Vicky321 Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 Hey guys.. So I'm 18 now, and I'm going to this bar that is for 18+ for a few months now, even though I wasn't 18 when I started hanging out there.. I go there with my friends and now we're close with the manager of the place and all the bartenders, I met this bartender who hit on me the first time we met, he's 23 but I told him the truth that I was 17, and he told me it bothered him, but we kept running into each other every time I was there, and some how we ended up having sex, twice. Even though it wasn't "legal". Anyways we said we'll keep it between us and he got the idea that I'm not looking for a relationship, idk why,and he said that if someone falls in love or something we end this and I agreed. Anyways even after I was 18 he still wasn't interested very much and suddenly he got a girlfriend and the shocking part was that she was my age and he said he needs to be with girls his age. And after a week or so he started telling me how important I was to him and his relationship is not working out (he was pretty drunk). Anyways what the hell does he want from me? He is getting on my last nerves, he is very unclear about what he feels for me, he says he doesn't want a relationship but then he has a girlfriend, then he says he doesn't want her and he comes up to my friend and sarcastically asks her "what do I have to do to make her my girlfriend?" I mean, get a grip on yourself. It is unnecessary to say I really want to be with that guy. But what should I do?!
PegNosePete Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 Sorry to say... He wants more sex with you. He wants a girlfriend but he doesn't want it to be you. 2
Chocolat Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 Sorry to say... He wants more sex with you. He wants a girlfriend but he doesn't want it to be you. x100 (10 char)
Author Vicky321 Posted May 20, 2014 Author Posted May 20, 2014 Sorry to say... He wants more sex with you. He wants a girlfriend but he doesn't want it to be you. Thank you guys for being honest...really, I needed that, it might be but I really think its something else, cause even when I offered just sex he was like rejecting the idea,but then he shows interest again.. It's very weird of him. It's not like I'm bad in bed or I'm ugly or something trust me it's none of those haha:)
ExpatInItaly Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 Thank you guys for being honest...really, I needed that, it might be but I really think its something else, cause even when I offered just sex he was like rejecting the idea,but then he shows interest again.. It's very weird of him. It's not like I'm bad in bed or I'm ugly or something trust me it's none of those haha:) Honestly, OP, once you get a bit older and have more experience, you'll see that this is pretty typical of some people. What you've described is nothing new or weird, unfortunately. He doesn't want a relationship with you. He wants sex. He likely rejected the idea before because he'd rather chase and get it and then you offer it up. I'd stay away given the fact that he has a girlfriend. He's obviously crappy boyfriend material, anyway.
soccerrprp Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 You're his latest sex victim and he's hoping that he can get more sex out of you w/o commitment. Young girls like you are easily impressed. You had sex with him before you were even a committed couple. He dated another 18 year old b/c, again, you girls at that age tend to be very impressionable and gullible. He's not concerned about the age, he wants sex.
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