Ordinaryday Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 awhile ago I got dumped by her, and I was going through a really really bad time, and I had A LOT of troubles going on and I needed her support but she decided it was all too hard and she dumped me. She later texted me saying she would always be there for me "as a friend" and that if I ever wanted to chat to her "as a friend" she would be there. I texted her back saying I had no interest in being anything but her boyfriend, and I was not going to settle for being 'just friends'. Haven't contacted her since. anyway, recently on my fb I got a message from her (i blocked her but apparently she registered a new account!) basically saying she was worried and concerned about all the troubles I was having and she wanted to know if I was 'okay' and could I please message her back letting her know if I was 'okay'. On one hand I can appreciate the gesture (just because you dump someone does not necessarily mean you lose ALL feelings for them, just the romantic ones) and I understand she may be concerned... but on the other hand I feel annoyed at her intrusion into my life... she lost the right to know whether or not I was okay the moment she dumped me. and truthfully, I am not 'okay', I still have a lot of problems in my life and while I am not suicidal or anything I am very far from being 'okay'. so what would you do?? message her back telling her I am okay? or just ignore?
lime87 Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 I would ignore it if you're not ready. She wasnt there for you when you needed her and you've already made it clear you're not interested in friendship. She needs to understand what life is like without you. If you really can't ignore then send her a message saying you're okay but she shouldn't contact you unless she is clear that she wants to get back with you. 1
Author Ordinaryday Posted May 31, 2014 Author Posted May 31, 2014 I would ignore it if you're not ready. She wasnt there for you when you needed her and you've already made it clear you're not interested in friendship. She needs to understand what life is like without you. If you really can't ignore then send her a message saying you're okay but she shouldn't contact you unless she is clear that she wants to get back with you. Thanks, I think that ignoring it is the best option! and if she is REALLY worried that I am dead or something then her mind will be put to rest cos she will see the "seen" icon at the end of the fb message letting her know I read the message so she will know I am still around
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