puma454 Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 im just wondering if anybody has had past experience with this sort of issue, but any sort of advice would be much appreciated; my boyfriend is thinking of migrating to australia for a year, may i point out we live in the UK so it is a very long distance. i really dont want him to go, but it would be selfish if i was the reason he did not go. (i cant go with him because i am not over 18 yet) has anybody dealt with not seeing their partner for a year or so? how did you find it? the thought of him going is affecting me more than he thinks/knows..any advice is welcome. thanks:D
justwhoiam Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 i cant go with him because i am not over 18 yet Is that the only reason why? If he's over 18, he could be your guardian. has anybody dealt with not seeing their partner for a year or so? how did you find it? Yes. Hard. Your relationship survival will depend on how committed your relationship is, how long you've been together and knowing one another before going LD. The kind of job he took on might also affect the relationship. When would you be able to talk to him? Share time with him? He will probably make friends there and be out weekends too. And I guess he'll spend his holidays there too. That's his free time and spare money, and you won't be there. Anything can happen.
LittleTiger Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 Hi puma454, welcome to LS I'm quite a lot older than you but I am also in the UK and I'm in a relationship with a kiwi who works in Australia. We've been LDR ever since we first met, which is now four and half years. We travel backwards and forwards as often as time and money will allow and, because we're both 100% committed to the relationship, it works for us. We did have one period of eleven months when we weren't able to see one another and it was torture! Our relationship definitely suffered during that time but mainly because there were lots of external factors that contributed to it being so difficult and these wouldn't apply in your case (ex partners, children, unemployment, sick elderly parents etc). The important thing is that we got through it. Since you are both so young, you will get a lot of people saying that you're foolish to wait around for a year and I can understand their point of view. There is always a possibility that he will enjoy it over there so much that he wants to stay longer, or possibly forever, so it's something you will need to consider. I do know a young couple who are both 19 (she's Australian, he's English) who have managed to maintain their relationship for five months so far. They won't be seeing each other again until November. They started a relationship when she was in the UK and continued it when she had to go back home. They adore each other and seem happy, although obviously frustrated by the distance. So it's definitely possible whatever stage of life you're at, if you're both prepared to make the necessary sacrifices. One thing I would be wary of is that, in your case, your bf is going somewhere new and exciting. Which means he may get so involved in his adventure that you begin to fade into the background for him. I don't want to worry you, but this is a very real possibility. This can only work if you are both 100% committed to your relationship before he leaves. 2
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