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[Mochalatte]

I am attracted to my daughters senior elective class high school teacher. He is my age, and he is single. He seems pretty nervous around me, but kind to me. When I first tried approaching him a year ago, I used to think I may have been offended him in some way because he seemed to duck away hurriedly during duty when I came near him. My best friend said her husband did the same when they first met. She actually thought he hated her.

I have wanted to get to know this man but it is a tough boundary situation...he teaches my daughter. And I would die of embarrassment for her and myself if he shot me down! I volunteer regularly but we miss being in the same circle during events.

I had hoped to have seen him at the last event but he didn't participate. So I basically said forget it...if it's meant to be so it will. I gave up!

The next day he sent a friend request to me via facebook. I accepted! But, he hasn't inboxed me... to spark a convo. It's been two days now. I've been divorced, and hurt in the dating realm in the past with deceitful men. But I took time away to heal and time to be alone on my own. I've known of this man for two years. I guess he has been in the shadows and unknowingly unnoticed with my personal drama going on around me. He has a two year old daughter so I'm sure he has been pretty wrapped up as well.

 

Do you think that maybe his friendship request was simply plutonic? Should I make the next move? I'm new at this, and I don't want to mess it up.

Thanks guys...

[Dallers]

I am attracted to my daughters senior elective class high school teacher. He is my age, and he is single. He seems pretty nervous around me, but kind to me. When I first tried approaching him a year ago, I used to think I may have been offended him in some way because he seemed to duck away hurriedly during duty when I came near him. My best friend said her husband did the same when they first met. She actually thought he hated her.

I have wanted to get to know this man but it is a tough boundary situation...he teaches my daughter. And I would die of embarrassment for her and myself if he shot me down! I volunteer regularly but we miss being in the same circle during events.

I had hoped to have seen him at the last event but he didn't participate. So I basically said forget it...if it's meant to be so it will. I gave up!

The next day he sent a friend request to me via facebook. I accepted! But, he hasn't inboxed me... to spark a convo. It's been two days now. I've been divorced, and hurt in the dating realm in the past with deceitful men. But I took time away to heal and time to be alone on my own. I've known of this man for two years. I guess he has been in the shadows and unknowingly unnoticed with my personal drama going on around me. He has a two year old daughter so I'm sure he has been pretty wrapped up as well.

 

Do you think that maybe his friendship request was simply plutonic? Should I make the next move? I'm new at this, and I don't want to mess it up.

Thanks guys...

 

Life is too short, Stephen Sutton showed us this.

 

This guy teaches your daughter which puts him in a potentially dangerous position should he decide to ask you out. It is quite obvious that he likes you but he is rightly cautious to not put his job in jeopardy. His friend request on Facebook might well have been completely harmless.....lol come on no it wasn't he was hoping it would spark a convo so that he could find out if you liked him.

 

You are in a far better position here to make the move and you say you like him so what are you waiting for, stop dwelling any longer and message him! 2 years is long enough! You have nothing to lose.

[Assasda]

You should definately make the move, because the guy CANNOT put himself out there with the situation that he's in.

Next time you see him ask him to go out for coffee, or ask him what he does for fun on his off time.

 

Dont beat around the bush

[Mochalatte]

Thank you! I sent him a neutral worded inbox... let's see where this goes! I do appreciate your responses...and I will let you know what becomes of it. I'm so excited:D