TrappedWanderer Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 Sooo, after months of hell-anger, intense sadness, loneliness, confusion, and anger again....I did the work and I got my life back together. Yay! But (there's always a "but" isn't there?)...now what?? I got a new job, moved to a new city (new country, actually), and am happy to be able to start moving forward. I'm throwing myself into this new job, but maybe because I'm somewhere new and don't quite have "a life" yet, I have a lot of time to myself. I get out, I do what I can,...but starting a new life in a new place takes time, and I don't want to regress to where I was a few months ago, feeling all alone and sad. I know...time. Argh, I see all these happy couples and think-damnit, I'm an awesome person...when do I get to have that?! I'm at a weird place where either everyone I meet is about 5-10 years younger than me, or they are my age, but married/in a relationship/etc and they have their own lives going. I'm guess I'm tired of starting over and just want to be there already. How has anyone else done it...moved on to a really happy life, where it's passed "just getting by" and really, truly happy (with the normal ups and downs that life has)?? I'm tired of not being a real part of "life"....how do you get that?!
elseaacych Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 Join clubs, sports teams, go volunteer, make friends. Do things! You will meet people and feel good about life, hopefully!
greenbee81 Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 Find a hobby you enjoy, and start meeting similar people. I've joined some group hikes, but haven't yet because of work schedule, but usually good people go.
Author TrappedWanderer Posted June 6, 2014 Author Posted June 6, 2014 Thanks. I know, join groups, get into hobbies, etc. I've only just moved 2 weeks ago, so have been getting into work and setting things up here. But times like tonight-when the weather is gorgeous, everyone is out enjoying things....it just sucks, having to start all over. I put so much energy into my graduate studies, then wedding, then trying to help him before realizing he didn't want to help himself, moving again, finding a job, then moving here...whew, exhausting! And I know it takes effort and putting yourself out there in order to meet new people...but man, how do you get the energy??!! A friend is coming to visit this weekend for my birthday, so hopefully that will help this feeling of "will things ever get better".
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