Keenly Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 ok. Here's a question. How does someone 'get back' at their child by having sex with their child's best friend?? I mean, everyone knows how I feel about this kind of thing in general. Especially when the younger one is THIS young... I'm opposed to it. How does this negatively affect the relationship with the son except for the gross-out factor for him. If the genders were reversed (older guy, younger woman), lots of people here wouldn't bat an eyelash.... They'd pat him on the back for using his daughter's social network to get some. Seriously? you're going to bring that garbage into this thread too? talk about off topic...
bubbaganoosh Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 There's lines you JUST DON'T CROSS. What she did was an example of a pathetic individual who has no dignity or any kind of self respect. Maybe her son has anger issues before but now she just turned up the heat to the boiling point and if there ever was a way to mend any fences, she just blew that to hell and back. Some people just aren't meant to be parents. 1
Author Tressugar Posted May 20, 2014 Author Posted May 20, 2014 Her son had anger issues ever since his birth. I always remember him being p*ssed off about something. What my friend does behind closed doors has no reflection of who I am as a person. Just like who I chose to marry says nothing about her character. I personally wouldn't choose to sleep with my children's friends. But one mistake my friend made doesn't make her a bad person.
TheGuard13 Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 Has anyone said "Nice" yet? Also, has anyone considered that this friend telling her she'd sleep with her son's friend to piss off her son is just cover/an excuse because her friend actually wants to sleep with him? The friend probably wants her to say "Forget pissing off your son, just go for it!"
Author Tressugar Posted May 20, 2014 Author Posted May 20, 2014 I want my friend to find someone who is age appropriate and who is available. She knows of what my desires are for her. Again, she's an adult. She is ultimately responsible for own decision.
ThatMan Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 How your friend was behaving is bat**** insane. Just about everybody would be creeped out by her and refuse to associate themselves with a person like that, mistake or not. And who you associate yourself with absolutely does reflect on your character. It would be a miracle for anyone to grow up and not be filled with anger if their parent behaved this way throughout their entire life. So I've gotta admit, it really makes me question what sharing a house with this woman was like these past few decades, especially when her way of dealing with anger includes sleeping with her child's friend to get even. Nobody is perfect and maybe she's severely mentally ill, in a really dark place right now, or has some kind of horrible life struggle. Does she view her own actions as a mistake or do you? If she does, good for her. I don't know or frankly care whether or not she's a bad person. It's her behavior that's bad and she isn't conducting herself behind closed doors if you're fully aware of the situation.
RedRobin Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 Seriously? you're going to bring that garbage into this thread too? talk about off topic... Oh, I see. Sleeping with someone young enough to be your child's friend from high school is OK as long as it isn't actually their child's friend. Sorry I missed that distinction. ... and this is totally on topic. People want to talk about motives. Ok. Let's do that. So, she is sleeping with someone to get back at someone else in her family. That's effed up no matter what the age or relationship. The fact that she is so much older than her child's friend, puts her in a position of greater responsibility. As I've said adnauseum in the other thread. Male or female. I don't care. The older one is SUPPOSED to be the 'adult'. As far as the young man goes who she slept with. If we assume he has half a brain, then he should be held responsible for betraying his friendship to her son. He's responsible too. Men aren't prisoners of their biology... as much as some people prefer to believe they are. I personally would not want to be part of any of this... and would likely take it as the proverbial 'straw that broke the camel's back' and use that as the reason to find a friend whose life isn't nearly as filled with drama and bad intent. Can anyone say "Jerry Springer"??
joystickd Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 Oh, I see. Sleeping with someone young enough to be your child's friend from high school is OK as long as it isn't actually their child's friend. Sorry I missed that distinction. ... and this is totally on topic. People want to talk about motives. Ok. Let's do that. So, she is sleeping with someone to get back at someone else in her family. That's effed up no matter what the age or relationship. The fact that she is so much older than her child's friend, puts her in a position of greater responsibility. As I've said adnauseum in the other thread. Male or female. I don't care. The older one is SUPPOSED to be the 'adult'. As far as the young man goes who she slept with. If we assume he has half a brain, then he should be held responsible for betraying his friendship to her son. He's responsible too. Men aren't prisoners of their biology... as much as some people prefer to believe they are. I personally would not want to be part of any of this... and would likely take it as the proverbial 'straw that broke the camel's back' and use that as the reason to find a friend whose life isn't nearly as filled with drama and bad intent. Can anyone say "Jerry Springer"?? So women aren't predatory?
RedRobin Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 The fact that she is so much older than her child's friend, puts her in a position of greater responsibility. As I've said adnauseum in the other thread. Male or female. I don't care. The older one is SUPPOSED to be the 'adult'. So women aren't predatory? See above. I'm not in favor of large age gap 'relationships' no matter which gender is the older one. For all of the reasons I stated elsewhere. I DO find it odd that some of the same people who are jumping down this woman's throat are so very delicate and accepting when the dynamic is the other way around. Older man/younger woman. Saying 'we can't judge'.... and 'oh, maybe they will find love'... 'and that is just their preference'... blah blah. People might need to ask themselves why the turn around.
joystickd Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 See above. I'm not in favor of large age gap 'relationships' no matter which gender is the older one. For all of the reasons I stated elsewhere. I DO find it odd that some of the same people who are jumping down this woman's throat are so very delicate and accepting when the dynamic is the other way around. Older man/younger woman. Saying 'we can't judge'.... and 'oh, maybe they will find love'... 'and that is just their preference'... blah blah. People might need to ask themselves why the turn around. You actually only said it in this thread. The other all you did was talk shyte about men which is your usual thing no checking women on bad behavior and when that gets mentioned you totally avoid it
xxoo Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 Intentionally hurting your child is bottom of the barrel horrible behavior. I can't even fathom it. The rest of the details are insignificant in comparison. 2
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