why most married men cheat on their wife after 6 to 7 years?

[Jatan]

No, not married, that will most likely not happen again. We shared custody, and still do, we still live apart but together and expecting our third child.

 

Its not wise to make any major decisions right now. I took my time to decide on divorce. It could be a good idea to get away for a week or two if you have the means. Having him pressure you will likely push you away at this point. When I found out about my wifes affair she avoided me, when I did engage her it was anger filled right on the edge of hatred. This did allow me time to process it.

 

I have to add, it wasn't really the affair itself that drove me to divorce, it was her attitude and the fact that she would continue to deny the affair. It wasn't until I served her with divorce papers that she truely and fully confessed.

I see. Mine when confronted was apologetic and ask for forgiveness. I am still upset for what has happened despite him being remorseful. my friends told me to stay as my kids are the one suffering in the end. Im confused...

since your ex wife is expecting a third baby that mean she is no long with the OM. If she were to ever ask for forgiveness will you forgive and get back with her?

[soccerrprp]

l. my friends told me to stay as my kids are the one suffering in the end. Im confused...

 

I think this is such BS....you don't stay in an unhappy relationship b/c of your children. MANY divorced relationships involving children work out fine for the children as long as both parents are involved and dedicated to them. This is and has been happening for many many many years. With the divorce rate of 50%+, a large plurality or most involve children. I personally would not stay married or in the same house as my "ex" just b/c of children unless there is a compelling legal or financial reason to do so....

[Shepp]

Oh yeah most men cheat blah blah blah cause SOME men choose not to own the fact there selfish and CHOOSe to cheat!

 

Wy cant you just look at the other ten million stupid threads on the subject? Do we really need a whole other one!

[janedoe67]

The reason PEOPLE cheat is because of selfishness. Sure, we can talk about surrounding issues, and some of them are valid issues in and of themselves. BUT there are ways to deal with them besides cheating. Cheating at its core is plain selfishness.

[RonaldS]

The reason PEOPLE cheat is because of selfishness. Sure, we can talk about surrounding issues, and some of them are valid issues in and of themselves. BUT there are ways to deal with them besides cheating. Cheating at its core is plain selfishness.

 

Yep.

 

And so are most of the valid surrounding issues.

[DKT3]

I see. Mine when confronted was apologetic and ask for forgiveness. I am still upset for what has happened despite him being remorseful. my friends told me to stay as my kids are the one suffering in the end. Im confused...

since your ex wife is expecting a third baby that mean she is no long with the OM. If she were to ever ask for forgiveness will you forgive and get back with her?

 

We are together and its my child. The OM hasn't been in the picture for years.

 

I forgave her a long time ago, I had to for me. I was soo freaking angry all the time that is was creeping into all my relationships with parents, siblings, kids everyone. Forgiving her allowed me to let go of the anger. It helped that she was also becoming a better person also.

[joystickd]

Why do women whine about men cheating like they are the only ones that cheat?

[janedoe67]

Yep.

 

And so are most of the valid surrounding issues.

 

Oh exactly. It was completely, wrong, selfish AND a betrayal for my H to withhold intimacy and affection. Period.

 

However, I didn't have to respond to his selfishness with selfishness of my own.

[Ninjainpajamas]

Stop blaming the world for what your husband did to you.