Strength in Healing Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 So, one of my best friends is messaging a girl on facebook. Me, and a mutual friend of the two of us, are disagreeing. Here is how it goes down. My friend met this girl at work the other day. They are actually neighbors -- their parents are friends. But they themselves never met. Well, he introduced himself, was funny and charming (I expect no less from him, he is good). He waited 2 days, then messaged her on facebook. That happened today. Here is where me and the mutual friend disagree. The dude opens up a message with: "Hey, so I'm that mildly charming guy who shook your hand twice the other day. Your neighbor. I am messaging you solely to say we should hang" She replied "Hey!! I remember you!" He said "Oh, really? We clearly have a lot in common, because I remember you too. What's up" she said something that I forget, to which he says "So, what do you do for fun" She states some stuff, and he replies "Oh wow. Well, I was going to say we should do something Saturday evening. There are two correct answers: Yes and hell yes." She replied "It would just depend what time, I have two graduation parties to go to!" He said "Well, I don't usually do this, but since you have nice eyes I'll let you decide -- when's a good time for you?" she replied "Oh do I? And I will let you know!" He replied "Ok sounds good! What's your number, I'll shoot you a text Saturday." She gave him her number, then said "Are you always this up front? lol" THAT'S where me and the mutual friend disagree. I personally think the fact she gave her number away is a good sign. The mutual friend thinks she was being passive aggressive versus flirty. My actual friend doesn't know which side to go with. What do you think?
Targetlock Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 the guy came across as smug and a tad cocky to me especially with the 'there are only two answers: yes and hell yes' didn't really seem to give her much option to say no, plus what about her original plans? 1
mammasita Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 I think the banter was cute and agree with you that her giving the number was a good sign. I've always liked that type of assertiveness from a man as long as he's not terribly cocky (like always talking about himself, his job, his money) in person. Tell your friend good job
Targetlock Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 yeah okay fair point, i guess over messages its okay but in person can get rather annoying, not really my style to be honest, maybe thats where I'm going wrong?
Keenly Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 yeah okay fair point, i guess over messages its okay but in person can get rather annoying, not really my style to be honest, maybe thats where I'm going wrong? Gotta tease and be playful Its fun. 3
Author Strength in Healing Posted May 29, 2014 Author Posted May 29, 2014 He is pleased you guys said this. Shoot maybe I need to start picking up tips from him. He will never know I just said that, though. 1
slizl Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 I'm impressed. Confident with a little cockyness and some compliments toward her. Take notes from this guy. 2
Targetlock Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 I'm impressed. Confident with a little cockyness and some compliments toward her. Take notes from this guy. hmm, maybe i will. worth a shot i guess.
Bumpin in My Trunk Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 This thread should be pinned. This is how you pick up women 1
todreaminblue Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 who disagrees with what..... i think the message was upfront and one that gave a glimpse of a fun loving personality, doesnt take ****e, doesnt want to play games, and was not agressive but firm......and very confident and calm in words even if he wasnt feeling that way .......he took a bite......i think her response was positive a bit taken aback like a bit of surprise hearing from him then pleased....to give her phone number says something and i believe the response she gave as being honest......sensing interest returned with the phone number..he was not so much flirty but determined.....she doesnt take compliments all that well but appreciates them.....saying thankyou for the compliment or sweet of you to say would have shown i feel, she is used to them and receives a few...........am i agreeing with anyone?
Mrin Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Damn! Dude has skills. Ya I would go with the opinion that he done good and she's interested. 1
writergal Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 That guy in OP's short dialogue is about as charming as a case of chickenpox. There are two correct answers: Yes and hell yes. Um, eewww! There's only one answer: nooooo! Hahaha! He didn't even make an effort to say anything interesting and she gave up her phone # way too easily. 1
Andy_K Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Reading his dialogue kind of made me cringe. Typical PUA stuff. Direct and to the point with just a little too much cockiness. I read through it again after seeing some complimentary replies here, and I notice that with the possible exception of the yes and hell yes option, none of the lines are actually that bad on their own. So why did I cringe? Well... Because that's all they are. Lines. Rehearsed and practiced, used before. Nothing with any depth or meaning. Stuff that works on a lot of girls nonetheless. As for your actual question - is she interested? Pretty hard to tell since you only bothered writing his messages for most of the dialogue! But I agree with your friend that she was more passive aggressive than flirty, she's interested but on the fence slightly. If he doesn't push for a response Saturday I doubt he'll get one. But he will push for a response because that's how you play the game and she may well go for it.
Emilia Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 THAT'S where me and the mutual friend disagree. I personally think the fact she gave her number away is a good sign. The mutual friend thinks she was being passive aggressive versus flirty. My actual friend doesn't know which side to go with. What do you think? Agree with you. I think the guy is good, lighthearted and chatty, pushy but without being aggressive. I would have slowed him down half-way because I'm older but I can see how a younger woman would be caught up in it. I think he has a chance, especially as the parents know each other. The fact that she has two graduation ceremonies to go to AND still tried to arrange something with him is a very good sign because she is legit busy on Saturday.
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