JaySmith Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 I'm not a good fighter and my wife has a mouth that can potentially provoke a fight. Aside from that we are moving into a bad neighborhood that has a very high crime rate. I have a fear of fighting, I'm not a confrontational person, she is. Just the thought of being assaulted or worse is difficult for me. I'd like to learn how to over come my fears, and how to fight better for self defense. I'd like to go to some kind of martial arts classes or something but not sure when we can fit it in the bugdet.
Quiet Storm Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 If its a bad neighborhood, learning to fight won't help if they have a gun. Tell your wife she has to tone it down because you aren't trying to get shot. If she can't control herself, tell her you won't go out in public with her. She sounds immature and dramatic. You can't control how she acts, so its good that you are trying to be proactive by learning to fight. Do you have any friends that know how to fight, and could show you a few things? My husband teaches our sons simple moves to bring someone down. It wouldn't help if someone had a gun, though. It's better to try to prevent an altercation from happening in the first place, and that starts with your wife. Talk to her. Tell her your fears. She needs to be more considerate. 1
Koopa Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 buy a taser, not for your attacker but for your wife. If she starts mouthing off give her a little shock and let the attacker know you took care of it. Just Kidding well if its that bad of a neighborhood why not choose another place to live? Do you live in a stand your ground state? if so consider a concealed firearm licence. If not a stun gun, very legal and you don't need to hesitate when using it since it won't kill them.... most of the time at least. Get a pitbull/Rottweiler/German Shepherd/Doberman Pincher, I own a pitbull and I guarantee nobody is going to mess with someone walking a pitbull. You don't need to know how to fight if you can convince them you are crazy, just start yelling out something that makes no sense while doing weird things that make no sense, nobody fights a crazy person. Just some suggestions, but I would not recommend learning to fight unless you are willing to devote a lot of time to become a good fighter because it does not happen overnight, otherwise it wont help you much to take a few lessons unless you want the #1 way to win a fight. Its not the most honorable move but very effective, kick him in the nuts and run. 2
bubbaganoosh Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 OK listen up. Being a fighter or a non fighter doesn't makes you any less of a man or more of a man. That doesn't prove anything except stupidity. But if you want to stop any confrontation then the best thing you can do is put a muzzle on your wife and figure out a way for her to control her big mouth. If she likes confrontation then she better learn that if she decides to open her mouth and pop off at someone she damn well better be prepared to be knocked on her ass a few times maybe she'll learn to keep her mouth shut. I once knew a woman like her that thought she could say what she wanted and get away with it and she opened her mouth to the wrong person and for close to six weeks had her jaw wired along with a broken nose and two of the ugliest black eyes I ever saw. She had a change of heart after that, but it was a heel of a way to learn a lesson. 1
todreaminblue Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 (edited) one thing i know from standing up for others......is you are going get hurt win or loss...even when i am standing up fro someone i take a passive stance...i can fight i prefer not to fight...i stand in front of someoen who is about to gt hit or stomped or whatever and i use words instead......sometimes i fail i prefer to fail than to not do anything....so if you are going to get hurt for someone including your wife it ought to be not her fault that you do get hurt if you mouth off to bad people or aggressive people or if you hit a guy first dont expect not to cop the same thing back regardless of gender.......people are people, some hit first and ask questions later....... as a female i am by per centages more able to stop a fight or someone getting hit...you are a guy whethr you are her husband or not you will more likely to be hit being a man and fronting and or bridging up to another man ...... she needs to control herself or learn the hard way to know when and how to say something.......because one day....you wont be around to help neither will anyone else......be able to protect and defend herself.......another suggestion is buy her a trained dog.....you are not her dog...and it is wrong for her to mouth off to people and not be able to back her mouth with action or speech.......dont do it......you will put her in a future situation when you are not there to defend her ....unfortunately she has to learn that....... how i personally would defend your wife from being hit, would be to say my wife was wrong to say what she said on her behalf i apologise sincerely, i am not going to stand by and let you hit her and i dont want to fight you.... if she starts mouthing off again turn around tell her to shut it...... and hope that she does...................say to whoever please accept my apology it wont happen again.....take your wife home if they let you walk away........do not condone bad behavior from your wife.... again....one day you wont be there no one will be ....and maybe then she will see what it i sliek to back your own mouth....and she will get stomped on.....it happens to women who dont even say a thing or beg guys not to hurt them or rape them in bad neighbourhoods....i have lived in bad nighbourhoods out of necessity.....lived on the streets even.... and heard calls for help..made some of my own calls for help.....no one came...and i never started anything...i have never been in trouble by mouthing off to someone....because i never do it.........buy her a dog......maybe she will find happiness instead of mouthing off by having another responsibility and to concentrate on a dog who loves her............best wishes....deb Edited May 16, 2014 by todreaminblue 1
