Takataka Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 I guess this post technically shouldn't be on the dating thread but here goes. In late April I began hooking up with a co worker of mine who I've always felt mutual attraction for. We've hooked up a few times and it's really fun working together with all the flirting we do, even more than before we hooked up. Yesterday at work was the same, him giving me googley eyes and asking if their is anything he can help me with and just lots of flirting. He gets really jealous when our guy customers try to flirt with me. We both agreed we'd just be friends with benefits. Anyway, later in the day he got a text from an old fling of his, asking to be friends again and blah blah. He started rubbing this in my face but I'm not sure why. I kept my cool and just said "that's nice sounds like it'll be a good summer." He then started talking about hanging out with an ex girlfriend after work (who has a boyfriend). What I'm wondering is if he did this with intentions? Trying to make me jealous? See my reaction? Am I looking too deep into it? I honestly don't really mind but I obviously kinda like him but I'm ok that nothing will come out of it but I know he feels the same. Thoughts?
TXGuy Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 That sounds like a crappy thing for him to do. The only reason I can think of for him doing this is to emphasize to you that it is just fwb, and that he is not looking for this to slip into a relationship. But, I would assume that type of behavior would torpedo the fwb. Do you still want to hook up with this guy? I'm curious if this makes you want him more or less. 2
Author Takataka Posted May 20, 2014 Author Posted May 20, 2014 Less! It may be immature on my part but I want to devise a plan to have an old guy friend come into my work and ask me out on a date. War? Yes but I'm bord it's summer and I'm working 50 hours a week I have nothing to lose lol
FitChick Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 Sounds like he is trying to make you jealous. Reassure him that if he wants to get back together with an old flame that you will bow out gracefully, if indeed you aren't interested in him. 2
Author Takataka Posted May 20, 2014 Author Posted May 20, 2014 Indeed I did I said "nice sounds like it'll be a good summer" then he started saying it's still early in the summer he's gotta hit up some bars then brought up his ex girlfriend
todreaminblue Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 Less! It may be immature on my part but I want to devise a plan to have an old guy friend come into my work and ask me out on a date. War? Yes but I'm bord it's summer and I'm working 50 hours a week I have nothing to lose lol It doesnt really matter what he si doing if you have this mindset.......you both are playing games....good luck....deb 1
Author Takataka Posted May 20, 2014 Author Posted May 20, 2014 I'm hoping it was just to see reaction. He's a nice dude lol and I'm pretty sure he'd flat out tell me if he wanted things to stop but my mind is cloudy about it now I have wayyyy too many opinions of what it could be
Author Takataka Posted May 20, 2014 Author Posted May 20, 2014 Todreaminblue yes very true but I guess if he wants to play games I'm game for that
Assasda Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 I'm just wondering how this FWB ida came up. Seems foolish if you ask me. Because if you have sex with other people youre not gonna have sex with each other anymore. Well, you can in theory, but it would just be sanalous and low down. I think your real quesstion for us is. "How do I make our FWB relationship become a real relationship?" but youre riding that pride
todreaminblue Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 Todreaminblue yes very true but I guess if he wants to play games I'm game for that He is jealous obviously...and i just want to say this......do you feel something other than wanting to play games....be careful playing games because if you actually feel for him, if you are just trying to pretend you dont really care, normally that means you are going to get hurt playing at anything other than what it is you really feel...that wont be a game for you...deb
Author Takataka Posted May 20, 2014 Author Posted May 20, 2014 I'm not sure exactly I do and I don't. I think I like him I like how we're exactly alike but different and how we interact. It's just implanted in my head that we will not date, and I'm alright with that. Maybe someday but I feel like if something happens it'd either be a beautiful beginning or a civilized, friendly ending
Author Takataka Posted May 20, 2014 Author Posted May 20, 2014 TXguy sorry I'm not sure I understand what you just said lol
preraph Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 He's passive-aggressive. Anytime he says he's doing something with someone, I'd follow it up with, "Yeah, I have plans that night anyway." I wouldn't stick with him for long. He might get retaliatory at work though. 1
Author Takataka Posted May 20, 2014 Author Posted May 20, 2014 Assasda I just read your reply now but we went on a date once about a year ago. It was nice he asked if he could come in to meet my mother but my father said no. My father is our boss at work so we decided maybe we shouldn't date while he is working for my father. Maybe I should have mentioned that lol but yeaaaa complicated stuff I guess. We've both been with other people since then
Author Takataka Posted May 20, 2014 Author Posted May 20, 2014 Nothing else I guess lol but thanks guys good advice!
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