bigtuna48 Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I know this girl is toxic, but I just want to hear what you have to say. I was talking to this girl for about a month. She was very flakey and not very attentive but she did flirt. Took her out on a date, thought it went well. Texted her the next day about it. Never received a response. Little bummed about it, so for closure, i sent her a message three to four days later and said.. “Hey, no hard feelings. I apologize for jumping the gun (realized i had kissed her a little too soon) and making you feel awkward. Best of luck to you. take care.” She immediately replied with “? um Sorry I didn’t text you right back? I had a really busy weekend and last day of school. but okay.” I already can tell what she’s trying to do here, taking the blame off of herself for never texting me back and making me look the crazy person. Am I right? I didn’t message her back. I am not feeding her any more ammo to knock me down.
Zahara Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 She immediately replied with “? um Sorry I didn’t text you right back? I had a really busy weekend and last day of school. but okay.”. I don't know if she is toxic just by that response. If you said off the bat she was unattentive and flakey, then it's not surprising it takes her days to respond. Another thing, it doesn't take but a few seconds to reply to a text. And by her response, she was in no rush to change your mind. Best not to reply. 1
Omei Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 She's a little snot lol yes that's what she's doing. I had a guy give me the same ummmmm okay like attitude when I did a closure text when they didnt reply for days as well. 1
giblesp Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I know this girl is toxic, but I just want to hear what you have to say. I was talking to this girl for about a month. She was very flakey and not very attentive but she did flirt. Took her out on a date, thought it went well. Texted her the next day about it. Never received a response. Little bummed about it, so for closure, i sent her a message three to four days later and said.. “Hey, no hard feelings. I apologize for jumping the gun (realized i had kissed her a little too soon) and making you feel awkward. Best of luck to you. take care.” She immediately replied with “? um Sorry I didn’t text you right back? I had a really busy weekend and last day of school. but okay.” I already can tell what she’s trying to do here, taking the blame off of herself for never texting me back and making me look the crazy person. Am I right? I didn’t message her back. I am not feeding her any more ammo to knock me down. You're in the right. You gave her a few days to reply to your text, which was a few days longer than necessary. She'd text you back on the day if she was worth your time. Then you ended it like a gent. Stick to your decision, it was a good one. 3
TylerDurdenn Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 You're in the right. You gave her a few days to reply to your text, which was a few days longer than necessary. She'd text you back on the day if she was worth your time. Then you ended it like a gent. Stick to your decision, it was a good one. Pretty much this.
starrynightz45 Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 3-4 days is MORE than enough time for her to respond. Your response was great, drop her. 1
Author bigtuna48 Posted May 14, 2014 Author Posted May 14, 2014 Thanks guys! I was hoping for responses like these haha. Felt like a gent with what I had said. Hope she feels like an idiot.
HappyLove Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 She sure didn't go out of her way to change your mind either! Best to move on to someone who's into you! 1
Joaquin Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 If you think she is toxic I can't imagine what you'd call a girl that actually did something wrong, like cheat on you or over cook dinner. She just wasn't interested, and that's not a crime. 2
Author bigtuna48 Posted May 14, 2014 Author Posted May 14, 2014 I understand its not a crime to be disinterested, but it sure is an ******* move to ignore me. I understand it happens all the time but if I'm not interested in a girl, I'll tell them instead of beating around the bush. I'll be honest, and I'd like the same in return. But not everyone is perfect. I am much older than her as well, so I guess I treat situations like this with much more respect for the other person. Regardless, she was toxic to me because it's all I was thinking about. Sending her the closure text took the weight off my shoulders and her response showed me what kind of a person she is. Putting the blame on me? Screw that. 1
Author bigtuna48 Posted May 14, 2014 Author Posted May 14, 2014 Appropriate response, you didn't come off as needy either so bonus points. Four days is plenty of time to text someone back that you're interested in. She knew what she was doing, and I'm about 95% sure she was turning it back on you the way you thought. And hell, even if she wasn't and was actually that busy...shows where she's likely to put her priorities when she gets busy. I'm sort of a believer in the whole "if you're too busy to date then you probably shouldn't be dating" thing. Gratz OP. Thank you! She definitely knew what she was doing. Maybe she feels like the ass now since I never responded to her.
mrnova66 Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 I know this girl is toxic, but I just want to hear what you have to say. I was talking to this girl for about a month. She was very flakey and not very attentive but she did flirt. Took her out on a date, thought it went well. Texted her the next day about it. Never received a response. Little bummed about it, so for closure, i sent her a message three to four days later and said.. “Hey, no hard feelings. I apologize for jumping the gun (realized i had kissed her a little too soon) and making you feel awkward. Best of luck to you. take care.” She immediately replied with “? um Sorry I didn’t text you right back? I had a really busy weekend and last day of school. but okay.” I already can tell what she’s trying to do here, taking the blame off of herself for never texting me back and making me look the crazy person. Am I right? I didn’t message her back. I am not feeding her any more ammo to knock me down. I say let her go. I am 48 years old and I took a woman out about a month ago after texting each other on face book. We did this on face book for 2 months. Well I was the one that started 99% of the conversation on face book. And I call her anout 6 times on the phone. Not one from her. Then I took her out 2 times. Nothing in return on phone calls or facebook. Well 2 weeks has went by and I do not do face book no more. Also. Looking back I should have never took her out. A friendship is a two way street. Not a one way street. When one is dong all the work then it is time to let go. When you get older you have no time to waste on players. If you cannot be friends then you cannot have a relationship with that person.
mrnova66 Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 I just want to add. If you took her out say two times and you did not hear from her in 2 to 3 days then it is time to move on. I do not text no woman that I take out the next day. If I do not hear from them in 2 to 3 days then it is time to move on. Why waste your time with someone that cannot pick up the phone and say I had a good time. At least them show they are interested.
saltyfishhead666 Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 I know this girl is toxic, but I just want to hear what you have to say. I was talking to this girl for about a month. She was very flakey and not very attentive but she did flirt. Took her out on a date, thought it went well. Texted her the next day about it. Never received a response. Little bummed about it, so for closure, i sent her a message three to four days later and said.. “Hey, no hard feelings. I apologize for jumping the gun (realized i had kissed her a little too soon) and making you feel awkward. Best of luck to you. take care.” She immediately replied with “? um Sorry I didn’t text you right back? I had a really busy weekend and last day of school. but okay.” I already can tell what she’s trying to do here, taking the blame off of herself for never texting me back and making me look the crazy person. Am I right? I didn’t message her back. I am not feeding her any more ammo to knock me down. Why did you even bother to create a thread about this? You went on a date, you text her, she didn't reply until you text her again days later - she said sorry and okay. I didn't see any blame shifting, she didn't point her finger at you and say "you, you pushed it too far" You didn't need closure it's 1 flipping date. Slow your role and quit pointing the finger. She wasn't THAT into you. It's no reflection on you, it happens. It doesn't make her toxic. Ignorant? Sure I hate flakes but not toxic. Bit bloody extreme
Author bigtuna48 Posted May 14, 2014 Author Posted May 14, 2014 Why did you even bother to create a thread about this? You went on a date, you text her, she didn't reply until you text her again days later - she said sorry and okay. I didn't see any blame shifting, she didn't point her finger at you and say "you, you pushed it too far" You didn't need closure it's 1 flipping date. Slow your role and quit pointing the finger. She wasn't THAT into you. It's no reflection on you, it happens. It doesn't make her toxic. Ignorant? Sure I hate flakes but not toxic. Bit bloody extreme There were mores dates than this...
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