rdons1 Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 Dated her for 6 months then the last 2 months we were on and off but she just ended it for good 5 days ago. The first couple days were agonizing I could not top thinking about her and was constantly upset, crying, and scheming on how to get her back. These last 2 days though my feelings have completely changed. I obviously miss her and still love her but I really don't care that much about the breakup and I feel fine. I thought I would feel crappy for months so im surprised that for the most part I don't care that much anymore. Is this normal?
BaselineLeaner Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 This is how I felt as first. We dated 4 years and she started going on dates a week later so it pissed me off to the point where I didn't care. Now it seems to be strong harder and missing her more, I am however staying no contact and working on myself. If there is a reason that she pissed you up during or after the breakup it is usually easier. Good luck!
Zing Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 I was similar at the beginning but I found that the feelings come in waves. At first I could go a few days and be fine then I'd think about something and a wave of emotion would knock me on my ass for a few days. Eventually the waves lessen in intensity and frequency. Not saying this is how it will be for you, maybe you're just better at moving on, but thats what I found.
Strength in Healing Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 Yeah, get ready for the pain. You hit the shock stage right now. Ah, how I miss the shock stage.
cavalier99 Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 Dated her for 6 months then the last 2 months we were on and off but she just ended it for good 5 days ago. The first couple days were agonizing I could not top thinking about her and was constantly upset, crying, and scheming on how to get her back. These last 2 days though my feelings have completely changed. I obviously miss her and still love her but I really don't care that much about the breakup and I feel fine. I thought I would feel crappy for months so im surprised that for the most part I don't care that much anymore. Is this normal? Got me?? It took me a good 7 months of pure NC to get over a 8 year RS. So i guess it is possible for a 6 month RS. Then again if you really loved her i dont think time makes that much difference. Sometimes shorter RS's can be difficult to recover from. There is so much excitement and looking foward to things. I hope your semi indifference it the real deal. if it isnt just stay NC until your over it. Cav
ahthepain Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 I hope you are over her already, however as Strength said Get ready for the shock phase to end and pain set in. If you do start feeling really bad don't worry, it's normal and just try not to break NC or do anything crazy (a little like I did). It won't help in the long run. Just post on here if you are feeling down.
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