Kokoro Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 There has been a guy I liked for many months and I've trying to get in touch with him. I wasn't rushing things and whenever I saw him I just said "hello, how are you?" and kept the conversation small. One day he came towards me and introduced himself to me so I did the same. We exchanged facebook accounts. That was before summer. In summer I never got to see him since I was on vacations. When I came back I started to make he conversations last longer and tried to be friendly with him. I heard that he was very shy..so I tried really hard to not be annoying and just be kind with him. So, after a few times I've spoken to him he seemed to go away after I tried to make the conversation bigger and I thought that he didn't like me so I said that I would stop trying. The next time we saw each other he came to talk to me himself and tried to keep to conversation by asking me all kinds of stuff about myself and I tried to be as sociable as possible. I also noticed that he was looking at me. I was really happy about this and decided to give it a try since he seemed interested. After some time he asked me if I wanted to go grab some coffee with him through facebook and I said yes. After that we kept talking about our hobbies and what we have in common and he seemed really friendly and happy speaking with him since he complmented me and added many emoticons. So, the day came and I was really nervous..I also confused the meeting place and apologised ;p How embarassing. Anyway, at first it was really awkward since we weren't really speaking. However, he aleady planned where we would go. It was a small coffee house with dark lighting and not many people. It was really romantic. We talked a lot and laughed and smiled and it was really awesome. We were together for 3 hours or so..and then we took a walk which was really awkward as well and then he took me home because he said that he wanted to go and meet some friends of his. On our way home he asked me if I had time next Saturday and I said yes. When we arrived home we kissed each other on the cheeks and said goodnight. I then texted him that I had a great time and that we should definately spend time together again. He texted back right away saying that he also had fun and that we would totally go out again. After our date we didn't talk for one week. I was waiting for him to ask me out again since he first thought about it. But the day before we were supposed to go out he said that he couldn't make it after all and I said ok. I didn't bother texting him again. I was waiting for him to text me. So we met again at a party soon after and I went to talk to him. He said that he had a lot to study for college and when his exams are over he would call me. We also took a cute picture together that night. After the party he never texted me, called me or spoke to me. I was so frustrated that I also stopped talking to him. He could at least say that he didn't want to go out with me anymore...or something..But he showed me so many signs that he likes me and then took it all back. Do you have any idea what has happened?
soccerrprp Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 He doesn't want to be with you. Many people would rather pretend like they're still interested and then blow you off than rejecting you out-right.
starla33 Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 There has been a guy I liked for many months and I've trying to get in touch with him. I wasn't rushing things and whenever I saw him I just said "hello, how are you?" and kept the conversation small. One day he came towards me and introduced himself to me so I did the same. We exchanged facebook accounts. That was before summer. In summer I never got to see him since I was on vacations. When I came back I started to make he conversations last longer and tried to be friendly with him. I heard that he was very shy..so I tried really hard to not be annoying and just be kind with him. So, after a few times I've spoken to him he seemed to go away after I tried to make the conversation bigger and I thought that he didn't like me so I said that I would stop trying. The next time we saw each other he came to talk to me himself and tried to keep to conversation by asking me all kinds of stuff about myself and I tried to be as sociable as possible. I also noticed that he was looking at me. I was really happy about this and decided to give it a try since he seemed interested. After some time he asked me if I wanted to go grab some coffee with him through facebook and I said yes. After that we kept talking about our hobbies and what we have in common and he seemed really friendly and happy speaking with him since he complmented me and added many emoticons. So, the day came and I was really nervous..I also confused the meeting place and apologised ;p How embarassing. Anyway, at first it was really awkward since we weren't really speaking. However, he aleady planned where we would go. It was a small coffee house with dark lighting and not many people. It was really romantic. We talked a lot and laughed and smiled and it was really awesome. We were together for 3 hours or so..and then we took a walk which was really awkward as well and then he took me home because he said that he wanted to go and meet some friends of his. On our way home he asked me if I had time next Saturday and I said yes. When we arrived home we kissed each other on the cheeks and said goodnight. I then texted him that I had a great time and that we should definately spend time together again. He texted back right away saying that he also had fun and that we would totally