moosegreen Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 Been hanging out with this girl for the past couple of weeks and its been great. We met online and talked for a while, met up and went back to her place on the first date. So far we've done pretty much everything couples do, and shes told me stuff about her that she says only a few people know about up here ( she's not from where im from and shes turned her life around)....anyway ... she really likes me amd loves spending time with me but says shes not ready/ afraid to commit. She just got out of a relationship a couple months back and wants to talk to other guys witch she dos....right infront of me she'll text other dudes from pof.... She did say she dosint want to lose me and she really likes what we got goin on right now and jokingly said she dosint want me talkin to other girls My question is is she worth investing my time into....shes actually really honest, wants to cook for me and is a pretty good lay haha but I am lookin for something more serious....I dont want to pressure her into a relationship cuz nothing good comes from that but I dont really want to play this lap dog role where I kinda do whatever she wants ...but at the same time want to remain kinda cool about it
mammasita Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 Nope. Waste of your time if you're looking for commitment. It's all in your face, literally. What more do you need? 1
PegNosePete Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 wants to talk to other guys witch she dos....right infront of me she'll text other dudes from pof.... Wow, you write that and then even need to ask this question?! She has no respect for you. Even if she doesn't want to commit it is just downright rude and disrespectful to act this way. What do you think would happen if you talked to other girls like that in front of her? I guarantee you'd be dumped so fast you'd have whiplash.
bubbaganoosh Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 Just for the hell of it, when your with her and she starts texting with some guy, wheel out your phone and do the same thing and text a girl you know only if to just say hi. If she starts in on you about it, then tell her that one good turn deserves another and walk out. IMO, she's a waste of time.
ktya Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 Im in the same boat as she is. Got out of 17 years of relationships and while I dont do one night stands I'm not looking for someone to lock me down either (well one of the girls I'm dating could lock me down any day lol but thats another story). Its called casual dating and she is obviously into multi-dating (as I am) right now. While texting guys from POF right in front of you is crass, she is being dead to rights honest. If you think she's a good lay and you like her, keep dating her and sexing her up. But she's casually dating you so get out and date other girls too. When this girl wants to settle down with one guy or you find a girl you like that does, choose your path. In the meantime, have fun with it. Keep dating.
Charlie Harper Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 Evryone get so pissed if they are not the centre of the universe… take a chill pill. Also people get really mad when they don't know the "rules" or circumstances, this woman has told de O.P. t the situation she is in, that she is not into a commitment drama..SHE WAS HONEST. If she was a total liar, the O.P. would be clueless and would think she is in the path to something serious, TONS OF PEOPLE complain of the lack of integrity and honesty….and now she is lambasted because she said the truth??? HOLY SMOKES. If you want to get into her be honest yourself and tell her (after sex is a good moment) that you find he attractive/interesting/inteligent and a potential for a more serious thing and YOU KNOW she is not into it, that you acknowledge that and you are willing to give her space, time to heal her fears…. See? be honest yourself and let things get straightened out...
d0nnivain Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 If you enjoy hanging out with her, nothing is stopping you from doing that. However, you must realize that she is not interested in anying serious. I find it kind of rude that she's texting other guys from POF while you are right there. Based on that alone you can't invest emotionally in her.
Mrin Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 She's FWB material at best. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to commit or be exclusive but chatting with POF dudes in front of you - only thing she's good for is a FWB or just a friend. Which isn't always a bad thing you know.
Author moosegreen Posted May 12, 2014 Author Posted May 12, 2014 Thanks for the relpys just nice to talk about it and hear other peoples opinion....wether they are hostle or not haha
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