Hugo112211 Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 Ok so this girl has been showing interest in me for quite some time. We hung out but with 3 people. During the hangout, the third wheel asked if her and I would be comfortable if we were alone together. She said she would be. Now, when it comes to romance and crushes, she gets really shy. She is shy like that. I asked her to hangout with me again through text and she says "Only us two?" I said "Yes do you want to?" Then she replied "Can't like other people come too?" I said sure. I am in the friendzone aren't I... (I also see her staring at me sometimes)
Potz4prez Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 Probably. Ask her out on a date instead of "hanging out" and find out. Where did you ask her to "hang out" with you alone? 2
Author Hugo112211 Posted May 17, 2014 Author Posted May 17, 2014 Probably. Ask her out on a date instead of "hanging out" and find out. Where did you ask her to "hang out" with you alone? I asked her to hangout at an open mall
Potz4prez Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 I was worried that you invited her over to your place, and she may have declined because she felt uncomfortable. But if she declined that offer, sounds like she's trying not to give you the wrong idea. Ask her out on a date and take the risk, or move on. 1
Author Hugo112211 Posted May 17, 2014 Author Posted May 17, 2014 (edited) Firstly, she is a shy when it comes to crushes and stuff. So maybe she was nervous and wanted other people involved to lighten things up (This is only the second time hanging out). Secondly, I think I get what you're trying to tell me about masculinity. After all, she ASKED if anyone else can come instead of directly saying that other people should come. I should've taken advantage of this and tell her that I WANT a one on one activity. She texted "Only us 2 though?" to which i responded "Yes, do you want to" and then she responded "Can't like anyone else come?" I should've responded to this one by saying "I wanted a one on one activity though" and things could've gone right. Thanks for your response. Edited May 17, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator removed quoted spammer
Assasda Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 Ok so this girl has been showing interest in me for quite some time. We hung out but with 3 people. During the hangout, the third wheel asked if her and I would be comfortable if we were alone together. She said she would be. Now, when it comes to romance and crushes, she gets really shy. She is shy like that. I asked her to hangout with me again through text and she says "Only us two?" I said "Yes do you want to?" Then she replied "Can't like other people come too?" I said sure. I am in the friendzone aren't I... (I also see her staring at me sometimes) I think you're fine man. I dont think you're in the friendzone, at least not yet. When your in the friendzone, the woman will gladly go out with you, because she has 0% romantic interest in you, and isnt afraid to just kick it with a guy-girlfriend. I think youre cool. You should play it cool. She may not be comfortable with you one-on-one yet, if youre new in her life. She doesnt know if youre a killer or if youre some sketchy dude. You are NOT FRIENDZONED 1
organizedchaos Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 Firstly, she is a shy when it comes to crushes and stuff. So maybe she was nervous and wanted other people involved to lighten things up (This is only the second time hanging out). Secondly, I think I get what you're trying to tell me about masculinity. After all, she ASKED if anyone else can come instead of directly saying that other people should come. I should've taken advantage of this and tell her that I WANT a one on one activity. She texted "Only us 2 though?" to which i responded "Yes, do you want to" and then she responded "Can't like anyone else come?" I should've responded to this one by saying "I wanted a one on one activity though" and things could've gone right. Thanks for your response. Stop with the "hanging out" and "activity" b.s. Just ask her out on a date! Kids these days...
