Tressugar Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 Okay here's another one for you. I have a friend who has a turbulent relationship with her 20 year old son. He has major anger issues and is mean to his mother a lot of the time. He has a job and lives on his own . In another one of their many volatile arguments my friend decides to get back at her son by having sex with his best friend. The son's friend is 20 years old as well. Now her son and his friend are at odds with each other. And the son is mad at his mom, my friend, for sleeping with his friend. Do you feel my friend crossed boundaries or can two adults have consensual sex? Now my friend wants to have a sexual relationship with her son's friend.
Keenly Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 This is not two adults consenting to some sex. This is a malicious attempt by your friend to deliberately hurt her own son, which by default makes her a terrible person. Nice job mom. 11
mammasita Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 This is not two adults consenting to some sex. This is a malicious attempt by your friend to deliberately hurt her own son, which by default makes her a terrible person. Nice job mom. Exactly this! I like younger men, but come on.....her son's friend to spite her son? That's just TWISTED 3
stillafool Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 I can't believe the son's friend wanted the mom. Aren't there any goodlooking young girls around.
Stillits Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 Uh, yes, she crossed the boundaries. It's pathetically petty to get revenge like this. Seems she has some "growing up" to do, I would absolutely cut my father out of my life if he did something like this out of spite.
GorillaTheater Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 Your friends have some screwed up dynamics ... Nothing "technically" wrong with a consensual relationship with adults, but her reasons for entering into this one are pretty screwed up and immature. I don't see it ending well. Not to mention the impact it's going to have for some time to come, maybe forever, on her already crappy relationship with her son. 1
gaius Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 Sounds like she just wanted him and used the argument as an excuse. Sure might explain why the son has such anger issues though. Doesn't seem like she gives the least bit of a sht about him if she would do something like that. 2
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 Agreed. Sick and twisted is all that is coming to mind. As a mother and as a parent to a teenage son, I find this beyond disturbing on so many levels. 1
Iguanna Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 Some people don't deserve to be called parents or having kids for that matter. 1
somedude81 Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 I can't believe the son's friend wanted the mom. Aren't there any goodlooking young girls around. Ha! I'm sure the friend jumped at the opportunity to have sex with the mom. A guy that age would gladly have sex with a 40ish woman as long as she was somewhat decent looking.
GorillaTheater Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 Officially he is now a mother f**ker No shame in that. I've been pretty hot for a GILF over the past couple of years. 1
RedRobin Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 ok. Here's a question. How does someone 'get back' at their child by having sex with their child's best friend?? I mean, everyone knows how I feel about this kind of thing in general. Especially when the younger one is THIS young... I'm opposed to it. How does this negatively affect the relationship with the son except for the gross-out factor for him. If the genders were reversed (older guy, younger woman), lots of people here wouldn't bat an eyelash.... They'd pat him on the back for using his daughter's social network to get some.
GorillaTheater Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 How does this negatively affect the relationship with the son except for the gross-out factor for him. Seriously? Mom takes out her issues with her son by banging one of his friends? He then is left with the knowledge that his mother is so bereft of maturity and emotional clarity that she thinks this is a viable solution to their issues? And that doesn't strike you as very damaging? How would you feel if your dad got pissed at you and decided that the best way to deal with it is to bang your high school bff? Oh look, you address that next: If the genders were reversed (older guy, younger woman), lots of people here wouldn't bat an eyelash.... They'd pat him on the back for using his daughter's social network to get some. If I needed any further proof of how absolutely little you think of men, this would do fine. If I didn't recognize that there's something fundamentally wrong with you, I'd tell you to kiss my ass. 6
RedRobin Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 (edited) Seriously? Mom takes out her issues with her son by banging one of his friends? He then is left with the knowledge that his mother is so bereft of maturity and emotional clarity that she thinks this is a viable solution to their issues? And that doesn't strike you as very damaging? How would you feel if your dad got pissed at you and decided that the best way to deal with it is to bang your high school bff? Oh look, you address that next: If I needed any further proof of how absolutely little you think of men, this would do fine. If I didn't recognize that there's something fundamentally wrong with you, I'd tell you to kiss my ass. I happen to feel large age gap relationships (or whatever) are fundamentally wrong for all the reasons I explained in another thread. This thread just provides one more example. If you want to be consistent, then why not also go after the young man who had sex with his best friend's mother? What is going on in HIS life that he thought that was ok?? Mommy issues?? Seems like he's betraying his best friend (her son) too by going along with it. So, it's ok because he's a young man and young men have needs? If the mother is somehow the only one culpable here... then why aren't you holding older men culpable for their behavior in similar situations? As for me, I'm totally consistent. I'm against those arrangements. I couldn't care less what the underlying drama of the day is... because it is nearly almost always dysfunctional and should be avoided. Edited May 19, 2014 by RedRobin
Imported Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 Sounds like her son has very good reasons for having "anger issues". 2
GorillaTheater Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 If you want to be consistent, then why not also go after the young man who had sex with his best friend's mother? What is going on in HIS life that he thought that was ok?? Mommy issues?? Seems like he's betraying his best friend (her son) too by going along with it. So, it's ok because he's a young man and young men have needs? If the mother is somehow the only one culpable here... then why aren't you holding older men culpable for their behavior in similar situations? I can only post on threads I notice. Feel free to send me a link to the threads where you want me to trash somebody. Thanks.
RedRobin Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 ... and how would *I* feel?? I'd feel just as grossed out whether my dad (uncle, grandfather, or any male relative) was effing my best friend from high school or someone young enough to be my best friend from high school. I think I made that clear in the other thread. I'd also think they weren't a very good friend either. Heck my friends would never even DATE anyone I've dated before, much less my parent, lol.
gaius Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 How come this sounds like something on a porn Cause it's a fantasy a lot of people have. I have to admit I'm hoping they go through with it for selfish reasons. =/ Besides, maybe it will be the push the kid needs to get away from his hideous mother forever. Which would only improve his life overall. This can't be the first form of terrible parenting she's indulged in.
Targetlock Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 Wow!! i am shocked by the level some people will go to hurt people even their own children, no wonder the son is messed up! and its not like an affair or an encounter and its actually going out of their way to hurt their child by this way! and with friends and family like that who needs enemies! the world has gone mad.
joystickd Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 How many guys in your early 20s or late teens would turn down sex from a friend's mom that was beautiful? Really be honest. It's easy to get on a forum and say that but remember https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HhfTaOkHY1k
ThatMan Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 You have poor choices in friends. It does reflect on your character, especially since your sitting there pondering if your friend should pursue this sexual relationship. Nevermind the fact your friend is a spiteful and malicious person. Nevermind the fact that she deals with conflict by ruthlessly trying to hurt other people. Nevermind the fact that her behavior very likely taught this twenty year old man to accept hateful malice as his model of the world by teaching it to him. No, let's focus on the more important issue of second guessing if the relationship is taboo or not. Yeah, okay. 2
lollipopspot Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 my friend decides to get back at her son by having sex with his best friend What else does anyone need to know that this? This is a mean, petty, and hurtful thing to do. I wouldn't want anything to do with someone who would do this to their child. If things go south, what's she going to do to you? Sleep with your guy? Harm your pet? 2
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