nightbird101 Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 During the day things seem to be okay. I keep busy such as going for walks, working, catching up with friends. Things to improve me as a person and distract me from the break up. Its been 2 months and I'm trying learn as much as I can from the mistakes I made during the relationship so I don't repeat them. At the end of the day when I need to settle down and rest. My mind starts to wonder. My question is this: Is there any activities or things to do that can help distract me from the back up at night without having to leave the house?
bluenote Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 Watch movies, watch National geagraphic or other tv programs about art, read good books about anything except broken love, play pc games-I have one called Age of empires, keeps me so buzy don't even get time to go to the loo until I sleep. You could read through as many threads on LS and see other's pain could somehow be therapeutic. Ooooh the threat of being hurt or left always looms around no matter how secure you think you are, just means that one must first love oneself before others which is not very possible, Madam you are have been able to put others right before yourself and now you struggle to fill those gaps, I think they are filled already, you just don't realize. It can't be that all you ever did for your husband was all negative. You filled his life and that is why yours feels empty, but infact its just half full now, and even if you don't use whats left on another man you can do that for other people in similar situations through your art and other means. Keep positive you have completed the first half and now you can relax a bit before you take on something new and exciting.
mammasita Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 Night was the hardest for me too. Body pillow, sleep with the TV on, audio books. I never let pets sleep in my bed, and resorted to letting my pup sleep in the bed with me for about a week....untill he decided to take a piss on my comforter. Never again LOL. It will get better.
cenz Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 The night is unbearable for me too along with weekends and public holiday. Mornings are awful when i wake up but it gets better. I let my dog sleep on my bed too and it feels better. I hope things get better for us...if only there's a quick medicine for broken hearts..
JahnJahn Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 I think this is the hardest part of coping IMO. The silence is maddening and the thought of your ex will always pop in. I cant sleep till 2~4am so from 9pm to that time, my heart is throbbing and I get into a phase of depressive thoughts.
learning_slowly Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 I think this is the hardest part of coping IMO. The silence is maddening and the thought of your ex will always pop in. I cant sleep till 2~4am so from 9pm to that time, my heart is throbbing and I get into a phase of depressive thoughts. If you can't sleep, ideally try reading something that does not overly interest you, or a subject that you need to learn but don't like. Also I use tv programs that I can watch again so it doesn't matter if I drift off during the program. I also found a zinc supplement helped.
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