Wow. I suppose we are bound by whatever capacity we possess for categorization, stereotypical thinking and objectification. ......while dudes just ride off into a glorious sunset. Especially if their name is Shane. Seven years is long enough to seal the deal, sure. Or know beyond a shadow of a doubt that something different is required. The scientific method of analysis requires a scientist's approach. Very few of us actually fit that bill. (thankfully!) While he expressed his idea in a very crass way [especially towards the end], if you have been on LS for a while, you tend to notice the same thing in similar scenarios. Not to mention that the OP's reference was not to his past relationship but towards a trend he is noticing with women of around 25. Also, nowhere in post [not even in the crass part] did i notice him claiming that guys are better, you might want to stop putting words in his mouth. OP, stop doing online dating. Both men and women have the feeling they are shopping around. Date [or try to] the old fashioned way, which involves thinking of the other person more than just pixels put there for your own validation/amusement.
iiiii Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 I don't know if "most" girls do leave relationships at that age. But for the ones that do, I'd say it's because you learn a lot about yourself - and grow up a lot - in your 20s. So it's not surprising that relationships that worked for you in your early 20s aren't going to work for you in your late 20s. I know I left a relationship about that age, and I moved to a different town in order to go back to university. Haven't regretted it, either.
hotpotato Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Every couple I known that has been together for that long a time and started dating young has broken up or taken some kind of break from the relationship. It's actually normal. Not every girl breaks up with men at the age or even breaks up with men at all.
dragon_fly_7 Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 (edited) I was in a good relationship with my EX girlfriend since she was 18 and the break up happened when she turned 26. I have been on a few online dates and realized that most of the girls am meeting broke up at the same age. Is this the mid life crisis age for females or grass is greener syndrome?This happens when we see the relationship hasn't gotten pass the ''Oh you're so pretty, I love you and you're the love of my life'' honeymoon stage and transform into an ''I was thinking serious about settling down, how would our earnings combine together'' maturity and planning for a future stage. We notice when it's a guy wasting our time stringing us along and only talking about the moon and the stars and no actions at all. It's more like an ''Alright I get that you love me and I'm the love of your life, now what's the deal'' Another reason can be that after a while the relationship can turned rocky or stale and nowadays it's very rare for a woman to actually end even getting engaged to her first bf, first love. Sometimes, maybe we don't want to end up marrying that one guy and never knowing what it would have been breaking up and ending up with the 2nd or 3rd bf instead. Even the thought of only 1 man in my whole life freaks me out. It makes me feel good I'm not going to ever marry by now ex bf and it'll obviously be someone else at some point. Edited June 2, 2014 by dragon_fly_7 1
carhill Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Why do most girls end relationships at 25 or 26? I don't know about 'most', but those who did in my demographic, generally ending marriages, was due to what we called in the old days 'the seven year itch', as many got married right out of high school and they and their spouses changed markedly in the time from 18-25/26 and, for some, change meant moving on. Many had young children so that was part of the 'moving on' process too. I recall numerous male friends with 'every other weekend' visitation when I was a single man in my late 20's. These days, society and culture is more transitory in general, and more mobile, and with more options and opportunities, so people, especially young people, can and often will avail themselves of what comes their way. That could be a new job, a new location, a new spouse, a new partner, etc, etc. Stuff happens and life goes on.
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