Zahara Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 I don't have thick enough skin for this. It sucks putting yourself out there and getting knocked back down. As I've learned on my days with OLD -- thick skin is a prerequisite. You have to keep your expectations realistic and in check.
Mrin Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 Even though he says he believes me about me helping a friend on Cupid with her profile, I can't help but think that when I canceled a few times he seen that I was on there that week, that it writhe hurt his feelings or lost a trust we were trying to build. We've both been screwed over many times. So I'm sure trust is an issue, esp when thinking about all the times he made comments or digs about me talking to the other guy I went on a date with right before him. I have reassured him several times I hadn't talked to him or ran into him since that one date. I know I was hurt when I seen him online the first time. This. I would have interpreted your actions exactly like this and the war of pulling back and lining up other options would have commenced. That's assuming he saw you go online first. But if I may make one suggestion that you make sure you follow - stop texting each other and talk on the phone instead. This is a classic mixed signals, over thinking (on both sides), awfulizing everything, mountain out if molehill making saga. Texting is only making it worse. Look - you guys connect really well right? Like when you are together everything is like a direct connection. You get each other. But when you are apart - not so much. Right? So ratchet up your communication with calls instead of texts. Bet it would help out immensely! 1
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