I can't seem to get over him and I don't understand his behavior.

[amf1991]

I met this guy through my best friend back in December. He happens to be her boyfriend's best friend too. We liked each other instantly and started dating soon after we met and made it official in February. I was very attracted to him in every sense and everything was going great. He was a gentleman and always made me feel special. Soon after we made our relationship official things started going downhill.

 

After a month of being official, he broke it off saying he didn't want a relationship right now and didn't want to be tied down where he couldn't meet other people. Basically he wanted to explore his options. He told me he cares about me a lot and he would give me the world but he just can't be that guy for me now. We didn't completely break it off at that moment and went back to just dating how we were before but it wasn't the same. About 2 weeks later he broke it off completely and said he just wanted to be friends.

 

I stopped talking to him for a while because through social media I found out he was hanging out with another girl. About three weeks later he sends me a text saying he heard that I knew about the other girl and insisted there was nothing and that he only wanted a friendship from her. We started talking again as friends but then I found out they were hanging out again frequently and it just crushed me and I ended up deleting him from all social media.

 

After that he untagged himself from any picture that I was with him and has started posting on my friend's facebook which was uncommon from him. She also told me that she had seen him write a tweet about hating being stuck up on someone that pays him no mind or respect. Its been a little over 2 months since our break up and I still find myself crying over him and hurt. We didn't sleep together but this particular situation has hurt more than others where sex was involved.

 

His behavior confuses me and I don't know why I still feel so strongly about him even after 2 months. Any advice or opinions?

Edited May 28, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[bulldogz]

Well, do you want to be with him again?

 

At present, since you've deleted him on Facebook, he thinks you don't want him in your life.

 

I read somewhere that guys are "sure" about things much quicker than women are... so if a guy has communicated he wants to date other people, then at present he maybe can't see himself satisfied with a life-long relationship with you. In such a case, I'm not sure what can be done.

 

People's minds do change, I know from experience. Sometimes it takes months, sometimes years before the lightbulb goes off in their head...

 

But that is a bet I wouldn't place too many casino-chips on, if you will.

[learning_slowly]

Yes, if I had said that to you, it would have been because I considered myself too young to be settling down and still wanted to see other girls. I imagine this is what he wants.

[d0nnivain]

He doesn't want a relationship with you. I don't know if he wants one with somebody else but you have to take his distance from you as real.

 

Put as much distance as you can in the interactions which won't be easy since he's buddies with your friend's BF.

 

In time your longing for him should fade since it's not reciprocated.