lastking Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 Broke up with my EX Girlfriend a year ago after 8 and a half years together. Anyways am still friends with her and her family on facebook . I recently met a girl online (kind of a rebound relationship ) and the girl posted something on my facebook page calling me babe. The Ex girlfriends family are shocked/surprised that I have a new girlfriend. They wanted me to continue dating my Ex girlfriend but she is the one that ended the relationship and told me that she had moved on. My Ex Girlfriend called me yesterday asking me about the new girlfriend. She said that her family members have been telling her about her and that they have been stalking my new girlfriends facebook page. Should I delete my new girlfriend from my friends on facebook and what reasons should I give her. I would rather get back with my EX although its not working out for now, we have a lot of history together. Any advise....Thanks!!
lauri Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 Broke up with my EX Girlfriend a year ago after 8 and a half years together. Anyways am still friends with her and her family on facebook . I recently met a girl online (kind of a rebound relationship ) and the girl posted something on my facebook page calling me babe. The Ex girlfriends family are shocked/surprised that I have a new girlfriend. They wanted me to continue dating my Ex girlfriend but she is the one that ended the relationship and told me that she had moved on. My Ex Girlfriend called me yesterday asking me about the new girlfriend. She said that her family members have been telling her about her and that they have been stalking my new girlfriends facebook page. Should I delete my new girlfriend from my friends on facebook and what reasons should I give her. I would rather get back with my EX although its not working out for now, we have a lot of history together. Any advise....Thanks!! Right...so she's "moved" on and now she is bothered that you have a new girlfriend? Well, too bad for her. My opinion is let her sulk and deal with it. She broke up with you and has zero control over your life. She for a long time felt like she still "has" you and now the fact you are pulling away she is trying to see if she can still get you back. You aren't going to get your ex girlfriend back by sitting around and conforming your life to her. I say continue to date this new girl and don't put your hopes into someone who claims to have "moved" on. For all you know (maybe you do know) she is dating other guys. Some girls get upset if you move on and date other people, even if they have a new boyfriend (for example my ex). Don't fall for it... Even though you don't sound like you're over your ex, I think you should focus your time on yourself. Why are you living your life waiting around for her and trying to make things work? 4
movingonnow1 Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 Right...so she's "moved" on and now she is bothered that you have a new girlfriend? Well, too bad for her. My opinion is let her sulk and deal with it. She broke up with you and has zero control over your life. She for a long time felt like she still "has" you and now the fact you are pulling away she is trying to see if she can still get you back. You aren't going to get your ex girlfriend back by sitting around and conforming your life to her. I say continue to date this new girl and don't put your hopes into someone who claims to have "moved" on. For all you know (maybe you do know) she is dating other guys. Some girls get upset if you move on and date other people, even if they have a new boyfriend (for example my ex). Don't fall for it... Even though you don't sound like you're over your ex, I think you should focus your time on yourself. Why are you living your life waiting around for her and trying to make things work? Like what was said here, no, you should not delete your new girlfriend for a girl who doesn't want to be with you. However, you shouldn't even be dating someone else if you are still hung up on being with an ex girlfriend...you will, unfairly, end up hurting someone else. 4
Zahara Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 (edited) Broke up with my EX Girlfriend a year ago after 8 and a half years together. A year after a break-up seems completely normal for someone to go out there and start dating again. I recently met a girl online (kind of a rebound relationship ) and the girl posted something on my facebook page calling me babe. The Ex girlfriends family are shocked/surprised that I have a new girlfriend. Rebound? Probably not a good idea since someone is going to hurt. Don't use someone to help you move on or fill your void until you find something better. Parents are shocked and surpised? Why? They expect you to put your life on hold and wait around for princess to decide if she wants you back? And they do not get to decide what timeline is appropriate as to when you want to date. They wanted me to continue dating my Ex girlfriend but she is the one that ended the relationship and told me that she had moved on. Unfortunately if her parents were in a relationship with you then they can have a say. But when she has stated to you that she has moved on, the parents wants and desires are irrelevant. My Ex Girlfriend called me yesterday asking me about the new girlfriend. She said that her family members have been telling her about her and that they have been stalking my new girlfriends facebook page. Ex is calling you to tug at the leash. Should I delete my new girlfriend from my friends on facebook and what reasons should I give her. I would rather get back with my EX although its not working out for now, we have a lot of history together. Any advise....Thanks!! If you are going to prioritize the feelings of your ex and her family, dump the new girlfriend. She doesn't need to be pursuing a man that is too concerned about the feelings of others rather than the person he's with. If you want to wait for your ex, don't waste other people's time. You sit there and wait by yourself. There is no need to drag this woman along with your dreams and schemes, unless you have no issues using her as a crutch. Edited May 30, 2014 by Zahara 2
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 Like what was said here, no, you should not delete your new girlfriend for a girl who doesn't want to be with you. However, you shouldn't even be dating someone else if you are still hung up on being with an ex girlfriend...you will, unfairly, end up hurting someone else. YEP! Get straight about what you want and who you want to be with. If your ex doesn't want to get back with you any time soon then perhaps it's time you delete HER and her FAMILY until something changes. It doesn't help you move on when you have people cyber stalking your every move. I also think it's pretty sketchy that your ex is calling you about your new girl and then relaying the message about her family stalking HER profile. What's the point of that? Friends or not, there is a right way to handle these sticky situations and a wrong way and this just looks like another classic case of wanting her cake and eating it too. Maybe your ex's family should knock some sense into her about getting back with you if they really love you that much. 1
veggirl Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 Omg tell your nosy ass ex and her psycho family to get a life and then delete and block them! God her family needs a damn hobby. 2
fancy feast Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 "I'm sorry, babe, I like you and all but ex and her family aren't comfortable with us being facebook friends." The answer is no, unless you want the new girlfriend to become the new ex girlfriend. 1
jbelle6 Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 I can't even believe you are asking this. Your ex and her family should have been deleted ages ago. She dumps you and they all expected you to sit around for a year? And you would rather your ex back (and her bat$hit family) rather than a new girl that actually likes you and wants you in her life? Yikes. 4
johnpatric Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 Honestly if you will plan to get back with your ex then you should have to talk about that girl to stop posting this king of stuff.. and if you think that she is ex and you don't have any plan to get back with her then its not her business to shocked after read those kind of post because she is your ex and she doesn't have any right to interfere in your personal life.. So its depends on you what you have to do about your ex and this new girl friend of yours...
