hood1994 Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 Hey all. New here, thanks for taking the time to help me out. Where to start... Basically in the past year I've come back into contact with a girl I knew during a previous relationship. She went to the same graduate school as me, so we were always barely available/able to hang out but messaged frequently. It was always pretty damn flirty, always joke about us dating, being in love, blahblah. We'd also talk about other hook ups/sexual frustrations. One time she even told me it was her birthday and she was going downtown to try some pick up lines and find a hook up. I said skip the pick up lines and come on up. She didn't respond for a bit so I fell asleep and woke up to a text that said "maybe that was the pick up line" or something to that effect. Mutual friends always say it's pretty flirty between us. There were two or three times in the past few months when she agreed to hang out just the two of us, watching a movie at her place or something but I couldn't for one reason or the other those nights. All that kind of adds up to me not being in the friend zone...however...she's talked about frustrations with ex boyfriends, other hook up interests (to be fair, I've brought hook ups up to her as well), and has known me for a really long time. Sometimes she doesn't play along with my flirting via text, other times she does. She does more than she doesn't. She's a bit awkward in person just to make things more confusing, not just towards me but in general. Sorry for the essay. I'm confused and frustrated as ****. Our schedules have freed up a lot lately so I'm going for it either way.
Gaeta Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Our schedules have freed up a lot lately so I'm going for it either way. I don't think you are friendzoned but she may only be interested in hooking up, is it what you were aiming at?
Author hood1994 Posted May 29, 2014 Author Posted May 29, 2014 I don't think you are friendzoned but she may only be interested in hooking up, is it what you were aiming at? While I may have a small crush on her, it's not like I think she's the one, or that I could see myself with her super long term. I'm inclined to think of her more as a hook up than a serious girlfriend, but kind of see myself as wanting something somewhere in the middle (not sure if that makes any sense).
Assasda Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 I dont think that youre friendzoned, but I think that youre close to being there. You should go out with her, and get to know her more as a person if you want to date her romantically. Get to know her favorite color, food and stuff like that, and cut out the friendzone flirting
Author hood1994 Posted May 29, 2014 Author Posted May 29, 2014 I dont think that youre friendzoned, but I think that youre close to being there. You should go out with her, and get to know her more as a person if you want to date her romantically. Get to know her favorite color, food and stuff like that, and cut out the friendzone flirting I was thinking of playing it casual until the next opportunity presents itself to hang out with just the two of us, seemed to be the best idea to avoid the friend zone. You think I should be more direct probably?
Author hood1994 Posted May 29, 2014 Author Posted May 29, 2014 We've kind have been messaging back and forth everyday this week since she's arrived home, I guess I was kind of passively waiting for the right moment. Maybe it's time to be more direct.
Woop1337 Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 If you ever start wondering, if you're in the friend zone. It's already too late. You're probably so deep into it, that she starts talking to you about other guys. 1
Author hood1994 Posted June 2, 2014 Author Posted June 2, 2014 If you ever start wondering, if you're in the friend zone. It's already too late. You're probably so deep into it, that she starts talking to you about other guys. That's what I thought...she has always talked to me about other guys. Then she told a mutual friend of ours she tried getting with me one time and I rejected her, which I didn't do...or at least, wasn't aware she was trying to whenever that was.
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