ThatKidBilly Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 I'll keep this brief, leading off from my last few threads on here I've been struggling with a hell of a lot of things in my life, my ex being the only true friend I have, well .. had. First off, I was in town just to walk around do whatever, not a big deal. My ex was also in town, we have been friends for the past few months talking everyday and I noticed her outside a store. I was going to just walk by ignoring her, but when we looked at each other I made casual "Oh hey" conversation, I didn't think anything bad by it, but it was awkward pretty fast and after about a minute I left to go back home. I wasn't needy or desperate, but just casual "Hey, how are you?". I came home, and after half an hour, blocked. She blocked me on Facebook, Instagram, Kik, Skype, and some others, but not Twitter. (I take it she just missed that) Anyway, I got a Facebook message a hour before I got home by her best friend (Who was with her) and she said how It's best if I leave her alone, that seeing those two again was awkward and my ex was upset by how I just walked up to them, I didn't mean anything bad by it and thought since we are basic friends she wouldn't mind, I guess I was wrong. Her friend commented how before we bumped into each other the ex saw me and said she wouldn't talk to me, if I had known that I wouldn't of engaged conversation. Upon further discussion my ex noted to her some time ago me and her aren't technically "friends" anymore, as I never really talk and we aren't that close, but for the past few months we've been talking every single day. To cut to the chaise, I'm an idiot, and a big one at that. Advice?
learning_slowly Posted May 18, 2014 Posted May 18, 2014 You may have made mistakes, but most of us have. Being friends would have taken you longer to move on. I would reply to the friend that you were only trying to be polite, but will avoid all possible contact from now on, and are sorry for any upset you have caused. Then look at how you can do the things you want to achieve in your life.
bubbaganoosh Posted May 18, 2014 Posted May 18, 2014 Let me get this straight. You made a mistake by being polite and saying hi to your ex girlfriend and now she gets bent out of shape because of it? The only thing you did wrong was showing good manners to someone who has none. I don't know how old she is but she really needs to grow the hell up and act like an adult. If you ever see her friend and she brings it up, tell her to mind her own business and if she and your ex GF don't know what manners are then they should learn because there's no excuse for ignorance.
Author ThatKidBilly Posted May 18, 2014 Author Posted May 18, 2014 learning_slowly; That's exactly the plan, then go live my life from there. Everything's up in the air right now, after I came home (And before she blocked me) I responded back in a orderly manner to her friend kindly, I apologized and said I'll be on my way and I won't contact either of them. It's been 9 months since we broke up and the last time I saw her was before then, my bets is from how loose things have been she didn't expect me to just casually walk up to either of them. bubbaganoosh; It does feel like that, when the friend sent me that message she noted "Next time if we're in the same area don't approach or try to talk to us, she was upset after you left" We talked a little more and after I apologised she said: "I don't know really, she just didn't want you to come over. Well she said she wouldn't talk to you if you came over, which is why it went really awkward when you did as no one knew what to say which is why I tried to cut in because it looked like she felt awkward so I wanted to change the mood. Sorry about that aha." I've done my bit and the only thing to do now is just walk off, she's already cut ties with me, I'll just see how it goes from here.
Kansas87 Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 Leave her be. She is doing EXACTLY what we always advise people who aren't over their ex to do: go full NC, block them, etc. She even had a friend ask you not to contact her. She is clearly not fully over you and was pained by seeing/talking to you in person. Respect her wishes and give her the space she needs to move on. I don't think she's trying to be rude or mean in anyway- she is just trying to protect herself. 2
Reels Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 I really don't advise people to go full NC, but I always say that they should be strong in situation like yours. Forget or avoid thinking about what has happened, do what you like to do. She hurt you once, you will hurt yourself 100 times if you thought about it for 100 times.
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