Author Hugo112211 Posted May 17, 2014 Author Posted May 17, 2014 I think you're fine man. I dont think you're in the friendzone, at least not yet. When your in the friendzone, the woman will gladly go out with you, because she has 0% romantic interest in you, and isnt afraid to just kick it with a guy-girlfriend. I think youre cool. You should play it cool. She may not be comfortable with you one-on-one yet, if youre new in her life. She doesnt know if youre a killer or if youre some sketchy dude. You are NOT FRIENDZONED Ok man thanks for the reply
somedude81 Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 Couple of ways to handle this. 1. Think of something that she would enjoy doing with you, and invite her to do it with you without any one else. 2. If she's not comfortable having the thing be just the two of you, invite a mutual friend to come along. Then before the event happens, privately ask that friend to leave early. For example the three of you are at a mall, then your friend says, "Oh something came up and I have to go." Now you and the girl are alone. Just make sure that transportation arrangements are taken care of beforehand. 1
Dallers Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 Long way off being in the friendzone. You are clearly young so there is no set rule to ask her out like us oldies. She just sounds shy. Just hang out and make clear that you are into her when you do. Then next time make it clear you would like to go out on a date, and then go from hanging out at the mall to something more dating focused. Thinking you are in the friendzone will do more harm than good, it will demotivate you and make you anxious and probably snap when she says something that might make you think you are. Chill out and play it cool. Nothing to lose. 1
Author Hugo112211 Posted May 17, 2014 Author Posted May 17, 2014 (edited) Long way off being in the friendzone. You are clearly young so there is no set rule to ask her out like us oldies. She just sounds shy. Just hang out and make clear that you are into her when you do. Then next time make it clear you would like to go out on a date, and then go from hanging out at the mall to something more dating focused. Thinking you are in the friendzone will do more harm than good, it will demotivate you and make you anxious and probably snap when she says something that might make you think you are. Chill out and play it cool. Nothing to lose. You are right. I am now realizing that hanging out at the mall is more of a group thing. I should've asked to go somewhere where a one on one activity is appropriate. However, the last time we hung out was with 3 people. 2 girls and 1 guy (I am the one guy). This time, the same people are going except she said she wouldn't mind if I bring my friends too. She doesn't know my friends so I was thinking that maybe she wanted me to bring my friends to distract the other girl so we can kinda be left alone in a group setting if you know what I mean. She also tends to talk to me a lot and flirt with me a lot in a class we both have where we sit close to each other. I've also caught her stare at me a lot recently Edited May 17, 2014 by Hugo112211
d3sigN8t3dDruNk Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 If you have to ask if you are in the friendzone, you aren't. you will know for sure when that time comes.
Potz4prez Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 If you have to ask if you are in the friendzone, you aren't. you will know for sure when that time comes. 100% of guys in the friendzone don't know they're in the friendzone 97% of the time.
d3sigN8t3dDruNk Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 100% of guys in the friendzone don't know they're in the friendzone 97% of the time. Every situation is different, but you can pick up on the signals..Most of the time for me, Its quite obvious, you just have to open your eyes and see. I know thats harder for some guys cause girls play so many mind games.
Potz4prez Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 Every situation is different, but you can pick up on the signals..Most of the time for me, Its quite obvious, you just have to open your eyes and see. I know thats harder for some guys cause girls play so many mind games. The problem is that guys who get into the "friendzone" are desperate... desperate enough that they choose not to see the signs. It's nothing against them, it's just how it is. They just need someone to wake them up. I was in the friendzone hardcore for my entire freshman year of college. Looking back, I wish someone would have just slapped me across the face and told me how it was.
Author Hugo112211 Posted May 17, 2014 Author Posted May 17, 2014 The problem is that guys who get into the "friendzone" are desperate... desperate enough that they choose not to see the signs. It's nothing against them, it's just how it is. They just need someone to wake them up. I was in the friendzone hardcore for my entire freshman year of college. Looking back, I wish someone would have just slapped me across the face and told me how it was. I invited the other girl to this hangout like last time. 2 girls 1 guy except I'm bringing my friend (male) because she also texted "You can bring your friends too I don't mind" even though she knows NOTHING about my friends. Considering this information, I'm guessing that since it's a group of 4 now, she wants my friend to distract the other girl so me and her can talk alone together in a familiar group environment. What do you think?
Potz4prez Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 I invited the other girl to this hangout like last time. 2 girls 1 guy except I'm bringing my friend (male) because she also texted "You can bring your friends too I don't mind" even though she knows NOTHING about my friends. Considering this information, I'm guessing that since it's a group of 4 now, she wants my friend to distract the other girl so me and her can talk alone together in a familiar group environment. What do you think? Just go and have fun Later, call her, said you had fun and ask her out on a date. Be explicit.
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