Atticus9292012 Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 Are women out at a bar by themselves more approachable or less approachable? Men go out alone all the time and I think nothing of it. Do guys have opinions either way about women out alone?
Assasda Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 Women are rarely..... Rarely ..........................Rarely out alone. And if I see one out alone, I would definitely try to talk to her, because I know she's confident enough to be out alone, and can take care of her own self. Emotionally independent basically.
Kansas87 Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 Really? That surprises me. I always think if I go out alone I just look like a desperate friendless loser...
Potz4prez Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 What he said. If anything, women by themselves stick out and draw attention because they're obviously not like every other girl in that bar, and it peaks my curiosity. Also, makes the approach easier when you don't have to worry about butting in a conversation with her gal pals. Just be safe. 1
luvshaq Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 I can't speak for women, but sometimes people want to go out without the someone trying to hit on them.
Omei Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 Im out alone often, I like to take books and read, sometimes ill sit in the bar with the daily paper they have placed out, I have always loved it when people try to talk to me.
d0nnivain Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 I have only ever gone to "strange" bars alone a few times in my life. It was almost always uncomfortable because inevitably some jerk would decide I was there because I wanted to get laid & it was his job to help me whether I wanted his company or not. Most bartenders were great about making these jerks back off but it was a bit scary. I have no problem going somewhere I worked or to the private club where DH & I belong because it's not as much of a meat market.
johnpatric Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 Well last year I was in eat Africa and I have noticed that many women go out alone in bars, clubs and pubs, and I have shown that most of them was coming to find company for them and some women just came over at bar and take their regular drinks and went back to home so its not a big think that women go out alone..
Emilia Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 I'm out alone often or get to a place before my friends do for a quiet drink until they turn up. Usually take something with me to read though, unless I know the staff that works in the place.
SadNLonley Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 Wow, I applaud you gals that do that!! I have this horrible fear of being alone either in a bar or dining out. Wont do it. Only once have I actually gone into a bar/restaurant alone to wait for a friend. Typically I will wait in the car until they show up. To me, Im afraid I look like a big LOSER all by myself.
Potz4prez Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 Wow, I applaud you gals that do that!! I have this horrible fear of being alone either in a bar or dining out. Wont do it. Only once have I actually gone into a bar/restaurant alone to wait for a friend. Typically I will wait in the car until they show up. To me, Im afraid I look like a big LOSER all by myself. How do you feel alone at home? I feel like to be comfortable going out alone you have to be comfortable with who you are. I always tell people to try traveling alone, or hell, just go to a concert alone. You'll learn a lot about yourself and meet some awesome people.
Omei Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 Wow, I applaud you gals that do that!! I have this horrible fear of being alone either in a bar or dining out. Wont do it. Only once have I actually gone into a bar/restaurant alone to wait for a friend. Typically I will wait in the car until they show up. To me, Im afraid I look like a big LOSER all by myself. Here's an amazing video about being alone!!! It just might make you see differently about being alone in public. Tbh everyone in public is thinking about them self more so than thinking about the people around them they don't look at you and wonder why you're alone, it's likely they don't even care.
Author Atticus9292012 Posted May 14, 2014 Author Posted May 14, 2014 Sometimes I go out alone. Its kind of nice to have the night be whatever you want to make it without anyone else to consider. Its almost always been a positive experience for me. Sometimes I make friends. One time I was at this wine bar and this large group invited me to sit with them. I declined at first but they insisted. I decided to sit with them and talk for a bit. They were all doctors and it was just very interesting conversation. It ended up being a really good time. Sometimes I just keep to myself. I just kind of wonder how its perceived when you're alone. I prefer to be with a friend. We're all so busy these days its nice to catch up, but being alone doesn't bother me at all. Interesting thoughts on the subject.
SadNLonley Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 How do you feel alone at home? To be honest, I like it sometimes, other times I dont. I'd much rather have a partner with me. I can shop by myself, I can go to the movies by myself, but dining/bars is another thing. I also am having a difficult time getting myself to go to a meetup because of walking in alone and being afraid no one will talk to me. I am realizing i need to face some of these fears in order to get through them.
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