Is this a men's world?? Why are women always wrong??

[milanlover]

You know, I hate it when all the dating websites have articles teaching women how to date, how to please men, not to be emotional, to play it cool, to do this to do that in order to have it men's ways. Don't have sex too early it will scare him off, don't talk too much he doesn't like it, blah blah! Then why is it not men who have to care about and cater for the emotional nature of women?? And the fact that women are wired that way?? And so many times a woman is labelled clingy and needy while most of the time she is just being human and woman and because the men react badly in the first place like ignoring, etc.

 

I mean, it's so ridiculous! If the fact that a girl wants more and shows more of her feelings, not playing it cool, turns a man off then I think he's not worth it after all, he's not that into her anyway. I think if you're into someone really, there is really very little that person can do to make you stop liking them (i'm not talking about serious things like cheating, stealing, morally wrong, etc.)

 

Your opinions??

[almond]

My opinion is that being clingy and too emotionally needy is a surefire way to scare someone that likes you away...female or not. I don't know why you're making this about gender? I'm female, and if a potential partner was emotionally or clingy, I'd bail pretty quickly. I find that sort of thing incredibly off-putting, and I don't think men should be criticised for feeling the same.

 

There is plenty of advice out there for men too regarding dating and how to attract women - I'm not sure why you are posting as though this isn't the case? Maybe you listed your gender as female, so the articles were tailored to that? One look at this board will tell you that men face many struggles when it comes to relationships. It's definitely not a "man's world" when it comes to dating.

 

No one said that women are always wrong, and I think you're overreacting and jumping to incorrect conclusions.

[Assasda]

OP sounds like a victims way of reacting to things. - with this post

Men do it too, they may hate women, and get really angry for no reason at all.

At the end of the day, we all have to take responsibility for our own lives, and relationships.

 

Try not to play the victim, and work with the common denominator, which is you, and everything usually turns out better

[Bruce Leigh]

Women are never wrong, even when they are. Work that one out, you have unlocked the key to the universe

[stillafool]

Well I'm a woman and I can't stand when my female friends act too needy or emotional. I would feel the same way if a man did it.

[topaMAXX]

You know, I hate it when all the dating websites have articles teaching women how to date, how to please men, not to be emotional, to play it cool, to do this to do that in order to have it men's ways. Don't have sex too early it will scare him off, don't talk too much he doesn't like it, blah blah! Then why is it not men who have to care about and cater for the emotional nature of women?? And the fact that women are wired that way?? And so many times a woman is labelled clingy and needy while most of the time she is just being human and woman and because the men react badly in the first place like ignoring, etc.

 

I mean, it's so ridiculous! If the fact that a girl wants more and shows more of her feelings, not playing it cool, turns a man off then I think he's not worth it after all, he's not that into her anyway. I think if you're into someone really, there is really very little that person can do to make you stop liking them (i'm not talking about serious things like cheating, stealing, morally wrong, etc.)

 

Your opinions??

 

It is definitely NOT a man's world, in any sense of the term. Not in dating, not in the law, and not in daily life. This is a matriarchy where all things cater to women.

 

I will be more than happy to elaborate (with citations) if you'd like.

[carhill]

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/general/general-relationship-discussion/396907-consolidated-discussion-dating-relationships-my-gender-has-much-harder-time

 

[Absinthe]

Not going to comment on the feminist aspect since both genders like to think they're equallly hard done by, but if there's one thing I have learned it's that a person worth knowing will still like you even if you break all "the rules". You should not have to play games or force anything.

 

In fact, the only piece of advice you should take from that silly book The Rules is to simply not make a man your entire world and suffocate the bejeezus out of him. (Frankly, there are dudes who need this advice too...I'd like to see someone publish "She's Just Not That Into You").

 

The real problem is that people who are Awesome and able to accept that other human beings have flaws and the occasional involuntary bodily function are either a) already taken (because, you know, they are awesome) or b) elusive. But they are out there.