edgygirl Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 Would you guys give a chance to someone who used to be a LDR crush, whom you never met live, if he disappeared and came back after 1.5 years? It seems he got together with someone back then but I'm not sure as I'm not really talking to him and trying to not be responsive to his trials at being in touch again. This guy is the perfect match for me on paper, but didn't seem very emotionally mature by the way he handled things when we were in touch although he's 40ish. Of course I am not sure about this as we haven't met. The thing is the relationship I'm in is not really moving ahead after 4 months (it's not even official) and I think it's a good idea to start seeing other people. Any insights?
Eivuwan Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 First, have you talked to your current guy about your feelings?
FitChick Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 Perhaps he took out his immaturity on his now ex-girlfriend and would be more amenable to having a relationship with you again. He probably chose her for geographic convenience. You can resume a friendship but anything more would involve him coming to you and not the reverse to prove his intentions are good. Since you never met, you really can't decide one way or the other about him until you meet. Just don't let him use you as an emotional crutch while he looks for other women close by. 1
Author edgygirl Posted May 26, 2014 Author Posted May 26, 2014 Yes I did... but there are issues beyond my control. As me being around 40 and him being worried about me not being able to give him the two children he wants, most likely only one. Which leads me to think that his rational mind (confirmed by Myers-Briggs typology type and which shows he doesn't make decisions with his heart but through a logical process), he won't make up his mind in favor of staying with me, although the situation is very comfortable for him the way it is right now. While I'm getting tired of the whole waiting for him thing. First, have you talked to your current guy about your feelings?
Author edgygirl Posted May 26, 2014 Author Posted May 26, 2014 You're right, specially regarding him having to make the effort this time if interested. Thanks for always giving mature, witty opinions, FitChick. Perhaps he took out his immaturity on his now ex-girlfriend and would be more amenable to having a relationship with you again. He probably chose her for geographic convenience. You can resume a friendship but anything more would involve him coming to you and not the reverse to prove his intentions are good. Since you never met, you really can't decide one way or the other about him until you meet. Just don't let him use you as an emotional crutch while he looks for other women close by.
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