mindless14 Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 My fiance and I have been together 6 years. We have a 3 year old and a baby on the way. Due in 10 weeks. He told me a little over a month ago that he's not happy anymore. He loves me, but isn't in love with me, and he wants a break. Over the course of a month, we've gotten back together, broken up, called it a break to give us time and space, and all out just said we're breaking up forever. We're still living together, although he has left at times and stayed somewhere else to get some space when needed. This all comes from a lot of things. Mainly, he hasn't felt that I love or care for him as much as he has me in the past 6 years. He says recently he's seen a change, and feels all of this from me, but isn't sure if he can feel the same for me anymore, because it may just be too late. He says he's a afraid to try again at the relationship because he's afraid of old problems coming back, and his feelings not coming back. He's afraid that we could both be happier outside of the relationship and will miss out on it by settling for each other. However, we still interact as friends, have good times together and get along well, except when talking about our relationship and what to do about it. We still do things together, and I really feel there is still feelings there, even though he says there is not. Sometimes he will randomly hug me or something. It feels like it's there for him, but when it comes out, he catches himself and stops it. He has said that nothing is definate, but at least for right now it isn't working and we will just have to see how it plays out in the future. He feels it will be easier to make a decision after the baby is born. As of right now,we are not together. We are living together, as a family, still doing things together, just acting as friends though. I dont know what to do. Give him space until he comes to me to say he's either staying or leaving? Try harder to show him how much I love and care for him? Just be his friend and disregard the relationship or desire for one and see how it turns out? I want nothing more than to have him back, but I want him to be happy. It seems as though we can have that together like we used to, but I don't know how to get there right now. He's not at all willing at the moment to step back into a relationship, and his only hint at another chance is that "if we decide breaking up was a mistake, we can get back together." He's still talking to me as if nothing ever happened, you wouldn't know there was a change, except there is no kissing, hugging, touching. Last night, he even watched a movie with me for a few hours, talked with me, and went into bed with me. For the past month he's been either sleeping on the couch or coming into bed at like 3am.
FredJones80 Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 although he has left at times and stayed somewhere else to get some space when needed Do you know where?
Author mindless14 Posted May 19, 2014 Author Posted May 19, 2014 Yes, he stayed at his parent's house. 1
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