Sundancev1 Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 Ex and I broke up 7-8 months ago. She left me. Since then she's spread lies to friends, family, co-workers and new friends I've just met. The lies stopped for a while because I took action at work but they have resurfaced again two days ago (while in the same bar she went on a "destroy ex spree"). Does anyone have any tips or advice ? ive taken action once but it obviously didn't get through to her.
FortunateSon Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 I just went through something similar and had a thread also. The advice that I got and used was to ignore, take the high road, be the bigger person, don't lower yourself. Obviously if her smearing spree gets out of control and doesn't stop, you will need to address it...
Zahara Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 Why do your posts flip between you being male and your ex being a female and then it flips to you posting as a female and your ex being a male. Your stories over the forums don't add up. Posters are spending their time providing advice. It would help if you're honest with details.
Author Sundancev1 Posted May 16, 2014 Author Posted May 16, 2014 Why do your posts flip between you being male and your ex being a female and then it flips to you posting as a female and your ex being a male. Your stories over the forums don't add up. Posters are spending their time providing advice. It would help if you're honest with details. It was legal advice I was given for posting online (my matter is fairly serious now). They told me to change up details so it can't link back (not sure how that works). This site keeps putting all my questions in one thread which makes me look like a moron. I can't change that and I'm sorry for the trouble. I just have to follow the advice for the meantime. I was just after general advice and I thought changing gender and what not won't impact the advice given hopefully.
jenkruger Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 This happened to me too! Except it was my fiance's ex who would spread lies to everyone. She even had the nerve to stalk me once she found out we began dating. She would send me messages from fake Yahoo accounts and such. The sad thing is, she was so obsessive and phychotic, she actually believed all her lies. I called the police on her but they couldnt do anything. She eventually stopped after many, many months harassing us and making excuses to contact us (her mother was sick, etc). The best thing to do is to ignore! Hopefully, they will stop soon.
Zahara Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 (edited) It was legal advice I was given for posting online (my matter is fairly serious now). They told me to change up details so it can't link back (not sure how that works). This site keeps putting all my questions in one thread which makes me look like a moron. I can't change that and I'm sorry for the trouble. I just have to follow the advice for the meantime. I was just after general advice and I thought changing gender and what not won't impact the advice given hopefully. If you're being provided legal advice, that means you're in discussion with an attorney? Aren't they giving you advice as to how to deal with your ex? The mods will link your threads because it allows continuity, uniformity and better following of your history. You keep creating thread after thread and it doesn't allow posters to get the full story -- your details change, he becomes she, things are left out/added in , etc. You say now she's spread lies at the bar. Your thread before this you said she just told your friends to call you a name. Worst is you kept with niceties with her that night eventhough she was doing that. Stick to one thread. Its easier to stay with the story and you have your advice all in one place. Edited May 16, 2014 by Zahara
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