Broken_or_Angry Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 So here is my story, I started dating this amazing girl about 2 months ago. Things have been amazing!! Chemistry is great, conversation is great as well. Well recently she mentioned that she was feeling a bit overwhelmed and pressured to move things along. So I backed off, I told her that I would cancel the plans we had, and that I would back off. Well we haven't texted one another in about a week. Should I wait for her to text me? Also, not sure why she suddenly got cold feet, everything seemed great.
Author Broken_or_Angry Posted May 28, 2014 Author Posted May 28, 2014 She's always been single. Her longest relationship has been for 2 years.
d0nnivain Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 After a week of silence, I think you can reach out. I'd text 1st . . . keep it light & pithy. If she responds wait a while then call to see up a low key no pressure "date" like getting ice cream or seeing a movie, nothing heavy or overly romance. Dial back how often you see her. Don't have lengthy discussions about defining your relationship. Just enjoy each other's company. 2
Mrin Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Based on the limited knowledge I'd say it is one of the following: 1. You did something to turn her off 2. She met someone else 3. She is going through something in her life that you don't know about 4. She wasn't that in to you That being said, if you haven't texted in a week and you were a text every day type thing, then a friendly, "hey how you doing? Just thinking about you" is probably okay. 1
Author Broken_or_Angry Posted May 28, 2014 Author Posted May 28, 2014 Based on the limited knowledge I'd say it is one of the following: 1. You did something to turn her off 2. She met someone else 3. She is going through something in her life that you don't know about 4. She wasn't that in to you That being said, if you haven't texted in a week and you were a text every day type thing, then a friendly, "hey how you doing? Just thinking about you" is probably okay. Thank you, I went ahead and contacted her and things went well. I asked how she was doing. She said she was doing good and asked about me. I replied and left it at that. Thinking about texting again on Friday. When will it be OK to ask her out again? 1
Author Broken_or_Angry Posted May 28, 2014 Author Posted May 28, 2014 After a week of silence, I think you can reach out. I'd text 1st . . . keep it light & pithy. If she responds wait a while then call to see up a low key no pressure "date" like getting ice cream or seeing a movie, nothing heavy or overly romance. Dial back how often you see her. Don't have lengthy discussions about defining your relationship. Just enjoy each other's company. Thank you for your advice.
LustAppeal Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 Thank you, I went ahead and contacted her and things went well. I asked how she was doing. She said she was doing good and asked about me. I replied and left it at that. Thinking about texting again on Friday. When will it be OK to ask her out again? To me, and with the limited information you provided, it seems she's either lost interest in you or just way too busy, if she's texting you back right away but with little enthusiasm or excitement in her text it's probably a lack of interest. (lack of enthusiasm can be noticed though short answers, etc... But determining lack of interest through texting is hard to do and can be thrown off easily) Have you hung out with her in person frequently or is the relationship based mainly around texting/phoning? How often did you text her prior to the "space?" Have you been known to get friendzoned with other women? Do you have problems with sexual tension or social anxiety? Sexual tension is not being able to push towards more of an intimate relationship. ie, hugging, kissing, touching, complementing physical appearance, and more... It doesn't just mean sex.
Author Broken_or_Angry Posted May 29, 2014 Author Posted May 29, 2014 The whole space thing came about because we started spending a lot of time together. She started to feel pressured to move things along. Admittedly, I did come across a bit stronger than I should of. We were texting daily, had even planned to go out of town together. I have not been friend zoned in the past. I really feel like she just got spooked and needs to feel like she's in control again. No issues with sex, or social anxiety. Sex was amazing. Intimacy was also great.
PegNosePete Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 It sounds to me like she's either lost interest or has a better offer. After 2 months, and already had sex, what does "move things along" mean? Sounds like she's doing the slow fade. 1
Scrab22 Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 I'd recommend to ask her what's going on. That it's been some time and would like to know how she's feeling, maybe also ask if something happened. Take the time to have a long talk with her, and make sure you reach a conclusion so you won't be uncertain. 1
LustAppeal Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 You have to realize that there is a difference between "space" and "a break." Normally giving space means letting them out out with friends/family, not smothering them, Not hanging out every day, and so on... A break on the other hand is not talking to each other and having "a break" from the relationship. Talk to her and see what's going on, you'll never know until you ask her for the truth.
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