xxJuliexx Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 I didn't go to this guy's baseball game, that I was suppose to go to. i like him a lot, but I am a really shy person...I blew him off in a result of that. He lost his cell phone and isn't getting one till Monday so I had no way in contacting him to tell him I can't make it to his baseball game. I felt really really bad, so I made my friend send him a message on Facebook cause I don't have a FB and she wrote this "Hey Brian, Stephanie wanted me to drop you a quick email, since you don't have your phone yet. She felt bad that she missed your game. She had to go into work cause a person called off at last minute and she had to fill in for her. She doesn't like to blow people off, always sticks to her word and even though I told her it's probably not a big deal, you know Stephanie...she makes a big deal out of everything, lol. Hope your team won!" His reply was "lost both games. im too ****ing good and my teams is too ****ing bad." "lol i've been getting messages all night saying how ****ing good i am.. feels good hahaha" What the hell? how am I suppose to take that? He completely ignored what my friend said, and now I don't know if he's cool with me or not. Great! Tell me what you think? Does it sound like he's mad?
Author xxJuliexx Posted May 19, 2014 Author Posted May 19, 2014 he's a loser Yeah I can see that SMH! But I still don't know if he got awkward about it, or if he just is being a dickhead about it? I don't how to take that.
Assasda Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 He's really mad. Did your friend even ask him a question? So he didnt ignore any of what your friend said. He's saying he's too much of a good guy in these situations. And, I can tell you from experience, that what has him ticked off more than anything, is the fact that you didnt contact him yourself. Hopefully He moves on
Poppyolive Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 Your posts are a little....painful to read. Why did you want last minute and let him down, why didn't you tell him when he asked? Its a lame move getting your friend to message him....cringe! I think he's pissed off and seems to be flirty with your friend here.... 1
Author xxJuliexx Posted May 19, 2014 Author Posted May 19, 2014 He's really mad. Did your friend even ask him a question? So he didnt ignore any of what your friend said. He's saying he's too much of a good guy in these situations. And, I can tell you from experience, that what has him ticked off more than anything, is the fact that you didnt contact him yourself. Hopefully He moves on I had no way of contacting him though. He doesn't have a cell phone till tomorrow, and his game was today. I am really shy and I was nervous. I didn't want to blow him off, I felt bad....but I had no way of contacting him and the only way was Facebook which I don't have so my friend is friends with him on Facebook and he knows him really well, so I figured that would be ok. I do feel bad though, but if he had his damn phone known of this would seem like I blown him off.
Author xxJuliexx Posted May 19, 2014 Author Posted May 19, 2014 Your posts are a little....painful to read. Why did you want last minute and let him down, why didn't you tell him when he asked? Its a lame move getting your friend to message him....cringe! I think he's pissed off and seems to be flirty with your friend here.... I was ok with going, but I got nervous, and I am really shy. Like I said in my post he lost his cellphone and his replacement is coming tomorrow, but his game was today, so I had no way of contacting him, if he had his cell on I just would have made up some lame excuse to not go hours or even a day in an advance but since he is friend with my friend on Facebook and they know each other really well I told my friend to message him that I felt bad. Oh and by the way my friend is a guy. LOL so if he's flirting wel then I guess he plays for both teams LOL but yeah that's the situation. And I do feel bad.
Poppygoodwill Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 I think you're making a mountain out of a molehill. He probably didn't really think it was a big deal, which is why he's being so casual. And what's he supposed to write to your (guy) friend? I would find it awkward to be sending messages back through a stranger. He gets his phone shortly; he's probably cool to wait until he's got it to be back in touch. Send a text so that it's waiting for him when he gets the phone, "sorry you lost the game....let's get together this week and you can tell me all about it..." something like that. If he responds positively and sets up a date, y ou're fine. If he doesn't respond, stalls, doesn't set a date, then you know he's gone off the idea. patience, my friend. Have a little patience. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 He doesn't sound terribly upset about it. What do you expect him to write to your friend? He knows it isn't your account so I highly doubt he'd say anything remotely gushy. His response is bizarre though; he sounds really arrogant. Turn-off. I think the most important thing is to ask yourself what you are so afraid of that you flaked on him. If you don't address that, you'll probably do it again and he likely won't stick around. In my opinion, that is the most important part of this equation right now.
Mrin Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 Ok now that we know the friend is a guy friend of his - I'll give you a different read. The dude is buzzed or drunk and chest thumping with his bro after losing two games. His response has nothing to do with you 3
Author xxJuliexx Posted May 19, 2014 Author Posted May 19, 2014 He doesn't sound terribly upset about it. What do you expect him to write to your friend? He knows it isn't your account so I highly doubt he'd say anything remotely gushy. His response is bizarre though; he sounds really arrogant. Turn-off. I think the most important thing is to ask yourself what you are so afraid of that you flaked on him. If you don't address that, you'll probably do it again and he likely won't stick around. In my opinion, that is the most important part of this equation right now. I don't know, I am a terribly shy person. I flaked on him cause I thought it would be awkward and such. I know that he has his games every Sunday at 3, so I don't know if I should just show up to the next one? Or if that would seem weird? See I don't know how to take his response, he completely ignored what my friend said, and I don't know how to take it. I think he is arrogant too! If I was him I would at least say "Yeah it's no big deal" Or "Tell her to chill" Anything related to me, but he doesn't even say that and that makes me believe he's mad or something? Like he is not cool with me, cause then wouldn't he say it? Wouldn't he just say "Yeah it's cool" or something, or I don't know if he got really awkward and just didn't know what to say. it's confusing. Thank you!
