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Can you go back on exclusivity?


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If I read that title, my initial reaction would probably be 'No, of course not. Why would you even want to?'. But here's my situation...

 

I actually started another thread about this guy recently. Basically, we've been dating for a couple of months. We are sleeping together, so I told him I'd like us to be exclusive. He agreed to this (although, if I hadn't have brought it up, I don't know if he would have). We have a lot of fun, and he does try to see me usually a couple of time a week (I have other commitments, so can't do more than that). However, he doesn't show me much affection, for example, he doesn't hold my hand or kiss me goodbye, and I've never received nice text like I have with other guys (e.g. good morning). It's starting to feel like he doesn't really care.

 

Because of this, when it comes to being exclusive part of me thinks 'why should I?'. If he doesn't care, then he's probably not going to care if I date other people anyway. And by only dating him, my feelings are growing, and I don't want them to if his aren't. Also, I feel like if I hadn't brought up exclusivity, he wouldn't have, so we'd still be dating other people.

 

Probably a silly question, and the answer is probably my original thought of 'of course not!'. But I just thought I'd check.

 

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So from a dude's perspective - ya you could turn this into a FWB as long as he's not really I to you right now. If he harbors any feelings for you it could be tough.

Posted

On some level it is breaking up but I suppose it could be a FWB scenario too.

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Thanks for the replies.

 

I'm curious to know does he profess to others that you're his gf? Does he provide and protect?

 

 

According to Steve Harvey, those 3 things (profess, provide, protect) are what indicates that a man is all in.

 

 

THE MIND-SET OF A MAN. What Drives Men. - Revenge is Sweeter than You ever Were

 

No, he doesn't. At this moment in time, I can't imagine him ever saying that I am, or asking me to be his gf.

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