jbelle6 Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 Honestly if you will plan to get back with your ex then you should have to talk about that girl to stop posting this king of stuff.. and if you think that she is ex and you don't have any plan to get back with her then its not her business to shocked after read those kind of post because she is your ex and she doesn't have any right to interfere in your personal life.. So its depends on you what you have to do about your ex and this new girl friend of yours... If my "boyfriend" had a "talk" with me about just posting that stuff on facebook he would not be my boyfriend. Poor girl. 2
hoping2heal Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 Broke up with my EX Girlfriend a year ago after 8 and a half years together. Anyways am still friends with her and her family on facebook . I recently met a girl online (kind of a rebound relationship ) and the girl posted something on my facebook page calling me babe. The Ex girlfriends family are shocked/surprised that I have a new girlfriend. They wanted me to continue dating my Ex girlfriend but she is the one that ended the relationship and told me that she had moved on. My Ex Girlfriend called me yesterday asking me about the new girlfriend. She said that her family members have been telling her about her and that they have been stalking my new girlfriends facebook page. Should I delete my new girlfriend from my friends on facebook and what reasons should I give her. I would rather get back with my EX although its not working out for now, we have a lot of history together. Any advise....Thanks!! 1. Stop hurting an innocent person, unless the rebound girl knows she's just a rebound and you'd gladly throw her under the bus to be with your ex. In which case, if she knows and stays then that's her perogative 2. What's with the friggin boundary issues in that family?? It's not their business who you date, and your ex calling you up to check out the scoop on your new gf is ridiculous. 3
David87 Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 Dude, keep dating your current girlfriend. Your ex dumped you so it doesnt mater what she thinks. Delete her from FB and her family....even beter block them. 1
anne1707 Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 I'm pretty sure I know who I would be deleting from FB if I was the current girlfriend...... OP you need to make some decisions. Do you want the ex back? If yes then gently end things with your new girlfriend so she can find someone who truly cares for her and deserves her. If you don't want the ex back then get her and her family out of your life. Then decide whether you really want to be with your new girlfriend. If you don't then again end it so she can find a good man. You cannot however for one moment continue as things are, especially thinking of telling the new girlfriend off because she is unknowingly spoiling your plans to cheat on her. 1
Author lastking Posted May 31, 2014 Author Posted May 31, 2014 You cannot however for one moment continue as things are, especially thinking of telling the new girlfriend off because she is unknowingly spoiling your plans to cheat on her. The Ex is more beautiful (probably an 8 or 9 ) than the new girl (probably a 6 ) that's why am kind of stuck on her
Author lastking Posted May 31, 2014 Author Posted May 31, 2014 If my "boyfriend" had a "talk" with me about just posting that stuff on facebook he would not be my boyfriend. Poor girl. Jbelle- I am just reversing the situation : What if the EX boyfriend was hotter than the new girl and you had been with the EX for almost a decade
jbelle6 Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 The Ex is more beautiful (probably an 8 or 9 ) than the new girl (probably a 6 ) that's why am kind of stuck on her Wow, deep. Then dump new girl so she can actually find a decent guy. Quit wasting her time. 4
David87 Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 Wow, deep. Then dump new girl so she can actually find a decent guy. Quit wasting her time. I feel bad for the poor girl:( 3
anne1707 Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 The Ex is more beautiful (probably an 8 or 9 ) than the new girl (probably a 6 ) that's why am kind of stuck on her That says a lot more about you than it does about your ex and current girlfriend 1
jbelle6 Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 I feel bad for the poor girl:( Me too. My ex may not have been an 8-10 to most people, but I loved him so he was a 10 to me, never even noticed another man in the room. We all deserve THAT.
mtnbiker3000 Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 Yeah dude. That is a whack statement. You need to check yourself, cause that sh*t is just wrong!!! What if the tables were turned? How would you feel about that?
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