go out again. After our date we didn't talk for one week. I was waiting for him to ask me out again since he first thought about it. But the day before we were supposed to go out he said that he couldn't make it after all and I said ok. I didn't bother texting him again. I was waiting for him to text me. So we met again at a party soon after and I went to talk to him. He said that he had a lot to study for college and when his exams are over he would call me. We also took a cute picture together that night. After the party he never texted me, called me or spoke to me. I was so frustrated that I also stopped talking to him. He could at least say that he didn't want to go out with me anymore...or something..But he showed me so many signs that he likes me and then took it all back. Do you have any idea what has happened? You are going to ponder why for a long time since nobody can really give you an answer. This has happened to everyone many times its always that either they are not that interested, or the guy started seeing someone or just is not in a place to date right now
Author Kokoro Posted May 15, 2014 Author Posted May 15, 2014 You know I wish all this didn't happen...Why didn't everything just escalate normaly? I'v never been in a proper relationship either. I don't understand why things never work out for me ;/
ExpatInItaly Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 He either wasn't terribly interested in the first place or his interest simply started to fade. He could also have met someone else. Don't devote too much time to wondering why it all happened. Dust yourself off and get back out there. Plenty of other guys around! 2
Dallers Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 After this happens a few times you start to actually recognise the signs. People can be very frustrating as most of us are normal functioning human beings while some either think they are doing you a favour by bulls*itting you instead of having the guts to tell you straight how it is or they like to play games or keep you as a backup. The above posters are right it is a clear sign that he is not interested and didn't want to make that clear so he acted like the imaginary nice guy posing for a photo and making you feel very small when he didn't show any interest again. It is hard, it hurts, but it is going to happen to you more than once in your life. Try not to dwell on it and waste time and get your focus back on your own life. 2
WeirdChick Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 (edited) @kokoro Maybe you are just a high maintenance girl - and he wanted to save himself the trouble. Im guessing since you didnt bother use any paragraph to ease the reading, or say thanks to people who made through your whole sorry story. Edited May 15, 2014 by WeirdChick 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 This one is very simple. He changed his mind. What don't you understand? I understand it sucks that he doesn't feel the same way about you or wants to pursue things further with you but that's just how it goes. It's called D.A.T.I.N.G. and everyone, EVERYONE goes through this at some point in their lives.
Author Kokoro Posted May 15, 2014 Author Posted May 15, 2014 @kokoro Maybe you are just a high maintenance girl - and he wanted to save himself the trouble. Im guessing since you didnt bother use any paragraph to ease the reading, or say thanks to people who made through your whole sorry story. No, I am no high maintenance girl, I'm just a normal girl with a broken heart Thank you for your reply and sorry for not using a paragraph. 1
Author Kokoro Posted May 15, 2014 Author Posted May 15, 2014 This one is very simple. He changed his mind. What don't you understand? I understand it sucks that he doesn't feel the same way about you or wants to pursue things further with you but that's just how it goes. It's called D.A.T.I.N.G. and everyone, EVERYONE goes through this at some point in their lives. Alright don't kill me ;p It's not like I've been dating guys for a long time. I'm still young. It's just that his behaviour confused and disappointed me very much. Thank you for replying. 1
Author Kokoro Posted May 15, 2014 Author Posted May 15, 2014 Thank you all for replying..although some answers made me feel even worse..but I guess..I wasn't good enough for him in the first place..
WeirdChick Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 Thank you all for replying..although some answers made me feel even worse..but I guess..I wasn't good enough for him in the first place.. We all have our hearts broken at some point. Don't beat yourself down. You are good enough, maybe you were not meant for each other. See from another viewpoint, now you are free to meet someone who deserves you and is really into you.
Author Kokoro Posted May 16, 2014 Author Posted May 16, 2014 We all have our hearts broken at some point. Don't beat yourself down. You are good enough, maybe you were not meant for each other. See from another viewpoint, now you are free to meet someone who deserves you and is really into you. I really hope so. Thank you so much for your support ^^
Assasda Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 I dont understand all this worrying, and you haven't even contacted him. You keep waiting on him, but why dont you call him to ask him what is up? Its probably late though, because, I'd move on if I were him
rns4lyfe Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 Just give him a call and tell him how you feel and ask if he's still interested. You should have your answer then and it should put your mind at ease.
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