whichwayisup Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 I'm not a good fighter and my wife has a mouth that can potentially provoke a fight. Aside from that we are moving into a bad neighborhood that has a very high crime rate. I have a fear of fighting, I'm not a confrontational person, she is. Just the thought of being assaulted or worse is difficult for me. I'd like to learn how to over come my fears, and how to fight better for self defense. I'd like to go to some kind of martial arts classes or something but not sure when we can fit it in the bugdet. How about your wife learns how to keep her mouth shut and keep comments to herself? Sorry to be blunt, but it's really dangerous of her to do that and provoke a fight. All for what? Ask her that. 2
dragon_fly_7 Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 OP, you can enroll in martial arts classes or maybe carry either pepper spray or have gun permit. Also, it would be wise for your wife to learn how to stop being confrontational just for the hell of it. I mean for what purpose?? I once knew a woman like her that thought she could say what she wanted and get away with it and she opened her mouth to the wrong person and for close to six weeks had her jaw wired along with a broken nose and two of the ugliest black eyes I ever saw. She had a change of heart after that, but it was a heel of a way to learn a lesson.Damn, that's one psycho on the loose. It's scary to hear you don't even have to slap and with just words equals to them beating up badly. Hopefully that lowlife got sentenced.
snappytomcat Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 maybe if she gets one good azz beat down,it will teach her a lesson,to grow up and not fly off the handle,maybe she needs to go to anger management classes
bubbaganoosh Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 OP, you can enroll in martial arts classes or maybe carry either pepper spray or have gun permit. Also, it would be wise for your wife to learn how to stop being confrontational just for the hell of it. I mean for what purpose?? Damn, that's one psycho on the loose. It's scary to hear you don't even have to slap and with just words equals to them beating up badly. Hopefully that lowlife got sentenced. It was another woman who put the whipping on her and over what. Honest to God, the big mouth had a problem with the next door neighbors tree always blowing leaves in her yard in the Fall. Big mouth complained to the lady next door and the woman said she couldn't do anything about leaves falling off a forty foot tall Maple tree and she was sorry Well one thing leads to another and the lady next door had only lived there maybe two months and had to here this at least once a week and finally told her to mind her own business and leave her alone because she was tired of it. You ever hear that saying, leave a sleeping dog lie? Well Big mouth catches the next door neighbor unloading groceries from her car and came over and got in her face. She was warned three times to leave and then it happened. Big mouth slaps the lady while she has her hands full of groceries andthe ass kicking took place and lasted anywhere from 5 to 10 seconds. The lady was a martial arts instructor and defended herself. From what I was told by a buddy of mine that she unloaded on her and by this time drew a crowd. Police show up and lucky that most saw what happened and they all let the cops know that she got sucker punched and she fought back. End of story. 2
Quiet Storm Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 (edited) It was another woman who put the whipping on her and over what. Honest to God, the big mouth had a problem with the next door neighbors tree always blowing leaves in her yard in the Fall. Big mouth complained to the lady next door and the woman said she couldn't do anything about leaves falling off a forty foot tall Maple tree and she was sorry Well one thing leads to another and the lady next door had only lived there maybe two months and had to here this at least once a week and finally told her to mind her own business and leave her alone because she was tired of it. You ever hear that saying, leave a sleeping dog lie? Well Big mouth catches the next door neighbor unloading groceries from her car and came over and got in her face. She was warned three times to leave and then it happened. Big mouth slaps the lady while she has her hands full of groceries andthe ass kicking took place and lasted anywhere from 5 to 10 seconds. The lady was a martial arts instructor and defended herself. From what I was told by a buddy of mine that she unloaded on her and by this time drew a crowd. Police show up and lucky that most saw what happened and they all let the cops know that she got sucker punched and she fought back. End of story. When I was a teenager this girl got all up in my face like that. I was about five feet a hundred pounds, and she seemed huge. She started slapping me and pulling my hair and grabbing me. I had a coke bottle in my hand (back when they were glass with a Styrofoam label), and I cracked it over head as hard as I could. She ran away. I was so mad.... she ripped my I.O.U. shirt. Edited May 17, 2014 by Quiet Storm 1
Radu Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 OP, in my [limited] experience with women, they are generally the more rational part of the couple when it comes to fights, mostly because they don't want to see their man bloody and bruised. If your wife is the opposite, get away ... from her. 1
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