pepsimax Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 Hi, I wrote about a guy i saw 4 times. It was when it was convenient for him and he called or answered messages after hours or days i guess when it was convenient for him. The last time I saw him he touched me (breasts) and I touched him and then he put his thing in my mouth-got off -cleaned me-and said now we can eat!! That was it! Does this make him selfish? Thanks
TheyCallMeOx Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 If he's not returning the favor but busts all KINDS of nuts in your mouth, then that's pretty selfish. His attitude towards sex isn't wrong, but if he's leaving you high and dry, then you need to step up and let him know that a woman's gotta get off too.
Damia Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 Oh your post made me cringe why would you want to give him pleasure in such an intimate way, when he has shown you very little respect ? What are you instincts telling you? Mine are screaming "find someone who wants to spend time with you" he is very clearly only interested in himself.
todreaminblue Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 note to myself do not read posts and reply while on pain medication....... did he ask to put his thing in your mouth first.....and did he expect you to cook him dinner after he put his thing in your mouth..... yes it was selfish.....and a trifle rude...and albeit a little arrogant of him to put his thing anywhere near your face.......deb
crederer Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 "now we can eat" haha holy hell. I wasn't expecting that at all. I dunno communicate with the guy. You should have been like "yeah eat this first". 1
Author pepsimax Posted May 31, 2014 Author Posted May 31, 2014 Didn't ask if it was okay...He cooked for himself..offered me a few times something but I wasn't hungry. I should have said something to him but I didn't. I was honestly thinking it wasn't okay...but kept quiet. Anyway, he disappeared so it's over.
beach Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 Didn't ask if it was okay...He cooked for himself..offered me a few times something but I wasn't hungry. I should have said something to him but I didn't. I was honestly thinking it wasn't okay...but kept quiet. Anyway, he disappeared so it's over. Next time say something! It's YOUR responsibility to look out for YOUR best interest! Speak up! Say what you mean and how you are feeling about what happens in ANY relationship! If you don't - then you are to blame! In this case it borders on sexual assault. But since you have nothing to say - how would he know he's being completely inappropriate? We train people how to treat us! Train people to treat you with more respect. It's up to YOU!
Gaeta Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 Sounds like you need to be given a few guide lines. Here's one. 'it in the mouth' is a reward. It has to be earned. What has he done to deserve it? He used you as a cum disposal. Don't let that happen again. 1
Author pepsimax Posted May 31, 2014 Author Posted May 31, 2014 It isn't assault..I just think it's selfish behaviour. I should have said something...but he should know that he needs to satisfy the girl also without being told. My friends tell me that even their one night stands satisfy them first.
beach Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 It isn't assault..I just think it's selfish behaviour. I should have said something...but he should know that he needs to satisfy the girl also without being told. My friends tell me that even their one night stands satisfy them first. Ok then, if you settle for so little by disrespecting yourself - that is all you should expect.
KaliLove Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 If you're still calling it a 'thing', you probably shouldn't be touching it yet...just sayin'... But anyway, yeah, he's a jerk. Moving on!! 2
Treasa Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 If someone puts something involuntarily in my mouth, my reflex is to bite down. Perhaps you should work on making that a habit. 3
beach Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 It isn't assault..I just think it's selfish behaviour. I should have said something...but he should know that he needs to satisfy the girl also without being told. My friends tell me that even their one night stands satisfy them first. If you didn't give permission then you allowed him to violate you. Speak up! He obviously "doesn't know and doesn't care!" That is the crux of the problem. No - the crux of the problem is that you are even giving this jerk wad ANY thought! Why would you even consider seeing him again? - he's a complete jerk!
soccerrprp Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 This cannot be a serious post or this person is not seriously living in the real world.
jbelle6 Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 Well played. You made me LOL. I was kinda thinkin the same thing about this guy. Gets random girls he doesn't know to give him a hummer and then gets himself some dinner. Only thing that would have made it better would be if she cooked for him. Hmmm. Kind of makes me want to go all kitten with a whip. "Thanks! Where's dinner?" *she didn't say she didn't cook it, so I assume she did!
Gloria25 Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 Well, lesson learned. Next time, don't put yourself in a situation where you are alone with someone you barely know. First few dates, IMO, should be light (i.e. coffee, drinks, meal, movie, show). When you go to someone's place or invite them to yours, IMO, sex is expected (isn't that called a "nite cap"?)...and, you also put yourself in a vulnerable position if someone wants to take advantage of you.
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