Mixed emotions

[kane30us]

okay, I'll try to keep it short. I've been dating this lady for two months now and I really like her. We had a great weekend together at a cabin in West Va. Lots of romance. But, when we got home her mood changed. She accused me of not always being a nice person and thinks we should just be friends. I'm like okay. I don't recall ever being mean but if friends is what you want then a friend I'll be.

 

Then, late last night (2am) I get a text from her telling me she had great time and she wishes I was in bed with her with other sexy details - I'll leave out. This morning I responded that I'm confused I really like you but if you want to be friends then you should act like it. For example sending sexy messages. Her response was "why are you so mean to me" (I don't get it) This girl is 39, like me. She's no child. But this push pull has gone on long enough. I am nothing but nice to her and all she does is point out faults in me. She even sent me a link to a book I should read to make me a better person. I even told her I'll check it out. Why I take it is beyond me. I guess I see all the good things in her and us when we are together. Ideas?

[Assasda]

Why do you get upset if she says youre mean?

Why do you let anything about what she says bother you?

-- Its all a test.

 

Its a test to see if you'll get mad when she's acting up, or if your unsure of yourself.

Just be centered and keep on keeping on, dont be flustered, and dont apologize, and you could probably do anything you want with this woman

[Gaeta]

okay, I'll try to keep it short. I've been dating this lady for two months now and I really like her. We had a great weekend together at a cabin in West Va. Lots of romance. But, when we got home her mood changed. She accused me of not always being a nice person and thinks we should just be friends. I'm like okay. I don't recall ever being mean but if friends is what you want then a friend I'll be.

 

Then, late last night (2am) I get a text from her telling me she had great time and she wishes I was in bed with her with other sexy details - I'll leave out. This morning I responded that I'm confused I really like you but if you want to be friends then you should act like it. For example sending sexy messages. Her response was "why are you so mean to me" (I don't get it) This girl is 39, like me. She's no child. But this push pull has gone on long enough. I am nothing but nice to her and all she does is point out faults in me. She even sent me a link to a book I should read to make me a better person. I even told her I'll check it out. Why I take it is beyond me. I guess I see all the good things in her and us when we are together. Ideas?

 

My politically correct answer is: Dating is so you get to find someone compatible to go forward together in a loving relationship. If after 2 months she thinks you are mean to her and obviously wants to change you by having you read 'books' you 2 are not compatible and should move on to better suited partners.

 

My real answer: She is manipulative nut case, discard asap and move to next.

[mrs rubble]

Sounds like being more than friends with her would be very hard work.

Unless you're prepared to work hard at a relationship, I'd leave her in the friendzone if I were you.

[FitChick]

I can't believe she is 39. Maybe she is taking anti-psychotic drugs like most of the population. Steer clear.

[ExpatInItaly]

She's not really into you, but likes the ego boost that you give her. When you didn't return the "favour" in the middle of the night, she felt a sting to her self-esteem. She's nutty. You're wise to stay away.