Thewayitwas2 Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 When you break up with someone (or divorce) should you take down photos on FB? Comments to each other about how much you love each other etc? What is normal protocol? Also what about in the house. If you divorce, would you keep family photos framed on the fireplace?
stateofgrace Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 I feel like this is a personal question... I don't think there's a "normal protocol". For me, my ex and I took A LOT of pictures. I deleted all the ones of just myself and him, but kept all the group shots of us and our friends, because they were still nice memories, and they weren't "lovey dovey" pictures. I also hid pictures that others had taken of us from my timeline, just so they weren't showing up. However, my ex still has pictures of us on his. My current boyfriend has a few of him and his ex as well, but I just don't let it bother me. I think with men, they don't think about that kinda thing. Women think about that more. I went through my pictures out of respect for the next person I ended up dating. But others may just not think about that. As for any comments or wall posts, I left them. I highly doubt my current boyfriend is going to go through my past wall posts to see what I wrote to my ex, and if he does...well that's weird anyways lol
d0nnivain Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 After ending a relationship, I put the photos away. I don't know about FB because I have never broken up with anybody since having a FB account but yeah, I'd probably put the photos on a thumb drive. If a divorce, I would probably put the pictures of an EX somewhere the kids could see them but that I didn't have to. I certainly would not object to pictures of the other parent in their room(s). I might be hard to swallow to see the other parent with their new SO & my kids but if it made the kids happy I'd like to think I could at least put on a brave mature front for them. At his funeral my EX's Ex-W actually asked me about a few pictures of me the family put up in the display. For the sake of their son, she & I made peace for a few days.
iris219 Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 Yes, I delete pictures from FB and I definitely would never have photos of an ex displayed in my house. I wouldn't throw them away, especially if I had kids, but I'd never display them. There's no way my FI would ever hang a picture of his ex in our house. That wouldn't even make sense and would be completely disrespectful to me.
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