jt27 Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 My ex would consistently have dreams that I cheated on her (I never did). From the very beginning to months before she left me. Afterwards she would act very weird towards me. She never really told me why. I have my theories on why she always had these dreams ranging from attachment and abandonment issues to other insecurities. Anyone have an ex that had these types of dreams? How did you interpret them? Did she say why? Anyone have these dreams? Why?
pteromom Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 Yes, I've had those types of dreams, and they are very vivid, and you wake up pissed at your partner for the things he/she did in your dream. The reason why is simple - because we all have internal fear of being left alone or rejected or not being "good enough". So that fear comes out in dreams. 2
Author jt27 Posted May 20, 2014 Author Posted May 20, 2014 The reason why is simple - because we all have internal fear of being left alone or rejected or not being "good enough". So that fear comes out in dreams. It's just strange. She had these dreams leading right up to the break up where she left me! Ugh.
STM206 Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 1.) She dreamed it because she was capable of it 2.) She cared intensely about you and had this fear of losing you. Dreams are so weird. My ex would have dreams about "losing me and not being able to find me" and actually would choke up when telling me about it. Guess those dreams don't mean **** now though do they.
pteromom Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 It's just strange. She had these dreams leading right up to the break up where she left me! Ugh. Maybe her fear won, and talked her out of her feelings. It happens. 1
Author jt27 Posted May 20, 2014 Author Posted May 20, 2014 I know there is more to our breakup than this but...any thoughts on she feared I would eventually leave her so she left me first?
learning_slowly Posted May 21, 2014 Posted May 21, 2014 The reason why is simple - because we all have internal fear of being left alone or rejected or not being "good enough". So that fear comes out in dreams. I wouldn't say we all have that fear. I know I haven't since my first break up. My most recent breakup hit me a little, but I never feared it, as I was always so secure. I also know I will feel unhappy over the situation for a while, but I'll bounce back and new relationships will occur to replace it; as has happened in the past. These new relationships will bring new ideas and interests that may not have occurred otherwise. So breaking up should not always be looked upon negatively. Yes, it does feel bad, but alot of things which eventually bring great pleasure are painful, e.g. having a baby.
learning_slowly Posted May 21, 2014 Posted May 21, 2014 I know there is more to our breakup than this but...any thoughts on she feared I would eventually leave her so she left me first? Not if she was sane. And if she was not sane, then you are definitely better off out of it. My ex was slightly crazy, which attracted me and yet worried me at the same time. From a logical point of view, I'm better off with out those mood swings.
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