scrazee Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 (edited) Hi, guys. First post here... Been lurking on the forum a couple weeks now ever since I broke up with my ex and have taken some advice on the forum but never was able to stick through it end to end. Long story short... I've been dating my ex for the last 6 months and to tell you the truth, I was always the one putting in more effort into the relationship with everything. When we fight, no matter whose right or wrong, I would always be the one to apologize first and recognize my mistakes and attempting to fix my issue on my part. She usually never apologize for declare her wrongdoings. Two weeks ago we had a huge argument that started from a trivial disagreement. It shouldn't have happened but it did. It got so big that we both agreed the relationship should ended. We tried to stay in contact but I knew this would never work because of our existing problems. I kept on checking her Facebook and Instagram (i know its a big NONO to do so). We had another huge argument again last week about some non-sense and it was the last time we spoke. From that argument, I've decided to try to go NC for real. I didn't have enough strength to do it fully... Today I checked her Instagram and found that she's already going on dates. She last told me that she's not going to be dating for a while and now seeing that she's going on dates makes me angry. The contradicting actions makes me so angry. I know I have nothing to do with her anymore and should NC fully. Sorry if I didn't provide much detail about the relationship. It just hurts so much thinking about it at this point. Logically, I really really really want to move on. My heart and emotions are what keeps holding me back and consuming my own self with thoughts about the relationship... Sigh... Edited May 28, 2014 by scrazee
David87 Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Long story short... I've been dating my ex for the last 6 months and to tell you the truth, I was always the one putting in more effort into the relationship with everything. When we fight, no matter whose right or wrong, I would always be the one to apologize first and recognize my mistakes and attempting to fix my issue on my part. She usually never apologize for declare her wrongdoings. This means you cared more than her. She's a bit immature if you ask me. No worries you did all you could to save this relationship but it wasn't meant to be. She already started to date that's enough proof that she didn't care about you that much. Start NC and please stop online stalking. 1
Author scrazee Posted May 28, 2014 Author Posted May 28, 2014 Yeah... I know I should stop online stalking. I just don't have the strengths to do it through and through. I tried to put a reminder list of why I shouldn't check and go NC. I guess I'll just have to go cold-turkey...
David87 Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Yeah... I know I should stop online stalking. I just don't have the strengths to do it through and through. I tried to put a reminder list of why I shouldn't check and go NC. I guess I'll just have to go cold-turkey... There's no other way my friend, you are only hurting yourself by checking her all the time on instagram and FB.
Jupiter1111 Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 I feel your pain the first part of this sounds like my relationship apart from the facebook etc and dating, I'm bitter about it all I'm trying to establish NC but it's hard when all you want to do is see them. Try NC and even messaging someone else even as a quick rebound cos after all we all just want to feel needed or wanted
stillfiguringitallou Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 My ex's claim to "better" was always that I dated anytime we were split (never anything serious but when the one you love and want to be with - is busy telling you how little they value you - sometimes you need to get out with people who do - and I was never dishonest about where I stood) So this time - he says "There was water under the bridge - but you broke that levy dear" (Dear is what he calls me to show me how very disapointed he is in me .. **eyeroll**) and how he has weekend plans with a "new friend" **eye roll again** Thats my sign it's "really over" ya know. But realistically - he hasn't yet faced HIS issues in the relationship - which will happen eventually - it always does in these situations. I'm going NC because I don't have the time or inclination to self flagellate to maintain this relationship anymore. I have admitted my faults - I'm putting in the work (HARD WORK) to resolve these things. If he isn't willing to do the same - thats OK with me, I'll meet someone who is more mature and have a healthy relationship - while he continues to repeat the same cycle over and over again - until he is old and alone
H245 Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 When we fight, no matter whose right or wrong, I would always be the one to apologize first and recognize my mistakes and attempting to fix my issue on my part. This is exactly the same thing I went through with my ex. I'm glad I'm not alone in this. I am also trying to establish NC, except I need to return a few items to her through a friend of ours. I hope things get better for both you and I with NC...
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