Author xxJuliexx Posted May 19, 2014 Author Posted May 19, 2014 Ok now that we know the friend is a guy friend of his - I'll give you a different read. The dude is buzzed or drunk and chest thumping with his bro after losing two games. His response has nothing to do with you I hope so! Cause I feel bad that I blew him off!
hasaquestion Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 Has nothing to do with your problem. But that text really ticks me off. Baseball is a TEAM SPORT. If he was "so f***ing good" why did his team lose? He could have stepped up and carried his team. That's how baseball works. Unless he's some kind of Caribbean superstar or something, he probably flied out once, or struck out, he probably gave up hits, walked batters. There's a lot he surely left on the field. And EVEN if there wasn't, he's part of a team not an individual. You shower with those guys. Unless you're Alex Rodriguez or something, there is always someone who is "so f***ing good", and its not you. To say something like that = no respect for your teammates. I'm just going to throw this out there. Teammates I've had who throw their other teammates under the bus are generally the worst kind of people. And usually not equipped to deal with reality. Sports are about the team, and missing that memo usually translates to other parts of life. 3
mammasita Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 Sounds like this guy is super outgoing. My question is, how do you think this will pan out if you're SO very shy that it causes you to cancel on showing up to his events?
hoping2heal Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 I don't know... He seems to only be concerned with the game at this point and how effing good he is. Doesn't seem like he really noticed you not being there or cared too much that you were absent. He may have just eyerolled at your friend messaging him though and decided he was over it. 1
Potz4prez Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 Ok now that we know the friend is a guy friend of his - I'll give you a different read. The dude is buzzed or drunk and chest thumping with his bro after losing two games. His response has nothing to do with you Too ****ing true. Guy sounds like a D-bag though. Does he really seem like that good of a match for you, OP?
Author xxJuliexx Posted May 19, 2014 Author Posted May 19, 2014 Too ****ing true. Guy sounds like a D-bag though. Does he really seem like that good of a match for you, OP? Yeah, I see what you mean! I just don't know if he is trying to play it cool though? Or if he just doesn't care! I have no idea.
Author xxJuliexx Posted May 19, 2014 Author Posted May 19, 2014 Sounds like this guy is super outgoing. My question is, how do you think this will pan out if you're SO very shy that it causes you to cancel on showing up to his events? I don't know, I just like him a lot, cause he is outgoing, and I am so shy, it brings out of my shell I guess you could say. Lol. I mean literally I had to get super drunk to lose my virginity when I was 19 years old cause that is how shy I am. It's ridiculous. But thanks!
Author xxJuliexx Posted May 19, 2014 Author Posted May 19, 2014 He has another game this Sunday coming up. His games are every Sunday at 2pm. But...I don't know if I should just show up or not, or if that would be creepy? I just feel really bad and I am wondering if I should build up the courage and just go this Sunday weather he invites me or not this week. He invited me multiple times to his games, but I just never agreed to go, cause I would make up something and say I had to do something, but I finally agreed to go and then it appears I blew him off. It sucks. But I don't know what else to do. I don't know if he is playing it cool, or if he doesn't care, or if he got awkward and didn't know what to say etc. I have no idea, but I am thinking maybe I should just show up this Sunday. I also know the guys that are on his team I know like 3 of them, but do you think I should just show up to his next game? Or would that be creepy and weird? Lol. Thank you!
