iseestars Posted May 21, 2014 Posted May 21, 2014 I went out with my friend and his girlfriend and her friend. I played it cool all night and towards the end she seemed to me interested. She was taking photos with me asking me to go outside with her, we talked a lot and I asked her to do something sometime soon and she said yeah. We were walking to the bar and some guy came up to her and started talking to her, I didnt want to seem clingy, so I just kept walking and she came right back to me and said that guy thought we were together and he wanted me to dance but I didnt, I told her I wouldnt have cared but she said she was alright. I didn't ask her for her number but I added her on fb and she added me right away, but on the way home my friend and his girl got into a big fight and some bad things came out about me with that chick in the car. After we dropped her off I messaged her on fb just to tell her night she messaged back but it was kind of a different tone. The next day she liked the photos we were in together and I commented last night was fun. Then the next day I tried messaging her and she replied back but the way that don't keep the conversation going. I waited a few hours and told her I though we kinda clicked and I would like to take her out still and the thing on the way home was blown way out of proportion but she never got back to me?
Frank2thepoint Posted May 21, 2014 Posted May 21, 2014 but on the way home my friend and his girl got into a big fight and some bad things came out about me with that chick in the car. After we dropped her off I messaged her on fb just to tell her night she messaged back but it was kind of a different tone. Ah the joys of double dating. Especially with people that know you very well. Whatever the bad things were that came out, it may have turned this girl off. I didn't ask her for her number but I added her on fb Also, this was a big mistake. Facebook is for gossip, drama, cat photos, and keeping in touch with friends. If you are serious about dating, you ask for a number. This, and you playing it overly cool, probably was a factor to her thinking you aren't that interested. Your actions spoke louder than your Facebook words. 1
Author iseestars Posted May 21, 2014 Author Posted May 21, 2014 but i tried reaching out and explaining things were blown way out of proportion and still told her I wanted to take her out. But alas im guessing what happened in the car, is pry the reason for it. It is a shame she seemed like a good girl that I would have liked to get to know, and it was never stated as a double date, but it kind of through me for a loop when she didnt want to dance with that guy, I kinda felt like she was into me and didnt want to upset me or whatever.
BetrayedH Posted May 21, 2014 Posted May 21, 2014 What was the 'bad stuff' about you and how was it blown out of proportion? 1
Babolat Posted May 21, 2014 Posted May 21, 2014 I went out with my friend and his girlfriend and her friend. I played it cool all night and towards the end she seemed to me interested. She was taking photos with me asking me to go outside with her, we talked a lot and I asked her to do something sometime soon and she said yeah. We were walking to the bar and some guy came up to her and started talking to her, I didnt want to seem clingy, so I just kept walking and she came right back to me and said that guy thought we were together and he wanted me to dance but I didnt, I told her I wouldnt have cared but she said she was alright. I didn't ask her for her number but I added her on fb and she added me right away, but on the way home my friend and his girl got into a big fight and some bad things came out about me with that chick in the car. After we dropped her off I messaged her on fb just to tell her night she messaged back but it was kind of a different tone. The next day she liked the photos we were in together and I commented last night was fun. Then the next day I tried messaging her and she replied back but the way that don't keep the conversation going. I waited a few hours and told her I though we kinda clicked and I would like to take her out still and the thing on the way home was blown way out of proportion but she never got back to me? Why did you add her to FB? What on earth is this new way to get to know people, called Facebbok? Really? Get her # and CALL HER! She is not "your friend", yet! 1
Author iseestars Posted May 21, 2014 Author Posted May 21, 2014 @ betrayedh drug use and how I was a junkie. My friends girlfriend just bringing up how I am a bad influence and whatever, but it definitely was not the whole truth. I seen his girlfriend the next day and she was all cool to me too, my buddy told her she better smooth things over with her, but i dont think it happend. As for the facebook thing I have no idea why I didn't ask her for her number. It never crossed my mind for some reason....
shet Posted May 21, 2014 Posted May 21, 2014 That's some bull**** man. I'd question what the value in these friends are if they're going to drop ancient history on your dates. Cruel and unusual. 1
d0nnivain Posted May 21, 2014 Posted May 21, 2014 Drug use, even in the past is an absolute deal breaker for some people. In addition if this girl sees her friend's relationship as rocky, she won't want to connect herself with anybody who will remind her friend of her EX.
Frank2thepoint Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 but i tried reaching out and explaining things were blown way out of proportion and still told her I wanted to take her out. But alas im guessing what happened in the car, is pry the reason for it. It is a shame she seemed like a good girl that I would have liked to get to know, and it was never stated as a double date, but it kind of through me for a loop when she didnt want to dance with that guy, I kinda felt like she was into me and didnt want to upset me or whatever. At this point, you should just let it go. What transpired that night, how it played out, happened and there's nothing else you can do, but move on. Maybe in a few weeks you can contact her on Facebook, ask for her number, and tell her you want to take her out for a date. Keep it simple, but direct. Don't bring up the past, unless she asks, then be honest and sincere. @ betrayedh drug use and how I was a junkie. My friends girlfriend just bringing up how I am a bad influence and whatever, but it definitely was not the whole truth. I seen his girlfriend the next day and she was all cool to me too, my buddy told her she better smooth things over with her, but i dont think it happend. As for the facebook thing I have no idea why I didn't ask her for her number. It never crossed my mind for some reason.... The part about abusing drugs seems like it was too much information for the girl to handle. This probably turned her off, probably completely. You can't control that, some people just don't want anything to do with it, even if it was your past. As for your friend and his girlfriend, that's something you need to settle. These petty arguments may come up again in the future.
Author iseestars Posted May 22, 2014 Author Posted May 22, 2014 Besides the end of the night do you guys think she was interested from turning down the guy to dance and being by side the whole night
d0nnivain Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 Yes, those earlier behaviors were signs of interest but she apparently changed her mind later.
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