Is he into me?

[nobodie]

I met this guy whom I knew from an online dating site .the date went well and I sort of developed romantic feelings/interest for him. He messaged me the next day telling me that he would like to take me out again for a drink. I told him that I don't drink , I'm more of a traditional type of woman and he said he likes it.

I took it as a hint that he is interested in me

He even said that he would like to celebrate my birthday with me.

 

For the past few days since our meeting, he has been greeting me good morning ....we don't talk much (he takes ages to reply citing that he's busy at work) but send his regards to me.

 

I complimented that he's cute and nice to hint that I'm romantically interested in him. To my disappointment and regret, he replied that yes "he's cute like a bear", previously he shown me a pic of a bear he took in an overseas trip. I was quite disappointed as I wanted him to return the compliment or sort of responded to my "flirting compliments " . Then I said nope I don't refer you to a bear. He then told me that he's tired and need to turn in for the day.

 

As such, do u think this guy is possibly romantic interested in me? Or he merely sees me as a friend/acquintance for hangouts /casual contacts or time filler ...

 

Appreciate your honest feedback

[Michelle ma Belle]

So you have only been out on one official date?

 

First, get OFF the texting already! You sound young which might explain this obsession with texting as a means of front line communication. It is so hard to convey emotion with a few alphabets strung together.

 

Second, stop giving him compliment hoping he'll return the favor! You are in for a world of hurt if you approach every relationship, romantic or otherwise, looking for someone to stroke your ego. That's YOUR job, not someone else's.

 

As far as wanting to know if we think this guy is into you, my personal diagnosis is that he likes you (otherwise he wouldn't have asked you out and continues to text with you) BUT I think he's still neck deep in that "testing the water" period with you.

 

Men are pretty simple creatures. If they're into you, you will KNOW IT beyond a shadow of a doubt. They will move mountains to be with you and hold your attention, at least in the very beginning.

 

I think this guy enjoys your company but he's probably talking with and maybe even dating other girls at the same time. Not unusual and certainly acceptable since you've only just met and there hasn't been any talk about being exclusive.

 

Regardless, DON'T wait around for him. If you're on an OLD site, continue chatting and dating other guys. If this guy really is interested in you, let him come to you and let you know it. And STOP fishing for compliments. That is a sign of someone very needy. Don't be that girl.

 

Good luck.

[Assasda]

Personally, I dont think he's that crazy about you, at least right now.

 

Trying to fish for compliments is rough, never do it. Its also a terrible turn-off. So hopefully you didnt look too disappointed when he didnt tell you want you anted to hear.

 

Anyway, a good way to get him to think about you more romantically, is to ask him questions about himself when you get the chance. Ask him what he likes, and how he feels about certain topics, and be generally interesting.

From what I got from your post, your communication with him seems a little shallow

[nobodie]

he didnt contact me again today

what does it means?

[halfcrazed_i]

It sounds like he was pretty into you initially...

 

I'm not sure what you guys were texting about, but perhaps there was something that he didn't like about the conversation that made him put his distance... Or perhaps he just doesn't like texting much (but it's all you guys seem to be doing, so he got tired of it).

 

Could be a multitude of things, really.

 

Also, Michelle Ma Belle is right. If you expect him to stroke your ego just because you stroked his... you're in for a world of disappointment. It never works that way. Maybe he somehow caught wind of that, and got turned off? I don't like it when people fish for compliments either.

[Daisy-oliviaWentcher]

I don't understand texting or overly texting. It doesn't seem natural and it shows inexperience..I had to tell this guy to "CALL ME" he's not use to calling? I find behaviour like that odd. People hide behind texting and it's not a great start for relationships.. If he doesn't make more effort like a simple phone call? I'd probably move on. Up to you though.

[johnpatric]

Honestly I don't think so he is crazy about you.. but he will if you keep contacting him and make a good conversation with him.. may be because he can develop feelings for you in her heart and try to make a first move.. if he will not contact you then wait for some time and the if he still not try to contact you then you should contact him and just tell him how you feel about him and be clear it from your side..

[nobodie]

i asked him out the other day, but he declined.

Then i know his birthday is approaching and asked if hes celebrating, he then asked me if im free on that day (unfortunately nope..as I had appts).

 

in that case, if he is interested in me, why did he decline my date invitation?

[user165464]

i asked him out the other day, but he declined.

Then i know his birthday is approaching and asked if hes celebrating, he then asked me if im free on that day (unfortunately nope..as I had appts).

 

in that case, if he is interested in me, why did he decline my date invitation?

 

Hard to say really but it shouldn't matter if he wants to meet on his birthday, right?

Edited May 25, 2014 by user165464

[nobodie]

but i was the one who sort of initiated it....like asking oh so u are celebrating yr birthday this sat? ...leading him to ask me if i happen to be free on his birthday...

[HappyLove]

He's not that into you. Stop chasing him. If he's interested he WILL ask you out.