Potz4prez Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 (edited) Just show up! Talk to him before/after. That would not be weird AT ALL. Talk to the other guys you know more though... that'll really peak his interest. Don't show up for him, show up to talk to the other guys... and he just happens to be there. Yeah, I see what you mean! I just don't know if he is trying to play it cool though? Or if he just doesn't care! I have no idea. If a guy is self-confident, he really doesn't care about a girl until you make him care. I've been on first dates with 3 girls in the past week-ish, and I could care less about all of them. I like them as people, but they haven't shown me anything to make me care yet. That's why there are second dates haha. Honestly, just assume everything is peachy between you two until proven otherwise. If he's interested, he should ask you out. Until then, don't get hung up on this one guy. Concentrate on breaking out of your shyness instead. Just talk to anyone I don't know, I just like him a lot, cause he is outgoing, and I am so shy, it brings out of my shell I guess you could say. Lol. I mean literally I had to get super drunk to lose my virginity when I was 19 years old cause that is how shy I am. It's ridiculous. But thanks! I know that problem haha Edited May 19, 2014 by Potz4prez 1
ExpatInItaly Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 He has another game this Sunday coming up. His games are every Sunday at 2pm. But...I don't know if I should just show up or not, or if that would be creepy? I just feel really bad and I am wondering if I should build up the courage and just go this Sunday weather he invites me or not this week. He invited me multiple times to his games, but I just never agreed to go, cause I would make up something and say I had to do something, but I finally agreed to go and then it appears I blew him off. It sucks. But I don't know what else to do. I don't know if he is playing it cool, or if he doesn't care, or if he got awkward and didn't know what to say etc. I have no idea, but I am thinking maybe I should just show up this Sunday. I also know the guys that are on his team I know like 3 of them, but do you think I should just show up to his next game? Or would that be creepy and weird? Lol. Thank you! OP, you did blow him off. If you don't speak to him between now and next Sunday, I would not show up at his game. If I hadn't had any luck getting a guy to meet me after repeated invites and then he randomly appeared after some silence, I wouldn't be overly thrilled about it. Perhaps that's just me, but I don't think it's the way to go. Instead, I would recommend contacting him yourself and see what type of response you get. 1
Author xxJuliexx Posted May 19, 2014 Author Posted May 19, 2014 Just show up! Talk to him before/after. That would not be weird AT ALL. Talk to the other guys you know more though... that'll really peak his interest. Don't show up for him, show up to talk to the other guys... and he just happens to be there. If a guy is self-confident, he really doesn't care about a girl until you make him care. I've been on first dates with 3 girls in the past week-ish, and I could care less about all of them. I like them as people, but they haven't shown me anything to make me care yet. That's why there are second dates haha. Honestly, just assume everything is peachy between you two until proven otherwise. If he's interested, he should ask you out. Until then, don't get hung up on this one guy. Concentrate on breaking out of your shyness instead. Just talk to anyone I know that problem haha Haha, awesome! I am not the only one then! Yeah I mean he told me it's at 2 every Sunday, but I don't have a Facebook and usually he posts on Facebook about it. My friends tell me that. They always give me the info on him, haha. Cause they are Facebook friends with him, but I just don't want to appear creepy, cause if I had a Facebook and he's posting crap about his game and such then it wouldn't be creepy cause then I could just have the excuse "Hey I saw your FB post, and thought I would check your game out!" But I don't have one, so that is why I don't want him thinking "Oh wtf? She is creepy, I didn't even invite her this time" or something along the lines of that, lmao. But thank you! I see what you mean and I need to figure this out for myself, I just don't want to be labeled as creepy though. But oh well, haha. Thanks!
bubbaganoosh Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 You better figure out a way to climb out of your shell if you want to maintain any kind of a relationship with him or any other guy. You just can't blow someone off on a whim because your shy. What is so hard about going to a sporting event and watching him being carried of the field on everyone's shoulders including the other team because he's the second coming of "The Worlds Most interesting Man" for the way he describes himself. It's not like your out there in a cheerleaders outfit with pom poms. Go and enjoy the day then you guys can find a place and drink a couple of Dos Equis. 1
hasaquestion Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 He has another game this Sunday coming up. His games are every Sunday at 2pm. But...I don't know if I should just show up or not, or if that would be creepy? I just feel really bad and I am wondering if I should build up the courage and just go this Sunday weather he invites me or not this week. He invited me multiple times to his games, but I just never agreed to go, cause I would make up something and say I had to do something, but I finally agreed to go and then it appears I blew him off. It sucks. But I don't know what else to do. I don't know if he is playing it cool, or if he doesn't care, or if he got awkward and didn't know what to say etc. I have no idea, but I am thinking maybe I should just show up this Sunday. I also know the guys that are on his team I know like 3 of them, but do you think I should just show up to his next game? Or would that be creepy and weird? Lol. Thank you! Disclaimer: I'm male. If I were a chick, I'd tell the guy I can't make it to the game, and then throw him a rope by offering to meet outside of his baseball game. Its a power move. Make him go out of his way and out of his element if he wants you. 2
Author xxJuliexx Posted May 19, 2014 Author Posted May 19, 2014 OP, you did blow him off. If you don't speak to him between now and next Sunday, I would not show up at his game. If I hadn't had any luck getting a guy to meet me after repeated invites and then he randomly appeared after some silence, I wouldn't be overly thrilled about it. Perhaps that's just me, but I don't think it's the way to go. Instead, I would recommend contacting him yourself and see what type of response you get. Yeah, I know. I did blow him off, because of my insecurities and anxieties. I feel really bad though, cause he invited me multiple times, and I always said I had to do something and got out of it, and I finally agree to go and then I blow it and don't show up. I feel like a jackass to be honest. He got his phone today I think, so hopefully he will contact me, but I think that's why he put his new number in my phone, cause he probably doesn't remember mine. Cause he grabbed my phone the other day and said "Here I put my new number in your phone, but I am not getting my phone till Monday (I think that's what he said)" So I don't know if I should contact him, or not. Just so he has my number. Or if I should wait for him to contact me. I am so confused. lol. But I do know the other guys on his team, so I mean it wouldn't be that bad right? I could always talk to them, haha. But I see what you mean, thanks!
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