WSeeker Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 Hi to all English is not my mother tongue so i apologize if you read some strange phrases or sentences. First of all i want to say that i really like this forum and i have been here for years quietly reading. I made a few threads about one of my break up's but that is not the issue here and its ancient history by now considering it has been around five years ago. This forum helped me a lot in those times and because of many personal stories here i was able to learn much about life and love so i always come back here to read a little. I really grew in a emotionally stable person but this year happened something unexpected. I dont want to be boring with my life story so im gonna skip straight to the point. I met a girl i like but she doesnt like me back. She is a collegue from university and is very frendly and nice to hang around but she sees me as nothing more than friend and colleague. As time passed i fell in love with her (something i thought it was impossible for me as i was pretty much disappointed with relationships). The fact that i want her has made me somewhat emotional and im suffering a little. This is nothing big im not gonna kill myself or anything. Recently she found a boyfriend, and that has started to bother me even more. The whole point of this is when im near her i start to feel somewhat emotionally troubled. Im constantly thinking of her and cant get my thoughts straight. She is not teasing or anything, she is a nice and polite girl so everything is completely in my head but i just cant make it go away by sheer will. What are my options? I cant be with her because she wants someone else. Do i stop talking to her and start avoiding her? Cause otherwise i think im gonna go nuts from analyzing and over thinking anything that has to do with her. I realize im making myself suffer but i need some advice on what to do and how to behave i order to lessen my emotional burden. I appreciate every advice i can get here and i thank you for reading about my problem. If you have any experience about this i would to hear that also.
RDawg Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 Sorry to hear you have this problem. Did you ever try and make a move on her whilst she was still single? Maybe keep hanging around and try and be more Alpha? Who knows..
Author WSeeker Posted May 27, 2014 Author Posted May 27, 2014 Sorry to hear you have this problem. Did you ever try and make a move on her whilst she was still single? Maybe keep hanging around and try and be more Alpha? Who knows.. Thank you for your reply. I have gone to, we can call them dates, with her and talked a lot with her. She told me she sees me as nothing more than friends so i think there is no attraction on her part (did i write this correctly?).
ebor Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 WSeeker, your English is great stop worrying about it. I don't know what I would do in your situation, but I think you need to think about yourself and put some distance between the two of you, and just ride out or drown this emotions. I expect you're familiar with this forum's signature move......NC.
Author WSeeker Posted May 27, 2014 Author Posted May 27, 2014 WSeeker, your English is great stop worrying about it. I don't know what I would do in your situation, but I think you need to think about yourself and put some distance between the two of you, and just ride out or drown this emotions. I expect you're familiar with this forum's signature move......NC. Thx for advice, i will initiate NC but do you think i should completely ignore her and not even say ,,hi'' when passing by?
ebor Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 I think you should say hi ... you don't want her to ask you why are you ignoring me. Try to cut on the emotional triggers like long conversation, late night texting, phone calls.... But in reality this very easy said and extremely hard to do. In this kind of situations there are no easy way outs, you have to climb back the hole you dug yourself into.
Author WSeeker Posted May 27, 2014 Author Posted May 27, 2014 Thank you very much for your thoughts, Ebor.
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